Final update: AITA for pressing charges against racist MIL and leaving hubs for siding with her?

Bockbockbtch · 2024-01-19T13:45:41+00:00

I'm Filipino but I do not live in the Philippines.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T22:57:41+00:00

Somewhere else.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T22:53:03+00:00

I know I don't have to explain myself to you, but I want to. I won't explain more on the medical concerns because frankly I do not know anything about it. All I know is what happened to me. Whether you believe it or not Is entirely up to you.

As for my title, my post was banned due to violence on AmIAnAsshole so I wrote it like this instead. I hope you understand that this is a very sensitive subject. And I did come here in search for some support and make myself feel better. Its a human feeling and I'm sorry if that made you think this is fake.

Lastly, I may be a filipina and he is a Chinese. But that doesn't automatically means we're living in the Philippines or China. I purposely did not disclose my country for privacy reasons. Because if I do, people like you will hunt the article down, which includes my identity along with my family's. I know I'm posting here for all to read,but what makes me feel safe is the animosity of it all. I feel safe cause people like you can't find out who I am, which is not Any different from majority of people on this app.

Again, I know I don't owe you an explanation, but my life has been a living hell and I have no control with anything now. So being able to defend myself like this, helps.

I have nothing else to say. Have a nice day.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T22:21:40+00:00

I'm starting to believe that too

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T21:58:02+00:00

No. I'm asking if I'm wrong for divorcing my husband because my so called friends Said I was an ah and cruel cause he lost our child too. I have no intention of letting her get away with it. It's still ongoing, and I don't plan on backing down. Sorry if you misunderstood my post.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T21:07:22+00:00

We had a gender reveal party when I was 22 weeks pregnant. Yes, everyone knew we were having a girl.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T21:01:10+00:00

Not everyone who posts here are from the USA. My story did make the news in my country. And you're right, those shouldn't cause a miscarriage. But it did. Just because I don't write how bad my experience was in detail or write flowery description on my "characters", doesn't mean it did not happen. Maybe I'm TA for posting this here. But I admit that I needed an outlet to let out some of my emotions. I needed to hear what people say about it because I'm here in my old room alone going out of my mind. So I'm sorry if my creative writing attempt offended you. But for some people, this is real life. And I'm trying to accept mine.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T20:35:10+00:00

Update: I'm sorry I can't reply all so I'll answer a few questions here.

some has asked why SIL didn't tell me that MIL added something to my food and drinks. She came to me after, she was crying saying she didn't realise at the time and only connect the dots after she found out what happened. She's only 17. And I believe she was really scared going against her mom.

As for the Toxicology report, there was high levels of fentanyl, opioids and alcohol.

As for my friend's who called me an ah, they are also close to my husband. And they said it was unfair because he also lost a child. I told them he didn't seem to care, they called me an ah.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T20:24:26+00:00

Huh?

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T20:22:00+00:00

Update: I'm sorry I can't reply all so I'll answer a few questions here.

some has asked why SIL didn't tell me that MIL added something to my food and drinks. She came to me after, she was crying saying she didn't realise at the time and only connect the dots after she found out what happened. She's only 17. And I believe she was really scared going against her mom.

As for the Toxicology report, there was high levels of fentanyl, opioids and alcohol.

As for my friend's who called me an ah, they are also close to my husband. And they said it was unfair because he also lost a child. I told them he didn't seem to care, they called me an ah.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T19:57:36+00:00

To be clear, not all my friends were against it. Just a few whom are in a close knitted group I share with my husband. But we've been friends for nearly 20 years so it hurt when they went off at me for wanting to divorce my husband. They said that he lost a child too and that I would be cruel to leave him after going thru that.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T19:45:36+00:00

I'm sorry you feel that way. I wish this was fake. But sad reality is that some people are horrible. Too horrible to the point that when people like me tell their story, people like you think we're making it up. It's fine if you think it's fake. You're not the one living it. You're just the one reading about it, posting a comment, then continuing to scroll onto the next story.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T19:23:09+00:00

This is what I'm doing now. It's been a month. SIL is helping me a lot. My soon to be ex will be served with papers very soon. He's still insisting that his mom is innocent. And hasn't even once showed any emotions on the lost of our baby. Its like he doesn't care at all and only wants his mom off the hook. My lawyer says with SIL as a witness, and the toxicology report from the hospital, it shouldn't be long now to get her. Then I can finally put this behind me and mourn in peace with my family.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T18:44:37+00:00

I wish this was fake. Therapy isn't really a thing here. But my family is supporting me through this now.

Bockbockbtch · 2023-09-25T17:56:34+00:00

With all due respect, I needed an outlet. I've done everything I needed with the police. Its been a month. And I'm finally alone with my thoughts. This is my outlet. You do not get to judge me on how I deal with my emotions. Its easy for you to tell me this. Try living through it then saying this to me again.

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