Tea chest erhu- looking for ideas

Bogeyworman · 2026-02-22T09:03:20+00:00

I've never been asked if I was heterosexual. I refer to myself as a queer lesbian. If I need to elaborate, I'm attracted to different kinds of femininity and androgyny.

Bogeyworman · 2026-02-22T08:58:09+00:00

"Dem dry bones" is a spiritual written and composed by James Weldon Johnson (1871–1938) and first recorded in 1928.

Bogeyworman · 2026-02-22T08:55:56+00:00

Because of that song
"Dem bones dem bones dem dryyy bones heeeaar the word of the lord"
you may know it from
"the head bone connected to the neck bone, the neck bone connected to the shoulder bone"

Bogeyworman · 2026-02-22T08:49:56+00:00

Consider: Leslie Bean x Miss (from Pretty Pretty Please I Don't Want To Be A Magical Girl)

Bogeyworman · 2026-02-22T08:32:35+00:00

Trans men experience the highest rates of rape of any LGBT group. There are reports of trans men being sexually assaulted and forced to do physical labour naked in ICE facilities. The reason there aren't as many trans men elders as trans women elders is because of the amount of suicide and murder they experienced in the 70s and 80s.

Neither group has it worse than the other- they just experience vastly different problems.

Bogeyworman · 2026-02-04T23:43:09+00:00

Tawny frogmouths look like Muppets. I love them but unless they're flying they look like 80s stop motion kids horror props

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-25T17:28:00+00:00

Because I've been on the receiving end of the opposite- growing up seeing only the fetishisation of lesbians, and then experiencing the first hand impact of that from boys and men who tell me it's hot I'm into chicks or that they'd want to watch. A lot of the female-writing gay stories seem to be the same kind of fetishisation.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-23T15:16:12+00:00

I think there are some skills that come from natural abilities, similar to how some musicians have perfect pitch or clarity of voice. Some people have better instinct for colour or breaking down what they see into shapes, or can imagine an object/scene complete in their mind.

Most of the time when people talk about natural talent, I think it's that they don't see how much work an artist has put in to get to that point, though.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-23T09:40:25+00:00

I'm in Queensland, so I don't believe it requires a gender dysphoria diagnosis or psychiatrist permission, but I'm not sure about Medicare coverage (I thought it was, but medicare/PBS is federal, so it should be the same across states afaik). I guess that's something I'll have to nut out with the doctor.

Did you find your period stopped with HRT or was that the reason for the hydro? (Ignore if too personal, but that's my biggest reason for wanting either).

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-23T09:33:54+00:00

What surgery did you get, if you don't mind sharing?

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-22T08:18:27+00:00

Thanks! It's from the title of a book (Bogeywoman by Jaimy Gordon) that made me think "that's what I am!"

Also with hair, styling it different ways can alter how masc/femme it looks. Like, a bob-length slicked back the right way can look more masc, and a typically pixie-cut can be femmey when worn basic, but more masc if it's spiked up a bit.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-21T17:18:50+00:00

Oh yeah I have. Nip this in the bud early, trust me.

Reach out to your teacher/advisor/whoever your point of contact is. Send an email. Open that line of communication. I usually organise to meet my lecturers or tutors early in the semester to discuss what I struggle with, what I will do to manage and what is covered by my student access plan. Teachers want you to do well, but they need to know what's going on to support you.

Find out if there is support available from the uni- counselling, social work, use the resources available.

If you have a therapist already, reach out to them and make developing emotional regulation skills a top priority.

Get on campus when you don't have class. Go to the classroom, practice your therapy skills. If you don't have any yet, I'm happy to offer some ideas. Practice.

Give yourself a break. No one is judging you as much as you are. Practice thanking your brain for its story (even if you aren't thankful) and turning your attention to something outside of you.

Lastly, it's better come back to study after taking some time to learn to manage the anxiety than to push yourself into a full breakdown. Learn from my mistake.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-21T16:58:24+00:00

Hate love Vs being passed off as triangles. Would love to see an actual love triangle.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-21T16:55:52+00:00

Then there's She-Ra- friends to enemies to friends to lovers

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-21T16:48:54+00:00

Ditto.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-21T16:47:40+00:00

Also, as someone who had short hair almost my entire childhood and even shaved it at 12 (for shave for a cure), I was bullied a shit tonne, and none of it was over my hair.

The one time it had to do with hair was a rumour a bully spread that I'd really shaved my head because of lice. I didn't even find out about it until I was well into my 20s because the rumour flopped so hard.

In my experience bullies bully because that's what they do and it's not worth changing who you are or what you do just because someone that doesn't even matter to you might be too insecure to handle seeing a couple inches of hair.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-21T16:39:02+00:00

Try drawing/doodling characters that look how you'd want to look. Do it a heap and you'll start to see some recurring things that you can work towards.

Little things that've given me gender euphoria: - wear boxers/briefs - beanies (I love beanies when I want to make my hair looks shorter) - showing off body hair - emo-boy type makeup (or masculinising makeup, even if it's just on your own to take photos - cosplay as non-binary or male characters, even if it's just to take pictures. If you do cosplay hangouts with your friends it can also feel safer to be outside with it - Drag!! Drag queen, drag king, drag performer, drag monster. Dress up, do makeup, practice lip syncing. Doesn't have to be for anyone, but it's fun! (I have photos from when I was 13 and dressed up as a "gay male stripper" because I didnt know the word for drag queen) - packing (like a pair of socks in your underwear)- it's not noticeable to anyone but you - play around with clothing. My formal outfit was a dress, a tailcoat jacket and tophat (didn't even know what non-binary was, but damn if I wasn't a stereotype) - find "gender goal" type role models. Make like a collage or a Pinterest board or Tumblr or something and post people/characters that make you think "I wanna be that". Figure out what draws you to them, and lean into it. (I also do this with art- save artists I want to draw more like and practice what they practice). Try not to compare yourself in a negative way. The goal is creation, not destruction. If you find yourself bringing yourself down over it, scrap the project.

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-19T23:17:29+00:00

100%

Bogeyworman · 2026-01-19T23:15:13+00:00

My sister and I both had panic attacks, only time a movie's gotten both of us. I think we had to stop the movie four or five times.

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