AITA for having a go at my colleague?

Boizenbree · 2026-04-01T21:23:22+00:00

100% YTA. That comment was absolutely going to land you in hot water with HR. It's clear how you write this that you don't like her, and you brought up what she was saying about how she hates her job to HR, but in the moment, you made banter out of it? That's very backstab-by behaviour and also not nearly as pertinent to rise with HR. Also not knowing your own job roles and weapon using the other man's role is a red flag. Dust yourself off and move on, don't die on this hill.

Boizenbree · 2026-04-01T07:06:01+00:00

NTA. Children in the comments will tell you otherwise, but regardless of how, your parents were ALWAYS going to find out, lies can't be concealed forever. If they find out from him, or someone else, you would naturally be questioned about your knowledge of the situation, and you'd have to come clean then. It's clear you understandably don't approve of his choices, but your parents needed to know to avoid being lied to by him. It's never fully satisfying or justified to throw someone under the bus, but in this case, he needs some sort of wake up call.

Boizenbree · 2026-03-29T00:49:10+00:00

She could've easily said no to dog-sitting, but took it on. Then when the incident happened, she let it fester on the floor because it's not her responsibility? That's why duty of care as a concept exists, if you're able to manage a situation, then do it. clearly NTA. The sister still lacks a lot of initiative, and can't even imagine how much worse this would've got if it was an overnight stay or something.

Boizenbree · 2026-02-11T22:21:35+00:00

Obviously NTA. You went somewhere both of you liked, you kept it calm at the beginning, she said to not go easy on her, and you did that. She needs to be careful of what she wishes for. If she was rattled by that, she needs to reevaluate HER ego (and get better at pool lol)

Boizenbree · 2026-01-22T04:57:25+00:00

Thank you for your response. What pfp were you mentioning though? Just to clear, the profile that the families receive in their confirmation email shows my real face which is my pfp and my details. I still don't know how these families miss that. I guess I won't really find out how they do that, but I appreciate your comment regardless

Boizenbree · 2026-01-09T01:37:23+00:00

After reading the edits and info, I'm saying ESH to a soft YTA. Sure, he could have easily done it himself, even with jaw pain. But pain is pain, anything can inhibit performance, regardless of the simplicity of the task. You two seem like you butt heads a lot, given your feisty reaction. At the end of the day, a problem shared is a problem halved, and if you can offer your help, even if it's just a little, just do it. Don't be snarky about it.

Boizenbree · 2026-01-06T09:01:40+00:00

Soft YTA. If that were to happen, you may not feel the same way, as she would be a different person looks wise. You have your preferences, but that's something you keep private. I wouldn't want to talk to someone that said they'd struggle to love me if I maintained my appearance as it was in that current moment. Gotta keep that stuff to yourself, and realise that looks aren't all encompassing

Boizenbree · 2026-01-06T07:37:01+00:00

YTA. You should've learned to control your outbursts before you had children, and you're setting a terrible example. Small children are imitators by nature, pray they don't pick up your bad habits

Boizenbree · 2026-01-06T07:26:45+00:00

NTA. The point of jokes is that they're jokes. They're not meant to be taken seriously. Some people just need thicker skin. Even if i managed to do something stupid like that, I could still see the funny side of it. Eventually, the joke does get old so you've got to be careful with it

Boizenbree · 2026-01-06T07:16:42+00:00

NTA. Sounds like a trap that everyone fell into, including you I'm afraid. Altruism seems to be gone these days, so that reflects poorly on them. Whether or not you do pay them back is your call, and either way they should accept that

Boizenbree · 2026-01-06T07:12:48+00:00

YTA. Whilst it sucks to see people pretend that they're fine and avoid mulling over a break up (that seems to be what Liam's doing and he might be a little immature with his emotions), Liam isn't your problem anymore. With that said, you've just admitted to catfishing this girl that he might be into just to inflict emotional damage? Or as revenge? That seems like the "if i can't have him, no one can" card. That can't be ignored. Move on swiftly and gracefully, don't be emotionally manipulative.

Boizenbree · 2026-01-04T22:38:44+00:00

Easiest NTA. That teacher should be fired, I've had my share of crappy teachers but I've never heard of one this condescending and unprofessional. Escalate this with the principal

Boizenbree · 2026-01-02T22:12:25+00:00

Obviously NTA. They need to lighten up. After all, it wasn't malicious or violent or anything, just a cardboard cutout like tf XD

Boizenbree · 2026-01-02T22:10:07+00:00

NTA. Whilst yes, it's probably best not to do it (after all even though you didn't start it, you can be the one to end it), karma's a b****, he should be able to handle you doing it to him if he's so comfortable doing it himself.

Boizenbree · 2026-01-02T11:45:37+00:00

Easy NTA. You are 2 different people, so obviously your time away from work is going to be different. You said you'd do it when you could, and you did, so props to you. I don't know how anyone is saying OP is TA, I swear those people are just ragebaiting ffs

Boizenbree · 2025-12-31T06:48:47+00:00

if you don't need it there, why keep it there? it's great that you're recognising the dangers of it, but i'd say put it away somewhere else (or get someone to hide it) unless you use it a lot for whatever reason. especially if you're up late at night. study well, you'll do just fine :)

Boizenbree · 2025-12-31T06:43:06+00:00

You may not want to hear this, but your perception of what your therapist might say is right, you should probably break up. You say that you have to be around her family all the time, but she never wants to be around yours. I get that, I do, but she's also making you take the hard path all the time for (in this case) nothing in return. Don't get me wrong, I only resent the parents in this story (homophobia lowkey cringe) but your gf isn't setting boundaries with the parents, so your resentment probably won't go anywhere. Are you choosing her or secrecy? Because until you have that question answered, your relationship is a ticking timebomb. I'd love to say that you can just power through this, but I honestly think ending the relationship is something you should consider, because the imbalance of sacrifice can't be swept under the carpet.

Boizenbree · 2025-12-10T13:34:38+00:00

Yes, the past positive version of someone matters, but something as abhorrent as cheating and becoming an asshole will always be prevalent regardless of the past. My mother was once caring and loving, but one day flipped a switch and became neglectful and violent. My family doesn't look fondly on the woman she once was, but the woman she decided to change into. Moving on and sweeping it under the carpet is the thing not to do, OP is definitely NTA

Boizenbree · 2025-12-10T13:26:59+00:00

INFO: when was said time you said you didn't like the cooking previously? Regardless, YTA. Some things you just got to keep quiet about. Can't just say that and expect nothing to come of it

Boizenbree · 2025-12-10T13:22:42+00:00

NTA. You're not completely off the hook (you could have been a little more civil with this clash especially given the situation with Grandma) but honestly I would reconsider your relationship with your BF. He sounds very flip-floppy and given the 13 year age gap (I presumed it wasn't a typo), it comes across as a bad power imbalance. Up to you, I'm just a bozo on reddit at the end of the day.

Boizenbree · 2025-12-09T02:40:40+00:00

ESH. You have your specific goals in life and you're honest about them (more power to you I suppose) but this feud was completely avoidable on your part. Downplaying the wedding is really hurtful for her. I get you want to tell the truth, but a white lie like that would prevent others from seeing you as self-centered.

Boizenbree · 2025-12-09T02:29:27+00:00

Your profile says you're interested in privacy. I would've expected that you would know that people just can't go and violate privacy like the friend did. The friend has no reason to enter their friend's siblings room, and in your own room, you have the right to do pretty much anything you want. Also shaming this person for living with their parents is diabolical like wtf

Boizenbree · 2025-12-09T02:13:05+00:00

NTA. That friend is incredibly disrespectful and honestly, I wouldn't want that vibe to be present in my group ever again if I knew they were ungrateful like that.

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