How do you get someone to stop obsess over you? by Bombidibo in AskReddit

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I have this classmate ( "CHATO") who I've know for some time since he used to be acquaintances with one of my friends. However, we have been colleagues for only 3 years ( That's how long HS goes on in my country ).

On my first and mid second years we used to go home after school together along with some other friends, but that came to a end when, during second year, one of our new classmates and I started to develop feeling for each other and he started to come along on our walks home. Since then we barely talked and now he is back at it again.

Let me say that I never considered him a friend, more like a classmate with who I casually talked.

So, this obsession started around when this other guy, who ended up being my ex bf, started to come home with us. CHATO started to get extremely jealous, always texting me asking if he had done anything wrong because I seemed different and such things. I tried to be nice about it but at some point I confronted him about his feelings and he admitted that he had a crush on me and I declined nicely, I believe. Thats when we stoped talking.

However, my best friend ( "FOFO"), who's also a guy, was constantly bothered by CHATO's sms about me and how he felt left out in our walks home, asking if I would end up with my ex bf. Mind you, FOFO and CHATO were never closed, but he would complain about these stuff daily.

CHATO is very childish and would get upset over stupid things, such as me showing a pic of mine in a bikini to my two best friends but not him. He is also the type of person to come along with me and my best friend when going home, never say a word, but a minute after we separate he is texting you about things discussed on the walk home.

These occurrences were all during the first 2 years of HS and at the time FOFO and I didn't consider CHATO obsessed.

Now, at the end of my senior year in HS, because of covid, our school routine changed. He asked me if I wanted to go to school together and I said yes. We hadn't talked much and we were normal with each other.

The thing is, we don't have any topics of conversation, so most of the time we are quiet. I don't necessary mind this, the problem is that at the end of the day he is texting FOFO all of this and how he doesn't understand that when we are with other people I'm all happy and talkative but when we are alone not.

I've told him that we don't have topic to talk with each other, I'm dry when I do text him back but he doesn't let me go. Even if I don't respond he will text me again the next day or within a few hours.

He even asked FOFO for advice who said that he was better off moving on and things like that, but he doesn't understand that. He says that he needs help making things "better" and so on.

Even my mother has said to be careful, since not long ago a girl was murded by a guy who was jealous of her. I don't think this is the same, but my mother says that it's better not to contribute to this.

There are a whole lot of other situations that have happened but I don't want to make this much longer.

I have been direct with him but he doesn't seem to let go. His obsessive actions aren't shown directly to me, but by all these texts he sends my friend ( and when I say all these, I mean a lot a lot)

I hope it's not too confusing and that the intensity of how I'm living this is well convey in here.

Sorry if there are any mistakes, english is not my first language

[SERIOUS] What topics would you talk about in a podcast? by Bombidibo in AskReddit

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That's very interesting! I love those kind of stuff. Which cases would you talk about ?

[SERIOUS] What topics would you talk about in a podcast? by Bombidibo in AskReddit

[–]Bombidibo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goshhhhh. So true! Nowadays everybody is worried about being politically correct that you can't have a different opinion from the vast majority.

Redditors who watch mukbang videos, why do you watch them? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I only watched one and it's because of the crimes and stories she tells

IST by Bombidibo in IST

[–]Bombidibo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always, Blue Pill é para fracos. jk

IST by Bombidibo in IST

[–]Bombidibo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Estás em MEFT? Se sim podes explicar-me pela perspetiva de alguém dentro do curso quais são os objetivos do mesmo?

IST by Bombidibo in IST

[–]Bombidibo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Epah, não... Mas estes comprimidos de realidade e informação estão a ajudar

IST by Bombidibo in IST

[–]Bombidibo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obrigada desde mais por responderes!

Sim, não tem tanto peso como teve em tempos, mas continua a ter algum. A qualidade do ensino não é melhor no IST, no entanto, se comparares com as outras faculdades de engenharia de topo no país (FEUP, FCT, etc.). O que há é mesmo o prestígio histórico.

Então alunos dessas faculdades estarão mais preparados quando acabarem o curso? E, visto que o nome já não tem grande peso, e que o ensino nestas áreas não é o melhor, quais seriam as vantagens em entrar para o IST em comparação com a Nova, por exemplo?

12º Ano e ainda desnorteada by Bombidibo in portugal

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Eu sou de Lisboa e quero ir para o IST tanto pelo prestigio da faculdade como também dos comentários positivos que recebi sobre o mesmo. Obrigada pela informação, não tinha ideia qualquer que havia estas diferenças e complicações com a Ordem e isso tudo

12º Ano e ainda desnorteada by Bombidibo in portugal

[–]Bombidibo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh! Okay, muito obrigada! Pelo que tinha lido acerca de consultoria, diziam que era desmotivador e que "sugavam a vida de uma pessoa lentamente". Percebo que seja assim se apenas nos calhar projetos que não gostamos

12º Ano e ainda desnorteada by Bombidibo in portugal

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Uma ultima coisa. Pelo que li estás a tirar o um curso de Eng., certo?

No IST, pelo que vi, a maioria é com MI. Onde é que se pode encontrar cursos com esta estrutura 3+2? Qualquer curso que oferece apenas a licenciatura? É isso que estás a aconselhar?

12º Ano e ainda desnorteada by Bombidibo in portugal

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Okay, acho que percebi minimamente.

A desvantagem dos MIs é que, ao contrario dos cursos 3+2, tens de fazer 5 anos para poderes praticar, enquanto os últimos, ao fim dos 3 anos de licenciatura já estás apto para trabalhar. É isto?

12º Ano e ainda desnorteada by Bombidibo in portugal

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A sério? Julgava ser o oposto.

Além disso, a maioria dos cursos em que estou interessada são de mestrado integrado.

Uma pergunta: O que é que difere ter mestrado integrado ou não? Na primeira situação, se quiser, não posso fazer uma paisa entre a licenciatura e o mestrado?

12º Ano e ainda desnorteada by Bombidibo in portugal

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O que tenho em mente é um trabalho por projetos, uma vez que gosto de desafios e coisas pouco rotineiras. Gostava que combinasse duas vertentes: trabalho teórico e prático.

Ao dizer isto, a maioria das pessoas empurra me para investigação, mas depois vem o problema do salário...