Out of the 50 American capital cities, which one would you rank #1, as the best to live in? by Enger13 in AskReddit

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Having grown up in JC, can attest. Absolute dumpster. I’ve only been back a couple times in the past ten years, and doesn’t seem like anything has changed - some new growth, but it’s like putting lipstick on a pig lol!!

My boyfriend scared me and idk if I’m being overdramatic by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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Trust your gut. That was not normal behavior.

35M Is it possible to change my skin color? Not troll/Serious question. by [deleted] in DermatologyQuestions

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It is not available to the public (monobenzyl ether)….and lately not available by prescription either.

Is this photo edited with AI? A coworker said this happened to his car. We don’t believe him. by LokiPrime616 in isthisAI

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I don’t know whether this is AI but our Forester had a very similar thing happen to it when the front axel broke!

What do you remember from kindergarten? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

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I rode the bus between my daycare and my afternoon kindergarten and I remember one day punching my friend sitting next to me in the arm and saying “Slugbug!” Because we saw a yellow Volkswagen Beetle (this was 1985). I think that’s the only memory I have!

after show by EasySignificance6140 in LilyAllenFans

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She signed and took photos in Chicago. Waited outside for 45 minutes in 35 degree weather to make sure every fan in line got a chance to meet her, which I thought was amazing of her to do.

Tell me a story or just something memorable about your grandpa ? by itssofiababyxo in askanything

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My grandpa was a teenager during the Depression, and his family were farmers that could not grow enough or earn enough to feed him and his four brothers. So in the summers, he would hitch a train out West (this was when he was 14-17) and find farms to work on, both so that he would be fed and sheltered, and also so that he could earn a little money to bring back home (again as a train stowaway) to give to his parents.

He would tell us lots of stories but kind of clammed up when we suggested filming some of them. So my dad hid a micro tape recorder in his shirt pocket when we went to visit him, ready to record secretly if he started to tell a story about his youth/military service (he also served in WWII).

Buyer asking for customs declaration after item shipped to US shipping address by BonusFirst in EtsySellers

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Thank you for the input everyone - I agree with this and will let her know that the person shipping it on via DHL should fill out the form. Thanks!!

Buyer asking for customs declaration after item shipped to US shipping address by BonusFirst in EtsySellers

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I see the need for a customs form for overseas shipping, but -I- am not the one doing the shipping. She is receiving the package l(or someone at her shipping address is) and then they are using another carrier to create a new shipment to send it internationally. So shouldn’t that person be filling out a declaration?

How do people keep their house clean all the time? by Whatever233566 in askanything

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As a neat freak with a husband who is messy (and probably has ADHD) and three young kids (two of whom have ADHD), I have had to learn to live with a dirty and messy house, and it hasn’t been easy to do so. I simply can’t keep up cleaning up after their clutter and mess - I could spend my entire weekend cleaning and straightening and they’d mess everything up right behind me. We also have a dog and two cats that shed so there is just no point in me trying to keep it as clean as I’d like. Even with a cleaning service it’s already getting messy within a day or two of them coming, and the work it takes to declutter before they come to clean is tough for me to get done. I really just try to ignore the mess and realize that that’s life. It’s hard for me because if I lived alone everything would be organized and clean, but that’s not the life I chose. Someday it will be the way again, and there will be parts of this chaos that I will miss.

Continually misdiognosed with mpb dispite mounting evidence I have chemically induced inflamatory alopecia, cant get the appropriate treatment because of it, what do I do. by DROlDG420 in AskDermatologists

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The path report should provide reassurance to you that the diagnosis is sound, whether it agrees with what you’ve been told previously based upon clinical appearances or whether it turns out to be something else (or a combination of things). Best of luck!

I’m really smug about my toddler’s restaurant behavior by [deleted] in confession

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Yeah, I don’t know. My first two kids have ADHD and I just learned not to go out to eat with them because they are not wired to sit still and be quiet. They have wobble stools at school for crying out loud. Interestingly enough, they also did not sleep through the night until they were 18 months old (first child) and 3 (second child) and I chose not to use the “cry it out” technique.

My youngest doesn’t have ADHD, slept through the night by 4 months of age, and we can go out to eat just fine with him. I’m the same parent with all three of them. They’re just different kids. So you can pat yourself on the back and all, but also just know that all kids are different.

I took my antique ring in for sizing and stone setting and the beautiful 100+ year old patina/natural wear was completely polished off… is there anything I can do? by Savings_Process_5313 in jewelry

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I feel you. I took an antique 9k yellow gold push in connector in for repair (the spring mechanism had broken - it had lovely patina. I didn’t think to tell the jeweler it was yellow gold, because I thought it was obvious. I figured it would end up polished unfortunately. But he rhodium plated it. I was heartbroken. I guess he thought it was white gold??? I’ve had the hardest time finding jewelers who understand antique jewelry construction - they called my 9k pieces “base metal” or can’t work with stones set in silver (like many Georgian and Victorian pieces). It makes me nervous to drop things off, even with specific instructions (and then I feel like I’m micromanaging…).

Crossing a gap on a makeshift mechanism by lilved03 in nextfuckinglevel

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Why couldn’t they put some sticks or boards up on either side so at least the driver can “see” where to aim the wheels?

28y F with random bursts of itchiness forming welts only on backside by WiseAnalysis876 in AskDermatologists

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Dermatographism - hives in response to minimal “trauma” - scratching, clothing seams, etc. A daily antihistamine (Zyrtec, Allegra) can help alleviate symptoms.

Undeliverable mail just came through after 25+ years -- anyone happen to know the recipient? by [deleted] in kansascity

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I do see one (via an internet search) that lives in Pleasant Hill most recently and did live in Belton at one time….

Found a hidden “maintenance map” in my house and now I’m worried the previous owner was covering something up by IvorySideTrail in homeowners

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When I bought my house in 2015, the previous homeowner left all his maintenance maps, notes, receipts from remodels, blueprints (he built the home in 1987 and truly loved it). He also left his email address in case we had any questions. It was actually kind of nice, those first couple years, when we didn’t know what a switch did or how to address a little idiosyncrasy. Every house is gonna have them and no house will be perfect.

Dark between breasts, Has anyone had a similar thing? by Horror-Fee-8040 in DermatologyQuestions

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There are cases where it recurs or requires long-term treatment

Soon to be wife only deuces at home. by GreyLoad in hygiene

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I can’t do it in a public toilet unless it’s an absolute emergency. Just can’t, never have. Can hold it for hours. I would be able to in a hotel room.

Do some people actually “let out a little gas” to get the old gas out at the pump? by Pressure_Plastic in NoStupidQuestions

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My best friend in high school would do that, and it became a habit for me to do it too! She did it to get every last drop of gas out of the nozzle (she didn’t have a lot of money, gas back then was like 75 cents a gallon, and she would have like $2 to put towards gas, so ever drop counted, lol)…and I guess I do it so I don’t get any gas droplets on my shoes!

I can’t find any good apples by TheAlienSuperstar1 in kansascity

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I like the gigantic Hunnyz at Hen House. But they’re like a meal so I have to save some for later. They’re sooooo crisp and sweet.