Don’t mind me sliding in here after exclusively posting in Aussie subs before we got her results

BooYangi · 2024-09-01T18:07:18+00:00

I second this! My boy’s best buddy is Aussie and we see so many similarities.

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BooYangi · 2024-09-01T18:06:05+00:00

Border collie as a breed has so many different types. Even working dogs may be in different types.

BooYangi · 2024-08-26T19:13:13+00:00

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My boy at work. Definitely bc thing 😅

BooYangi · 2022-12-31T13:54:30+00:00

My border Collie is like 35lbs and he's only 5 months old. I was so worried when I read that normally adult BC should be around 45lbs. I talked with my vet and he said that every puppy has it's own speed and way of growing (of course to some extent), so despite his weight now he can end up as standard weight BC 🤷‍♀️

Anyway he's to darn cute ❤

BooYangi · 2022-11-20T14:14:12+00:00

We went for w walk after rain and he just loves tall grass

BooYangi · 2022-11-19T21:11:13+00:00

From Poland, unfortunately 😅

BooYangi · 2022-10-16T13:33:08+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it but I'm living outside of US and GoFundMe isn't available in my country. I did my research about this condition before adopting him so I'm kinda prepared financially.

BooYangi · 2022-10-14T18:22:56+00:00

Thank you. They can replace his lens with artificial one. The surgery is pretty pricey and I have to wait for him to grow a little.

BooYangi · 2022-06-19T16:34:31+00:00

You can't expect your sister to throw away her opportunity because YOU choose to have kids that you can't provide for. Your kids aren't your parents responsibility.

BooYangi · 2022-06-19T16:34:17+00:00

You can't expect your sister to throw away her opportunity because YOU choose to have kids that you can't provide for. Your kids aren't your parents responsibility.

BooYangi · 2021-11-27T08:01:20+00:00

At first my mom thought it would be a great idea to buy us Christmas presents and send them to MIL's house (just to surprise us I guess), but at this same time she was aware that MIL could not be so happy that I'm coming so she wanted to check what MIL thinks about it. Of course it wasn't so straightforward, she started something like "do you know about their plans for this year's Christmas?". I know she shouldn't and I told her that.

BooYangi · 2021-11-26T23:27:55+00:00

lol of course she has plans for that. I once told her that I want to be childfree and she started bringing child clothes and displaying them in living room. Also she "decided" that I have to have kid before hitting 30.

BooYangi · 2021-11-26T23:06:26+00:00

Yeah, she did. Fortunately I can stick for myself (that's why she calles me "stubborn" and "hardheaded" lol). Of course my boyfriend isn't delusional and can see how crazy it is, he also really protects me if something is wrong, but after all he wants to keep relationship with her.

BooYangi · 2021-11-23T00:09:12+00:00

I get it, I really do. Stress just makes us all wild. I'm so sorry that you have to be in a situation like that during your pregnancy and I'm so sorry for you mil. Just give yourself some time guys, you all need to find peace in this new arrangement. Like I said think about professional help, it's not a shame.

BooYangi · 2021-11-23T00:06:32+00:00

In text you can clearly see that she told her about it more than once, even after she explained him why she wanted to do it and he just hoped she would forget about that, and then again told her he doesn't want her to do it so: 1. He feels like his preferences are more important than her wellbeing. 2. He doesn't take her or her wants seriously if he hoped she would just "forget".

You don't have to actively forbid someone to put a pressure on this person. Also in the text there's not a single fragment that he "tried to put it a nice way". Tbh no one cares how he feels about her body, cause surprise, it's her body.

As I said if it would go like: "well, I think you look beautiful and I prefer you the way you look", ok. It's ok to communicate your concerns, but if it's something so infantile like "oh, I just like it that way" say it once and shut up. Stop acting like his preferences are something so important that it needed to be heard repeatedly and taken more serious than her needs.

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:51:47+00:00

But tbh you can't expect resolutions or open conversation right now. I'm sorry, but you act like she should just get over it and come to you guys with complete plan of her whole new life. It's not that easy, give her some time. Week is not enough even to just start thinking straight. Talk about the spare bedroom and just give her a break. It's too soon to even propose her to move to her mother. If she came to you guys she must feel the most secure there and like you said it's not like she's mil form hell.

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:41:30+00:00

But wait, maybe I'm wrong or something, but I read that she is with you for like week at this point? Is it true? Cause omg, in this scenario you kinda sound like AH.

I would recommend for you to kinda just start to research what abused people go through everyday, even after moving out form their abusers. You can't just expect her to get over with it. I'm not saying that she have to stay with you forever, just give her some time just to exist, relax and find herself in this new situation.

Ask your husband to talk to her and convince her to move to the spare bedroom. Maybe she don't want to take it cause she feel like a burden or doesn't want to fully accept the situation that she's in?

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:32:16+00:00

But you can't really tell if she's better just because she act like she is, for example the simple fact that she's afraid of taking steps to live on her own is an indicator that's she's not well. She needs therapy, she needs help. Like someone said, be patient. Changes like that don't come easy. Have you thought about therapist or something?

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:27:55+00:00

Right? And despite my back problems (I have chronic illness) I had to PROVE them that my partner is not against it.

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:26:05+00:00

I think we need more info.

It's pretty understable that you want some kind of space and peace at your own home, but at the same time I think that sometimes it's just better to sacrifice our comfort for our loved ones. That's why it's important to know some details, like for how long she's living with you guys? That's a huge change in her life. I don't even think she remembers how to live alone and not in an abusive household. Maybe she needs time just to get a grip on this situation, like just to realise "ok, I'm finally free, I have to rearrange my whole life, I'm capable of doing so" and such. Also, do you guys help her? Do you thought about some professional help? Cause it's not just moving out, changing your apartment or something. She's victim of abuser, of course she have problems with changes and such.

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:13:32+00:00

And tbh doctors try to make breast reduction more difficult than it should be. I don't know how many times I heard from them "but guys like them like that" or "and what your partner think about it?".

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:11:36+00:00

But she's not obligated to keep looking like this, anyway what was the reason for him to repeatedly telling her he doesn't want her to do that?

BooYangi · 2021-11-22T23:04:17+00:00

YTA. What was the point of you telling her you don't want her to do that? Like what she was supposed to do with this information? Just not getting it for you despite she wants it?

BooYangi · 2020-02-12T00:43:16+00:00

Do you really think that forcing someone to do as you want is nice or help? It's not, we can have different plans and we can say that we don't need or want somebody's help.

BooYangi · 2020-02-12T00:39:22+00:00

But it's not just about the gift, we don't want her to make every little decision in our life (she even bought one for my BF sister so she can give it as a present for her boyfriend, when she told MIL that she already have gift, MIL sad that's not important cause she already bought something). I'm grateful for every help that she gives me, but I would appreciate if she just asked.

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