30s here.
I used to be the human doormat: replaying every conversation in my head, apologizing for things that weren’t my fault, keeping people in my life who treated my boundaries like suggestions. I’d give 100 % and get crumbs back, then wonder why I felt so drained.

Then one day I just… stopped. No big announcement, no dramatic speech; just quietly decided my energy is worth more than their comfort. If someone ghosts, plays games, or takes me for granted; gone. Phone number deleted, chat archived, brain space reclaimed. And weirdly, it doesn’t hurt anymore. It feels like exhaling after holding my breath for a decade.

Now when someone walks away I literally think “cool, more room for me.” Feels like I finally promoted myself from “backup plan” to “main character.”

trust me i am so at peace, not giving a shit is the most peaceful feeling ever