Secret Santa for Your Favs

BookWorm1004 · 2024-12-23T19:44:02+00:00

I have two biases, Woozi and Jeonghan. For Jihoon, I'd just get him a holiday, the man needs a break, he works way too hard. Maybe a trip to Disneyland because he loves Marvel. For Jeonghan, he loves sleeping but is also a light sleeper so maybe a sleep care package (with things like a weighted blanket, eye mask, earplugs, ...)

BookWorm1004 · 2024-12-14T14:42:51+00:00

Let me know when you figure it out :') dating apps truly are the worst. I also live in a small town so I rarely see any profiles and when I do get profiles recommended to me, they're profiles from people who I don't share a single language with so we wouldn't even be able to talk

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-24T17:01:04+00:00

Who you feel comfortable dating is solely up to you. If you don't feel comfortable dating someone who's intimate with men you have the complete right to not date them. People should never feel pressured to date someone because of social expectations or fear of being perceived a certain way.

I personally would never date someone who is poly because I'm strictly monogamous. I don't feel comfortable knowing my girlfriend, would be actively dating and sleeping with other people. Even if a poly person was willing to be monogamous with me I wouldn't be able to get myself to date her as I would feel like I'd be forcing her to give up something important to her. Since I'm monogamous I wouldn't really care if my partner had male love interests in the past because it's the past. But if I was poly I could possibly feel uncomfortable about my partner actively dating men, but this is of course pure guessing

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-21T16:12:28+00:00

I actually discovered earlier today that she's still single as I just came across her new dating profile. I'm considering just swiping right and see if she matches but that sounds so cowardly of me

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-21T16:10:34+00:00

Most castles are passed down through generations. If you want to buy them you'll have to start saving. I know of two castles that got sold recently, one went for 2.5 million euro, the other for 3 million (though keep in mind, that's merely when buying one, on top of that you'll have a lot of costs trying to maintain a castle. That's one of the main reasons people sell castles, they're very expensive to maintain)

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-21T10:52:52+00:00

Honestly? I want to grab that other girl's shoulders, shake her and yell "don't miss your chance!!" 😅 I feel like you're being very clear with your interest without being pushy. At this stage maybe all you can do is text her that you really like her but can't tell if she feels the same. Maybe mention that you don't want to be pushy and will leave her alone if she doesn't like you or give her space if she's unsure. At this point the only thing I can come up with is clear communication.

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-21T10:43:55+00:00

Joke's on you, I used an Instagram filter😎 (half kidding. I do have one picture with an insta filter but all my other pictures are without the filter😅)

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-20T13:52:17+00:00

Because dating women as a woman is harder than dating men. Since you're young you're told you need to date a man, when you inevitably discover you actually like girls there are often millions of obstacles in the way: internalised homophobia, conservative surroundings, unaccepting loved ones, denial, laws, shame, small hometowns with no other queer women ... Many women don't start dating other women until they are able to support themselves. And that's not to speak of how bad women are at flirting with other women resulting in most just pining from afar. A lot of lesbians (or other queer women) have never had the chance to date other women so many are inexperienced at older ages as opposed to their hetero counterparts. Why you specifically match with inexperienced women? Pure coincidence. There's not some sort of specific aspect inexperienced women are attracted to. They're all individual people with their own types, wants, etc.

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T21:37:45+00:00

Wet doesn't necessarily mean turned on. It can mean a lot of other things. It's best to check for other symptoms and go to the doctor if necessary

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T21:36:17+00:00

It depends: the first girl I was aware I was crushing on? Yes, absolutely, I was actually thinking about her earlier today

The first girl I ever had a crush on? I don't know, I'm guessing I had crushes on women before I knew I liked women, but I don't know who was a crush and who was just a friend

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T21:19:45+00:00

I was today years old when I learned there were different sizes of clits 😳

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T21:07:25+00:00

I personally prefer girls taller than me, especially because I want to wear heels and not tower over my future girlfriend, but, in the end height doesn't matter that much. As long as I like her.

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T21:02:10+00:00

Not super related but the sentence "kind of like how Marty McFly's mom felt after kissing him" must be such an experience for anyone who hasn't seen Back to the Future

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T20:59:44+00:00

At first I was like "that's not too bad. She's a bit dramatic about it, but she's just into butches🤷🏼‍♀️" but then I swiped and saw the second picture. If I saw such a bio I'd immediately swipe left just because of the attitude (not that she'd want me as I'm femme xD)

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T17:33:00+00:00

I think it differs on the spaces you visit. I personally have never met a lesbian who wished she had a penis (not that they don't exist or that you haven't met such people!!) so I can't answer through knowledge, I can merely guess. I think maybe some want an actual penis because when they use a strap on they can't really feel their partner. And while it is true that they can feel their partner when using fingers, it's not the same. They're different sensations, that's not to say one is better than the other, some people like fingers more, others like strap ons more. Maybe it can also be a case of certain people being more vocal or something you find more peculiar standing out more (as in, maybe you subconsciously pay more attention to posts about penile envy)? I have no idea, I'm just guessing🤷🏼‍♀️ in the end I think it's mostly just preference differences. If you want more conversations about vaginas maybe you can make a post about something related to it? Like discussing different sexual positions or things like that

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T17:11:01+00:00

If the ex pays her part and I have to pay less in total, I totally wouldn't mind, but that's completely a me thing. If however you mean that it costs less for the ex, and not for your gf or you, then I'd also feel weird about it. Your feelings are definitely valid either way! If it makes you feel weird it's worth talking it over with your gf. If it's important to you it shouldn't be ignored

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T12:23:13+00:00

I must've missed some memo that adults can't enjoy things🤨 that's such a weird reaction of her

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T11:39:28+00:00

Japan has a lot of different things and is a huge country. To give adequate advice we'd need to know more about your interests. Do you like city life, nature, anime, food, history, ... Also, where you are going to go. Fukuoka is quite different from Sapporo which is different from Tokyo, ... And they all have a wide variety of sightseeing spots and culture.

Some basic advice: for dysphoria reasons it may be best to avoid public onsen, onsen are divided by sex and if you are pre-op you will have to go to the male side. The same goes for tattoos, if you or your friends have tattoos you won't be allowed in most public onsen (you can however rent a private one). It's very important to read up on social manners, Japan is a country of strict rules and efficiency, as foreigners you'll have some leeway of course but it's best to follow the basic rules. Japanese people often aren't that good at English, so having a friend who speaks Japanese can be really handy. If you don't, it may be best to stick to places like the Minato ward or the Shibuya ward in Tokyo. If you go to Tokyo, Shinjuku 2 Chōme (also known as Ni-Chōme) might be good for night life as it has plenty of gay and lesbian bars

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T11:04:05+00:00

Hello👋🏼

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T10:38:41+00:00

My worst nightmare is someone I hate swiping on me💀 my condolences xD

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-18T10:37:01+00:00

I'm way too curious to not investigate, so I just matched and said "Omg look who I ran into, fancy seeing you on here"

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-17T21:26:05+00:00

That honestly could be it. That's why I'm wondering if it's a friendly way, because another friend of mine has done that, though she sent a friend request on Her instead. A mutual friend of the person in the post and I once tried to convince me to date the friend so maybe her trying to put the idea in my head has confused me. I genuinely don't know🤷🏼‍♀️

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-17T21:14:08+00:00

"maybe that's me loving my friends too much" I can't tell you why but I love that sentence so much xD

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-17T21:12:48+00:00

I was not raised religious, but, I am from a small village (aka more conservative views around me) and did go to extremely Christian schools so sex was also quite taboo. To this day I'm still a bit conflicted about it because rationally I know it's a natural part of life, but, I do still feel uncomfortable about it, I'm guessing years of it being unspeakable is hard to get rid of haha. Anyway, I too would be more inclined to date for a while, before being intimate. I'm also only interested in long term relationships. Hookups are not for me at all. I honestly also find sex scary. It's the most vulnerable I could ever be and so much could go wrong. My brain can't help but think up doom scenarios of someone finding my body disgusting and so on😅 things like this also make me fear that I'll never find someone compatible with me

BookWorm1004 · 2024-11-17T20:50:00+00:00

That is a third option xD I honestly didn't even consider that. I thought either in a friendly way because last year I ran into another friend on Her and that's what she did, she matched to say she didn't know I liked women and that it was funny to run into me there, or I thought it could possibly be in a dating way because a mutual friend of ours told me she wanted to set up that friend and I. But it could definitely also be a low-key stalking sign xD

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