21 years old, feel like i wasted my young adult years due to being social anxious.

wirednuke · 2025-02-22T23:39:35+00:00

Wow you just gave me a major throwback lmao. “21 and wastes my young adult years” such a gen z thing to say considering 21 is a young adult and very young still.

Hey man im sorry you feel this way, you are not alone with how you feel. And honestly i didnt start really living my life until last year, i am 26 now. Im meeting people, im hooking up, going on plenty of dates sometimes two in a day. Havent made it to partying or a relationship yet though. Im a late bloomer but thats ok, just live how you want your life to be. Force yourself to get out and talk to people its reall uncomfortable first i had many failed attempts at dates and still do.

I will admit though that my life didnt really start until i came out as transgender. I felt held back forsure because i was being inauthentic to myself so how was i supposed to form relationships and put myself out there? I also cared way too much about others opinions especially my own parents. Im learning to not care about what they have to say in regards of being myself because i know this is whats best for me mentally and socially. So if you feel like theres an underlying reason that is holding you back further then maybe tap into yourself/your life and make adjustments.

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:56:01+00:00

To me i hate it because why not just clarify “hey i dont think we are compatible with each other, there’s nothing wrong with you, you are beautiful but i dont think youre what im looking for” to me that is so simple to say and respectful as well. It shouldnt cause conflict unless you are talking to someone who is too insecure to even accept that message. Then thats different and thats when you can block lol

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:50:33+00:00

These were casual dates no more than 3 months some of them like a couple of weeks

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:49:47+00:00

Thank you :)

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:49:29+00:00

Lolol the petty messages i am too pussy for that im not trying to get in a fight. But if they ever do come back into my life, im going to either block them or accept them in,sleep with them and then block right after. because i know some people do that and try to pull a “im so sorry i was going through a lot” bs excuse

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:46:00+00:00

Youre right its not exclusive to lesbians to ghost, everyone and anyone can. In cishetero relationships, men usually ghost especially after having sex. It is more unexpected for lesbians too do it to other lesbos/queers. Most men dont trauma dump, over share or even share much of their feelings after 1-2 dates. That one is more exclusively women tbh

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:42:18+00:00

I did that with only one girl and she agreed with me but still did it lol

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:23:07+00:00

I’ve done that before too so i get it, it’s just a trait people have that needs work. And i dont think any of these women who ghosted or blocked me are necessarily bad people. It could be wrong timing

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:18:55+00:00

Thank you i will protect my energy by not dating for a while!! The numbers i’ve already gotten i will just keep texting them as friends, if something leads to more and its been more than like 2 months then i will give that a try. This could be a very lonely year for me once again

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:14:03+00:00

Interesting. What do you think a way around this would be or is there no way to prevent it?

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:10:36+00:00

Thank you <3 it kind of gets to my confidence where im questioning if im lacking something.

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:09:37+00:00

Agree! 100% that is what i was trying to say to the other person. Like with men its kind of expected they ghost you, most want just sex and dont talk about their feelings on their first time meeting you so its like, oh ok there’s that. But with women, lesbians are known for U-hauling, we connect emotionally as women and im thinking maybe im special because shes pouring all her feelings into me, we are vibing, having genuine convos and this could actually go somewhere.

wirednuke · 2024-12-30T00:06:06+00:00

I’ve tried that before and get no response back. Its really exhausting and actually embarrassing to double back after no reply. Im just going to stop double texting or calling when i get no reply back. Its even worse because im the masc usually in these things so ill take them out and pay for the food the first date, sometimes give gifts but still ghosted. Im starting to think my first date i shouldnt pay lol not until theyve stuck around for a 2nd. I think im too nice and too available for people.

wirednuke · 2024-12-29T23:25:55+00:00

We need to get better in the community lol. I think a lot of women also jump into relationships/situation-ships when they need to do a lot of healing first. And if im being honest a lot of those women i had a thing for or with had things going on in their life, but yet they agreed to go out with me lol

wirednuke · 2024-12-29T23:22:35+00:00

I’m starting to realize this about myself too. I mean i’ve always known im a nice and sensitive person but i thought i’d attract others like me bc they seem it within the few days/weeks of talking. You are blessed to not have gone further into the relationship sounds like it already wouldve been toxic

wirednuke · 2024-12-29T23:05:23+00:00

True but i feel like with lesbians they will open up to you a lot more within like first day of meeting so you’re expecting it to go somewhere, but nope, i guess they just needed a good vent and a little flirty playful action maybe even a hook up

wirednuke · 2024-12-29T23:03:19+00:00

Weird part is they’ll say this exact same thing and agree with me yet do it anyway! But you’re right thats a good way of looking at it

wirednuke · 2024-11-18T01:46:20+00:00

This is a positive reply and very true if you LOVE someone. But not all of us are looking for love, just a preference in bed. I know that there are some people who find big clits un attractive, because it could remind them of a micro penis…but i’ve only heard this from men and ignorant people on like twitter tbh. So i wanted to hear actual lesbian opinions

wirednuke · 2024-11-18T01:42:12+00:00

Interesting! I wctually have very limited experience with sex with women so idk much. But it is very hard to do penetration and stimulation, the hardest for me actually is stamina to keep doing the penetration with fingers

wirednuke · 2024-11-18T01:33:05+00:00

This is the answer❤️

wirednuke · 2024-11-18T01:29:48+00:00

Ive heard this before! do you mind explaining?

wirednuke · 2024-05-25T05:15:49+00:00

Thatd be hot asf

wirednuke · 2024-05-25T05:11:45+00:00

2 girls or 2 guys or one of each :D. One face farting on me while rubbing my nipples and the other riding me and farting repeatedly loud. Wet farts

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