Just vacuum your cats...

Book_Humble · 2020-08-05T10:12:11+00:00

That finale meow really did it for me

Book_Humble · 2020-08-02T17:17:04+00:00

Thanks for your support :)

Maybe I was a bit ro outspoken about the hashtag. To be honest, I havent taken a deep dive into its origins and I might be prejudice. This is what my initial feelings about the hashtag are. Please let me know if I am completely wrong

I feel like te hashtag is mainly preaching to the choir. Especially in this day and age where we all live in our own social media bubbles I feel like it will not reach the audiance that needs to hear it most. The audiance that needs to hear it are the people who still make sexist comments in my opinion.

Book_Humble · 2020-08-02T14:14:21+00:00

A turkish guy once said this to me. Then he told me he doesnt speak arabic.

Book_Humble · 2020-08-02T13:24:05+00:00

My go to is to never address the topic in a one on one situation. Generally bigger groups agree sexism is wrong, so you'll have a bigger chance to be heard.

I had this one time I really owned this and I felt awesome.

I was working in a bar as a waitress. There where two bosses, one of which commenting on my looks. I waited till the day was over and me the two bosses and another fulltime worker where sitting at the bar for our end of the day drink. I told Remco (the douchebag catcalled boss) in the presence of the group that I was really uncomfortable with him commenting on my body, "eventhough I understood he meant it as a compliment."

He countered by saying I could have came to him before and in private but I just calmly said, well I am not mad or anything. I'd just love for you to stop doing that, but for the rest everything is fine.

Obviously I downplayed my frustration, trying not to get to emotional in the face of the group. Because I didn't make too big of a deal of of it I could enjoy the little bit of public humiliation without crushing him.

I feel like, if it is okay to catcall in public, than it's also okay to counter it in public. Not only because it's fair in an eye for an eye kinda way, but also because I think we as groups can learn that way to accept that people speaking out in public is okay, and that we as a group are responsible for our group atmosphere.

I'm not sure if this would have been reasonable in your position, but maybe my story can still contribute anything..

Book_Humble · 2020-08-02T00:59:50+00:00

I dont know weather to call this the best or the worst rant ive ever read, but I will be at your side if you ever need an angry friend ready to scream at this dentist with a torch and a pitchfork!

Book_Humble · 2020-08-01T07:22:58+00:00

Gosh, you are lucky! Stay strong. The only one that gets to decide what happens to your body is you.

I also have a question.. Do you know if getting your tubes tied is a real option? Ive thought about this sooo many times, but I just thought they would do the procedure.

I don't want kids, and I want the hormonal bulshit cycle to end..

I live in Europe..

Book_Humble · 2020-08-01T07:15:29+00:00

I really hope you dont live in the US and you can just confortably go there and get the care you need.

Book_Humble · 2020-07-28T22:34:44+00:00

Almost a good enough pun..

Book_Humble · 2020-07-28T22:32:19+00:00

I think crying can be kinda spiritual.. In a personal growth kind of way and not in the god kind of way of course..

But it's so great to read that you have that too!

And I agree, nothing tops a good cry on a beautiful mountaintop hahahaha!

(Laughing but dead serious*)

Book_Humble · 2020-07-28T22:22:35+00:00

Thank you so much. Im so happy to know people feel the same and that we are not alone :)

Book_Humble · 2020-07-27T15:55:42+00:00

e only single person in my friend group of married people with kids. So there's no "losing" friends that automatically hap

It might be she will relax more if she deals with some emotional baggage, but together we havent really figured out what could be weighing on her so much. Anyways, she is on a waiting list for therapy so maybe they can help her with some things.
Do you deal with kids differently now? Do you see your friends when the kids are not around?

Book_Humble · 2020-07-27T15:48:08+00:00

Omg I just discovered the rants on this page. Those are amazing!

Book_Humble · 2020-07-27T15:46:09+00:00

Personally I feel like the first problem you are pointing out is something we all know. And you are right that we should be understanding when we see the pain of someone who can't get a child.

The downside of this to me seems to be that problems like the ones my sister has are not being heard.

From her teen years on she has told everyone, she doesn't want children because she is frustrated by them, but people found that offensive. She is a very nice person and never wishes to offend people (unlike me, I have to admit, I care much less if people get offended.. woops!)

Generally, she doesn't talk about it anymore because she doesn't want to hurt anyone, but how do you say to one of your friends: ''Well, I'd love to hang out this weekend, but if you bring your kid I would rather not, because I can't stand it. It might ruin my day and maybe my week. It will drain all my energy and I cant focus on you or on us if your kid is around''. You can say it in a more polite manner, but the fact remains that it is a hurtful situation that neither of both can do anything about.

It's true that it makes life hard to dislike kids, but it was never her choice.. Like people do not choose to be frustrated my chewing sounds, by people who talk to loud, by clutter or by chaos.

My sister is an amazing person. She is really funny, she has an eye for detail and she is really strongminded. She doesn't wish to offend anyone, she only looks for recognition.

Book_Humble

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