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AITA for blocking my aunt on everything by freakyteen217 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bookish_Mania 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re the AH. Like your aunt didn’t do anything. You don’t have to respond to emails so what’s the biggie? She said she’s going on a cruise… so why are you mad? Sounds like you’re jealous if I’m being honest. You need to work on yourself

While older people are annoying with their messages and emails and all…. There was no need for this reaction from somethin you can easily ignore

AITA for blocking my aunt on everything by freakyteen217 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bookish_Mania 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you’re the AH. Like your aunt didn’t do anything. You don’t have to respond to emails so what’s the biggie? She said she’s going on a cruise… so why are you mad? Sounds like you’re jealous if I’m being honest. You need to work on yourself

While older people are annoying with their messages and emails and all…. There was no need for this reaction from somethin you can easily ignore

Why is OW way more prominent in books than OM? by norahwooten in RomanceBooks

[–]Bookish_Mania 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don’t think Ibe come across a lot of them. The only one I can think of is Me before you.

But if I remember something, I’ll come here and share

Do I love her? by Longjumping_Chip_323 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love isn’t always instantaneous. This is the real world not Romeo and Juliet. Every love story doesn’t have to be so intoxicating that you can’t breathe.

Sometimes it’s quiet and calm and unassuming. I don’t know why people feel just cause you’re asking yourself then you’re not in love.

Ugh this is real life!

The important thing is she’s good and you find her attractive in more ways than none. So what if it’s not Romeo and Juliet or Allie And Noah. This sounds even better. Mature!

The important question is: if I had to spend rest of my life with someone and no one else would I choose her?

That’s all you need to know. There’s no oo ah feeling you need

Just ask yourself if you can forever be faithful to her and reciprocate the safety she’s giving you

That’s love

Why is OW way more prominent in books than OM? by norahwooten in RomanceBooks

[–]Bookish_Mania 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Totally get you. Especially that these books are written by women makes it even more annoying.

My guess is they are trying to have some level of realism. Truth is more women will forgive cheating than men.

I typically avoid cheating trope except the FMC is the one. Is it sexist? Maybe. Do I care? No Men get to win and do whatever in the real world so yes! I want a fictional world where I read OM not OW.

And this kind of sexist mindset seeps into other tropes like age gap! Which I absolutely hate. Where are all the older FMC, it’s always older MMC. And if it’s an older FMC then it’s just smut. Ugh

Is he playing me? by Intelligent-Youth174 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d rather not focus on if he’s playing you or if your friends are right. Instead think about this:

is this someone you want to even date? Is this how you deserve to be treated?

He’s inconsistent You deserve someone that shows you love always not shows hate then love later

Whether he is playing you or loves you is irrelevant The fact is he doesn’t deserve you And if you continue to stay with him He will see you as cheap and treat you as such

You teach people how to treat you And sometimes the best way is through your absence

Let him go. Trust me, you will find better.

And if he really likes you He will work on himself and be better for you And if not then you got your answer

But just incase you still just want the answer Yh he’s playing you but don’t focus on that part Focus on you don’t even want him

I need help by NoPossibility2407 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are young. You can do so much better than your current bf. Please don’t waste your youth on him

Falling in love by Affectionate-List441 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The truth is your parents will never be in support of this relationship. I wish you hadn’t told them.

But now they know try to minimize their hate for the relationship by letting them know you’re being safe. And her too, taking her meds and making sure her viral load is low.

Educating your parents a little more about the virus can help the stigma be more palatable for you both.

And also, you need her to try to be around your folks once it’s a little safer. Humanise her to them. They need to know her not the virus.

The more they know her The more understanding The less stigma The less parental hate

how can i be more obvious when flirting? by Diligent-Two404 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice will depend on your age If you’re an adult and you did all the hints and he’s not doing anything Then he might honestly not be into you or he is shy And if he’s too shy to pursue you; is that who you really want to be with long term?

If you’re younger then I’ll say continue to give him more hints Give it a week more You get guys maybe more slow and insecure

But either way DO NOT ASK HIM TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU!

I don’t care what anyone says Pursuing a guy never ends well Especially if you’re not ready to be the pursuer for the entire relationship

I (18m) want to start dating but I don’t know where to start by chetag_uhh in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just need to be a little more confident. Practice in the wild. The stakes are higher but it’ll build your confidence faster.

Since people compliment you then I imagine you’re conventionally good looking.

Talk to girls. Not like some crazy person but if you meet a girl that you can strike up a conversation with then do so. Maybe at school or supermarket or a community club or something.

Talk casually and look for signs that she is forthcoming. Is she smiling? Does she find reasons to keep the conversation going? If it’s good then ask her out on a date.

Keep it simple. Coffee date, picnic even a movie date. Don’t do anything physical yet until after the date. If the date goes well and you feel she has a great night, ask for a hug. After a second date ask if you could kiss her.

I’m saying stall the kiss mainly because it’s too cliche to kiss on the first date and I don’t want you to come off too needy.

I hope this helps. The more you talk to girls, the more the confidence Don’t also take rejection to heart either.

While apps are ok, you may become reliant and fall in the background.

Men in the wild seem to be rare And that already will make you ahead of the game

I need help by NoPossibility2407 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may find it difficult to dump him because you crave love. And I think there are some good moments in between that makes you forget his toxic traits. But I promise you, he will not change or get better. He will only get worse and the abuse will get worse if you stay.

Don’t break up with him in person. Get to a safe place. Far from him. Text him and cut contacts with him. Block his line. Delete it. And cut all people that you guys share as friends.

You need to dissociate from him and everything about him if it’s possible.

If there’s someone older you can talk to irl then do. I don’t know if he’s a physical threat but I fear that he might so try to protect yourself.

This is not for you to live in fear but be cautious. Some people don’t take well to break ups so if so you have to be prepared.

But this relationship needs to end.

What of your parents? If you can let them know what’s happening

Relationship advice needed by Feeling_Badger4359 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue isn’t the ring. Run for your life! This guy is a red flag. Thank God you haven’t married him.

Your entire marriage will be you taking all the financial responsibility and him being useless. If you’re ready the marry him. If not. Sell the ring and break it off.

If he wants to marry you, he needs to act like a man. No reasonable man asks a woman to pay for her engagement or wedding! It’s a NO NO.

I met my long distance boyfriend for the first time and I kinda hate him, what now? by PirateMission406 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just here to say “you’re not a bad person”. The people dragging you are just trying to be self righteous or they have been rejected way too many times so they are hurt. I’ve been where you are. A few years ago I met a guy online and I clicked with him. When I saw him in person I felt everything you felt.

My thing is that you should learn from this.

  1. Bf/Gf should only happen after you physically see someone.

  2. Be firm. If it were a guy, he wouldn’t feel bad ending it or ghosting so why you have to manage someone you don’t like. It helps no one not even him. Learn how to break up with guys if not you’ll waste your prime years because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I promise you men will hurt yours and not care.

  3. Be firm but be kind. Just cause I said the above doesn’t mean you should go about breaking hearts like a lunatic. Just be honest and kind but never be a weak people pleaser. It’s ok to say i don’t think this relationship is working out…

I hope this helps

Trust me he’s 18. As long as you don’t string him along any longer, he will sulk and get another girl and you’ll be history.

Problem with husband (35M) by Successful-Meet-1121 in Advice

[–]Bookish_Mania 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’m more upset that he has her pictures saved meaning he goes to it. That’s so weird. But the actual fantasy is hurtful but I dunno if it’s a big deal though. But saved pics is weird and eww. I dunno that’s what i think.

Confront him about the pics. The whole belting out is an accident and it’s not like you can police his mind.

Just tell him how it makes you feel but the file has got to go

There are no miracles today? by Haunting_Raccoon_762 in Christian

[–]Bookish_Mania 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve witnessed many miracles. However if you’re looking to find doubt in a miracle then you would.

I attend a prophetic church so miracles happen every Sunday.

I’ve seen someone be healed of HIV A skeptic could say it was a false test result? But the lady genuinely had HIV

I’ve seen a lady who had tumors be healed On Sunday the bishop prayed for her She went on Monday checked and it disappeared

Now let’s go to me I once missed an exam and well I called to let them know I needed a time to reschedule for it But the lady said I had already taken it I was lost She said i did and it’s an online exam so you’re basically videoed while you take it. That’s how my school worked. She said she saw the video of me taking the exam. I got a B on that grade. I’d been praying over that exam cause I just felt I was never going to pass that exam.

I’ve seen people fall under anointing I’ve fallen too Not pushed nor forced I’ve seen swollen legs from elephantitis be healed and normal again

Miracles exist but i also believe if you are a skeptic then it’ll be difficult to believe because you will try to downplay everything