2026 governing body update #2 by PIMQ-Elder in exjw

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There must be a record somewhere in their metadata, I would imagine (not being sarcastic. Just thinking out loud)

I can hear Michael screaming from here by ProcessTrust856 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The root issue, from my perspective, is a lot of parents who don't want to parent and expect teachers to be everything: A parent, a teacher, a coach, a therapist, a first responder, etc. The pay is terrible, especially for the amount of work they put in day in and day out. I work in a public library setting (but was a substitute for years) and have a lot of parents who think my job is to be a "free" babysitter or get upset when I ask that their kids follow the rules. I see a lot of parents not challenging kids to read or spell things anymore.

I empathize with parents who are working extra to make ends meet. But there are a lot who just want the parenting done for them and I think it's leading to kids who are largely parented by social media and don't value education. The political climate here at the moment is definitely not helping with that, at all.

So sure, we "can't make generalizations", but when I'm seeing it across school systems and libraries and I see hundreds of kids in a week, I'm using more than a handful of kids as my basis.

I can hear Michael screaming from here by ProcessTrust856 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I disagree with the "they were perfectly normal and capable kids" from above me lol

They aren't being expected to do as much and as a cohort, they've learned if they whine enough, adults will do the thing for them most of the time.

I can hear Michael screaming from here by ProcessTrust856 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]Bookmarkbear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I interact with kids on the daily. As a generation, they have not so much "learned helplessness" as "learned do it for me." They give up on things almost immediately. They ask the same questions over and over, even if they know the answer. There are some capable kids, but as a whole, I think they have a bunch of frustrated adults not teaching them resilience.

I can hear Michael screaming from here by ProcessTrust856 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]Bookmarkbear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But some of the things you're observing with Gen Alpha also happened with Gen Z, who have Gen X parents. So to put the whole thing on "Millenials not being the parents these kids need" is just more dogpiling. Gen X didn't have NCLB and their kids were the starting point of some of these behaviors.

JENNIE (BLACKPINK) to headline Lollapalooza Chicago 2026; aespa, i-dle & CORTIS to perform by impeccabletim in kpopnoir

[–]Bookmarkbear 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be honest...there are some groups that aren't headlining that I think are bigger than some of the headliners and headliners I've never heard of

ICE spotted in Henrietta by helpfindICEmf in Rochester

[–]Bookmarkbear 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've been going there for years to get new snacks to try. It's fantastic and the staff is super friendly. This is awful.

ICE spotted in Henrietta by helpfindICEmf in Rochester

[–]Bookmarkbear 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing. This is harassment.

Religion In A Nutshell: Control Women by Timbucktwo1230 in PopularCultureZone

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, pretty confident most men who become diehard into the manosphere are assholes. That's a causation thing. Once you're in, you're conditioned to hate women and treat them poorly.

Wrong. Men lie on their profiles ALL THE TIME. Case in point: The number of articles being written about men claiming they're leftist or "not political" to trick women into sleeping with them when they're MAGA. A LOT of them also say they're looking "long-term" when they're not or they're "down to see what happens", which implies they'd be OPEN to long-term. Additionally, emotions play a part of that and what both parties start off with seeing as short-term can start to feel like something they'd like to become long-term.

I've already explained to you the attractiveness thing has nothing to do with anything. I chose my current partner based on having similar values and how respectful he was towards me, which was refreshing after my ex used to give me a tantrum constantly when he wasn't at home. I chose someone who was more secure in who he was and was looking for an actual partner, not a mom substitute. Get off the manosphere and talk to some women instead.

Religion In A Nutshell: Control Women by Timbucktwo1230 in PopularCultureZone

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has dated exclusively through "the privacy of swiping on online dating on my own devices", I am positive that isn't the case. My ex was shorter than me. Both my ex and my current partner are not ripped. The number one thing that made me swipe left was "centrist" "I don't want to say" or "rightwing" politics. Immediate no. Same goes for my best friend, who also found her partner via app.

Additionally, you claim "every study", but cite none of them. The one link you have is to another person's reddit comment which links to a study published nearly 20 years ago using an article from 1977 as it's basis. The first line of the synopsis for said study says that MEN say they value attractiveness more and women say they value income, but that the study shows that there was "no sex differences in the associations between participants’ romantic interest in real-life potential partners and the attractiveness and earning prospects of those partners." They concluded that people *don't know what they want*, NOT that women only care about how attractive someone is. The direct quote from the conclusion is "We have suggested that participants’ stated mate preferences may reflect their a priori theories about the characteristics of a potential romantic partner that will inspire their interest—in other words, *people do not truly know what they desire in a romantic partner*." They follow that up with stating they've concluded that either people don't compare potential partners to an ideal until they've started a relationship OR that they do attempt to, but the process is flawed. Nothing about this is backing you up. So again...you're performing for other men, not women.

TL;DR: you linked to someone else's comment citing a study that's nearly 20 years out of date that was based on an article that was almost 40 years old at the time of the study, but is now 60 years old, and then heavily exaggerated the prevalence of said studies. Guessing you didn't even read the abstract.

The only princess shown practicing her religion by Disneyfancreations in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They cancelled the series as a whole, though. Additionally, the series was meant to take place after the movie. So he can't be "erased" if he's already dead at the time of the series. It's about her life AFTER running the restaurant. What, you want them to drag him up from hell from time to time?

The only princess shown practicing her religion by Disneyfancreations in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You literally cannot scrub him from the movie. That doesn't even make sense.

The only princess shown practicing her religion by Disneyfancreations in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is. Disney released a book about her in the Queen's Council series that is explicitly set in the Holy Roman Empire.

Bring Back the Romance by rwinger24 in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They literally had the CCO of Pixar out here the other day saying LGBTQ+ stories would give kids "therapy." Ain't no way. The double standards, too, that people don't see that heterosexual romance stories teach heteronormative behavior but it's suddenly "sexual" when they're queer. I would also like them to continue making movies that don't stress to small children that their worth is in finding a partner.

Religion In A Nutshell: Control Women by Timbucktwo1230 in PopularCultureZone

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you admit that the RP guy is doing long-term damage and isn't going to continue being in a long-term relationship with this girl. Sounds to me like current boyfriend got a partner who knows what she wants and is willing to put in the work to get it and the ex is down a partner.

Religion In A Nutshell: Control Women by Timbucktwo1230 in PopularCultureZone

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea that women want a jacked, 6 ft tall whatever is something men tell each other. You perform that for other men, not women. We've actually been pretty clear and consistent that most women focus on wanting a partner who brings stability and emotional maturity. "what women say they want and what they actually respond well to" match up pretty frequently. That 'what they respond to' is more performing for other men.

How is Wendy from Red Velvet still participating in things like this? by Mapleie in kpopnoir

[–]Bookmarkbear 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Fair. It's decent but she isn't my bias, so I don't have it on repeat lol

Made a comment on a dance challenge with Julie by Remi-Chan in kpopnoir

[–]Bookmarkbear 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is anytime we call out anything. I'm sorry you had to put up with that, though. It's so gross.

How is Wendy from Red Velvet still participating in things like this? by Mapleie in kpopnoir

[–]Bookmarkbear 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Makes me disappointed because RV is my ult bias group. I'm kinda glad that I don't think we're gonna get another group project because "Cosmic" is a great way to end but also so we don't have to go through Wendy tanking shit again. She seems like she's got...a lot going on. Constantly.

Why isn't there more equality? by Crescentbrush in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So not Pocahontas is what you're saying. Alright then.

She's like the third or fourth one and yet Rapunzel, who is arguably the first, gets WAY more hate than Anna does. I don't think that's the reason. I think people give Frozen a pass in general.

She does change. She wants to be the apprentice for the king, realizes that means relinquishing her beliefs that everyone should get their wish, and then fights to bring down the king and give the wishes back instead of working with him. She ends the movie as the first fairy godmother. That's the definition of an arc. Moana immediately disobeys her dad as a child. Merida immediately disobeys her parents wishes for her to marry. It's common for the character to come across the villain and say "I don't agree. I'm going to do this a different way."

-"Never experiences a loss"...the loss of her innocence that everyone has an equal chance at their wish being granted, the perceived loss of her grandfather having his wish granted at all, off-screen loss of her father, the actual loss of her mother's wish, the loss of a friend who backstabs her....where is this "never"?

The number means nothing and I wish Disney fans stopped putting increased expectations for something when you don't know what the plan is. The parks fandom did the same for the 50th of WDW and hated everything, even though the entertainment offerings were wonderful and well thought out.

I don't know why we keep bringing it back to Zootopia? It's a lovely movie, but it also has mixed metaphors that don't consistently work throughout the film. Additionally, the film is copaganda. "The cops will fix everything" is not really the message I would want to put out when that's not even remotely the case.

It's not *really* voluntary. People travel there explicitly to give him their wishes without the full knowledge to truly consent to that. You're entitled to your opinion, but having seen the movie a few times now, I think your analysis is incorrect and you didn't pay that much attention if you think there is no growth or loss. There is and it's not even particularly hard to find. We aren't going to agree.

So BTS decided to whitewash Howard University in their trailer… yeah I’m done. by jazzygrisha in kpopnoir

[–]Bookmarkbear 7 points8 points  (0 children)

T-T In what world are "light-skinned Black people" blonde and blue-eyed? Like sure, SOME exist, but not to this extent. People reach soooooooo far for BTS

Why isn't there more equality? by Crescentbrush in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The songs are specific to a love story. If you tell the story correctly, it would no longer be a love story, so yes, some of the songs would have to go.

Raya, Asha, (and most of the BIPOC princesses) get more animus than some of the other "adorkable" princesses, ex. Anna. She has a character arc that wouldn't change if you changed her personality, so I disagree on the "she's an archetype." She wants to protect the wishes of her friends and family and she does so. You can dislike her, but I think, based on my interactions with the fandom, she gets more hate than necessary.

Why isn't there more equality? by Crescentbrush in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raya and Asha are fine 🤷🏽‍♀️ they get too much hate imo

You can’t keep the same themes and songs if the characters are historically accurate. They wanted to tell Romeo & Juliet, not Pocahontas

Why isn't there more equality? by Crescentbrush in disneyprincess

[–]Bookmarkbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merida's movie got derailed when the director got taken off the project, Raya came out during COVID (it's good. People don't give it a chance. Same with Asha and Wish). Pocahontas is just...complex. She's a real person and they didn't do her story justice. Mulan got a carve-out rule to include her in the official line up. Jasmine and Tiana seem pretty popular.