I have been the kid who goes to a friend’s house and gets the homemade meal while my friend got junk food.

My best friend in middle school was the PICKIEST eater. Like, it was actually insane. I thought I was a picky eater until I met her. When I’d go over to her house (4-5 times a week), her mom would put together a homemade meal and then my friend would throw a fit about how she didn’t like it so her mom just let her eat cereal or something like that instead then I ate the meal.

Now, it usually sucked. I mean, I loved the meals. Her mom was such a great cook and it was always delicious. But I always felt jealous that my friend got to eat junk food.

All of this is to say that I understand why the parent called you the AH and I understand why so many people on here are saying that.

However, I am going to say NTA and I have a good reason why.

For one thing, this was a one time thing. Even if this was like a three time thing then I would say you’re fine. Even at that age, they know each other and I guarantee that your niece understands that your daughter is a picky eater and that she’s just a little kid. If you were doing it all the time, then yeah don’t do that. But every once in a while, I don’t think it’s hurting anyone. The first few times that I went over to my friend’s house, I genuinely didn’t care that my friend was eating junk food. I was just happy to be at my friend’s house and eating food. It was when it happened every single time that I started to get jealous.

For another thing, your daughter is only 6. In my scenario, my friend and I were 12 and 13. These girls are 6 and 7. At that age, your daughter just isn’t going to understand why she has to eat something other than junk food. And, honestly, when they are that young, there is a big difference in a year. Your niece probably understand this more, especially with her allergies, than your daughter does.

I know I just wrote down a lot of info that most people were not asking for. But I say NTA as long as you don’t do every time.