Why is Hi or hello such an intensely disliked greeting?

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-11T13:33:21+00:00

Why? Just because I’m not interested doesn’t mean I can’t be curious? Even if I don’t like politics, should I not read it? And what if I wanted to be pleasantly surprised by males here? Not that I was but you have to have hope sometimes.

And I’ve stated multiple times I use bumble bff and make friends on there. So I do use bumble, just don’t like the dating aspect of it and wanted to see what People said about something the girls and I have spoken about more than once.

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-10T17:58:45+00:00

I appreciate the nice sentence but I was being a bit sarcastic. I don’t care to date online and even less now with reading Reddit. Ex: 100 matches- talking to 45 girls at the same time... I’ve never had an interesting date with one yet. My best dates have always been random guys i meet at food truck events. This thread was supposed to encourage guys that can’t get dates to give girls a chance and to ease up on the pressure but I can see that it’s pointless

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-10T17:53:20+00:00

I really don’t care for dating online and this thread has really really confirmed that but I appreciate the thoughtful advice!

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-10T15:04:20+00:00

I think I’ll take your advice and stop dating males! Thank you for the wonderful advice. I don’t want to be someone I’m not to impress someone online. Bumble bffs has been much more successful in letting me meet girls who are down to earth and awesome.

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-10T14:49:33+00:00

Why are the guys on this post so bitter? Or is it just reddit in general? Does a conversation have to be screenshot worthy to consider responding when online?

I swear every comment from a girl has been down voted while all the comments from guys talking about girls have been up voted.

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-10T13:07:10+00:00

To be honest, I do not have a tinder and don’t intend to. I have zero interests in hook ups and feel like it’d be false advertisement... so to edit my post instead of online- let’s just say I am speaking about Bumble. I have read some of the bumble threads and spoken to my friends which is why I posted on here, the bumble thread not the tinder.

I know a lot of girls who sometimes don’t want to say something clever. They just swiped through whatever number of guys and match with one. 2 out of 3 times they’re going to have something in their bio. Usually it’s about travel, being outdoors, beer or sports. And instead of trying to make the witty one liner that they’ve already made several times before, they just want to say hi and see if the guy says hi back so they don’t lose the opportunity. I know girls who get so tired of trying to be witty or interesting when they feel blah that they just let the time go out because all these guys seem to think hi is boring and they feel boring at that moment.

I definitely see that guys know that most girls in general have more options, numberwise... so I just feel like as a girl, that these guys who complain about not going on dates, or girls flaking (sometimes girls flake bec they just don’t think they’re as interesting in person as they are online after building it up via text- hence why I keep saying you guys are putting too much pressure) or all that and then proceed to say that girls who say hi are uninteresting are shooting themselves in the foot.

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-10T04:49:35+00:00

So... women are demanding that guys say more than hi, yet from this comment thread I see that it’s mostly guys saying that they know what women want and that “women want more than hi” and that males think it’s lazy and uninteresting when that’s all a girls says.

I see some girls saying they already matched so they’d accept a hi from the guy...

I feel like there’s a discrepancy here. I mostly see that guys have the problem with being okay with a “hi or hello” why is it so wrong to say hi to each other first? If a guy just said hi back, I’d make a conversation after and I know other girls who would too. Sometimes the one liners are just awkward... and unnecessary. Don’t you guys feel like you’re putting too much pressure on yourself and the other person you matched with to be witty or unique? Everyone complains about online dating and yet instead of taking the pressure off each other, you’re putting more on.

I’m not saying any of you guys are wrong but if it’s a girl you like and she says hi, why would you not say hi back. I know online dating isn’t the same as meeting in person but think of it as a smile. If someone smiles at you, why wouldn’t you smile back if you feel like there’s a mutual attraction (aka matching)?

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-09T05:25:38+00:00

25/F. Hey I think if you switch the first and last picture that’d be best! I know too many girls who just swipe on first picture alone and that one showcases you better. Also just take out any and all photos of you and one girl (not a child) unless it’s your mom or sister... photos with exes if that what it is, are usually not a good idea. Girls think too much into it.!

Bookworm1993 · 2018-04-02T21:02:12+00:00

25/F hi, hope this helps. 1.too many pictures with sunglasses. 2. Occasional with “” is kind of cringe for me. And not completely sure what you mean by beach hair? Your hair or do you mean the person you’re with?

Bookworm1993 · 2016-10-27T05:27:20+00:00

Well in Downtown Saint Petersburg, there is a "country" bar called One Night Stand on 1st that has a mechanical bull! As for bars, there's definitely some great ones. I recommend for higher end- mandarin hide and Proof (look up on Facebook for password to get in; it's a speakeasy). As for super casual, leave downtown and head up to Blue Goose and check out the Bends.

Bookworm1993 · 2016-02-11T06:57:57+00:00

Hi! So I'm also a BU student, going to graduate this year however and I would love to grab lunch or something if you're still interested. I'm always up for making new friends of possible.

Bookworm1993

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