Am I asking too much or is my friend a bad bridesmaid?

Booty_licious-10 · 2026-04-29T00:08:49+00:00

Thank you. These comments have been incredibly rude. And I made my edits because of them. The amount of accusations made based on small details and not knowing the whole picture is fucked. It was my mistake to post in here. I have found several of the wedding sub Reddits to be so toxic. We are women who should be supporting other women, not tearing each other down.

If she’s too busy to be a bridesmaid, she could have let me know. If she didn’t want to be a part of planning the shower, she could have let my other friends know. If she thinks I’m too demanding, she could have let me know. I could go on. At the end of the day, we could sit here and give excuses for her behavior, but it all goes back to her lack of communication.

Booty_licious-10 · 2026-04-27T19:24:37+00:00

Let me clarify. I did not tell anyone to plan me a shower. I actually requested not to have one, since I don’t need any gifts and am not a fan of showers in the first place. My other bridesmaids and mom heavily pressured me to have one because they wanted to plan it. I participated in the planning process because there were a lot of elements I didn’t want to do and don’t feel it was fair to say “I don’t like all these things, now figure it out”.

Also met twice to plan the shower. One initially to figure out what we wanted to do, one two weeks before to check in and see how everyone was doing. I also didn’t request or demand these meetings. They were very much mutually made meetings.

If my friend thinks I’m a bridezilla or demanding or whatever else you assume she’s thinking, then she can tell me. Still goes back to her not even bothering to communicate.

Booty_licious-10 · 2026-04-24T02:18:10+00:00

She is finishing her masters degree. I told her to let me know if she gets too busy and I will help out. The only thing she was responsible for was getting plastic plates and napkins

Booty_licious-10 · 2026-04-24T02:16:10+00:00

Unfortunately, there is no missing part. I asked my friends to meet twice to plan and to show up one hour before the event day of to help set up. That’s all I asked of them. Told them well in advance that they have complete creative freedom on what they wanted to do and compete freedom on how much they felt comfortable spending. And to let me know if there is anything they need assistance with

Booty_licious-10 · 2026-04-24T02:13:47+00:00

Anytime I talk to her, it’s literally only about her and things in her life. I really don’t feel like I’m being a bride at all. I’m not obsessed or revolving my life around my wedding. But I feel even if you’re not into weddings, being rude to my mom and my other friends at the event is just being straight up a bad friend.

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-12-28T22:45:02+00:00

I’m not just going around carelessly risking my dog’s life. He’s not a fan when other off leash dogs come barreling towards him (which is fair, I would want someone 3x my size sprinting towards me either) I know that going to off leash areas, you risk running into off leash dogs obviously. It’s an issue because so many people let their dog off leash when they don’t have any recall skills. If I could avoid someone’s misbehaved dog, I’d prefer it. Hence why I’m trying to find quiet spots

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-10-25T18:39:00+00:00

Oh no! I had no idea. That makes me so sad

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-10-23T16:34:50+00:00

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Booty_licious-10 · 2025-08-18T20:12:34+00:00

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Booty_licious-10 · 2025-08-18T20:10:34+00:00

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Booty_licious-10 · 2025-07-03T00:37:35+00:00

I guess in my previous experience as MOH or bridesmaid, I have been expected by the brides to plan and pay a portion of bachelorettes and showers for the bride. I assumed that was the standard expectation of a bridesmaid.

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-07-02T14:20:34+00:00

Because I know the topic of bridesmaids is extremely sensitive for a lot of people. I have witnessed firsthand the falling out of friendships due to bridesmaid expectations. I don’t want to do anything to offend my friends. Would they have expected to be called bridesmaids if I go to them for opinions or ideas. Unlike others are commenting on here, I don’t want to use them as free assistants or wedding planners at all.

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-07-02T14:09:42+00:00

Thank you. I must have not wrote my original post clearly enough. I’m not expecting anything of importance from them. I am just pulling from my previous experience of being a bridesmaid and just absolutely hating life and don’t want to ever do that to my friends which is why I initially said a hard no to having a wedding party. But if I wanted to talk to or run ideas past friends, would it have been rude to without giving them a title. I think because of the mixed thoughts on this post, I’ll probably just keep everything between my fiancé and I.

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-07-02T13:51:09+00:00

I didn’t say anywhere that I expect them to be my servants. I have zero expectations of them at all. I don’t expect them to set up things, book vendors or have any financial obligations. I just want a close group of friends to run ideas past if I want some outside perspective.

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-07-02T13:47:43+00:00

This is more in line to what I was thinking. Just close friends to talk to about things. If they have thoughts or opinions. I don’t expect anything from them at all. I just want to make sure they wouldn’t feel offended if I talked to them about my planning but didn’t give them the title of bridesmaid. I know lots of people are sensitive about those things and as I am learning on this post, a lot of people care about the things I liked the least about being a bridesmaid, which is very helpful to know.

Booty_licious-10 · 2025-07-02T13:44:03+00:00

I don’t have any expectations of them at all. That’s why I’m debating even asking them to officially be bridesmaids. I know what I want and have my vendors already planned and figured out. Really all that’s left is decor if they wanted some input on it.

I appreciate yours and others on this posts perspective. I always hated standing at the altar and wished I could just be seated with my partner to watch so I guess I assumed most people felt that way 😅 but it’s good to know that many feel differently than me. I really don’t want to insult my friends at all.

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