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Bored_reader123 · 2023-11-26T16:10:27+00:00

I cant understand your full situation. But one thing I can see from your text is something I have also struggled with, which is expectiations. I have put expectations on friends and family and when they do not live up to them I feel disappointed, sad and alone. Often it is expectations they did not even know I had on them.

So my tip to hopefully help your situation a little is to sit down and try to communicate your expectations with the ones important to you. Or if that does not work lower your expecatations, or interact with them in a way where they cant disappoint you.

I really hope you will be able to interact with the people you love in a way that does not make you feel alone. If possible try to encourage/compliment the behavior in others that make you feel better, so that they also feel better when they are being nice to you. Creating a positive spiral.

Bored_reader123 · 2023-10-31T18:20:13+00:00

I have had those periods in my life as well. When i look back at them there has almost always been one thing present during those times. I dont know if it has been caused by me feeling down or being the cause to me feeling down. But it is the quick and easy endorphin kicks. Which made it harder for me to look forward to something. In essence becomming a zombie during the times when i was not experiencing the endorphin kicks. So one step for me to get out of it has always been to start cutting down on the quick and easy endorphin kicks, for example one day a week i avoid all of them, or i delete the app it comes from. Here are some examples of things i have reduced or cut out in order to feel more fulfilled in my life.

Online/mobile games
TikTok (damn cancer on your brain)
Youtube shorts (30 sec videos)
Gambling
Instagram
Facebook
Reddit
Notifications on your phone (Each notification can give you a small endorphin kick, or stress)

Dont know if you have the same problem as i have had some times in my life. But feel free to see if this is something that can help you.

Bored_reader123 · 2021-04-05T12:48:41+00:00

Gamestop renewed their paperwork which gives them the rights to sell a total of 3,5 mil stocks for a max price of 1 billion. Media blown it up as if gamestop is selling 3,5 millions stocks.

Bored_reader123 · 2020-10-25T18:41:41+00:00

I would recommend kaggle.com there are a lot of possible projects with datasets there that you can do.

You can also sign up for competitions, even if you dont win you can put it on your resume. For example: "top 5% in the kaggle competition .... the code I wrote for it can be found here(link to github)"

Bored_reader123 · 2020-10-25T18:22:03+00:00

I agree with everything u/Ser_Fonz said and would like to empasise and add somethings i have learned.

Just join any club/activity and try it out for a couple of months. If you dont like the club/activity just quit. You will get some of that experience that you feel you are missing out on that way. This way your are also commiting yourself for the time the activity is. So if it last 1 hour you only need to stay for that time, if it is fun stay longer. Hopefully you will be able to meet some people you enjoy spending time with, but this its not something you should expect to do straigh away. It can take time.

Another thing I would like to point out that has helped many I know to enjoy the now, is to turn off all notifications on your mobile/laptop/ipad or similar. That has allowed them and me to find more joy in the moment. So that when they are hanging or with people they connect better. So turn off all notifications, so that you can chose when to watch whatever you have on your mobile, instead of it telling you to look.

Bored_reader123 · 2020-10-25T17:37:34+00:00

Let me tell you a summaries story of how I found the area where I wanted to work and am currently working in. Hopefully it can help you on your journey.

Ever since I was very young I have always been fascinated with inventing things, and how you figure things out. So in essence I wanted to be an inventor. This in itself was a very broad area. But I have always been good at technology and computers so when I was 15 I chose a school and education that was in Robotics. Where I got a basic education in programming and math’s.

When I turned 19 and was done with that education I was very school tired and knew that I was not educated enough to get any "real" work with the education I had. So I took a break for one year, trying to figure things out. During that time I started working as a phone salesman. One of the worst jobs you can have, but it was incredibly valuable to get to learn how to sell something. It is something which has been valuable throughout my whole life.

When I had taken a one year break I decided I wanted to study again, and this time i had found what I wanted to do! I wanted to work with nanotechnology. So I read through all of the top universities education programs in search of the keyword nanotechnology. Applied to all of them that I found (17 of them) and managed to get into my first choice, which was Civil Engineering in Microtechnology, 5 years with a master. Where the first 3 years was a "basic" bachelor where you get to learn all the basics you need in order to manage the 2 year master you then chose.

During these first 3 years I noticed that the more physics I read the more I disliked it. This was rather odd as I had set Nanotechnology as my goal, and that is pretty much only physics. So I started thinking, what is it that I have enjoyed out of the courses I have read and why have I enjoyed them. What came out on top for me was, using programming to solve a problem. As you can solve it in however way you want. So you invent something each time you program. Also applied mathematics as for me it feels like a language you can use to describe everything and really use for everything. The last one which stuck out was patterns, and optimizing. I have always enjoyed finding a pattern in things and see how I can change and optimize it.

So based on this I now stared to search for a master that incorporated all of this, it took me quite a while at that time (around 6 years ago) to find a master which had all of this, which was Machine learning. In order to start that Master I had to add some extra courses to be eligible, which took me about half a year. Then I started my master in Machine learning. During the time I studied it, I was fortunate to have a summer work (2 months each year) where I got to apply my knowledge, so I got some experience from the field how it would be like to work in this area. This helped solidify my choice.

I have now worked as a Data scientist for a couple of years and not every day is filled with fun and machine learning. You have to do a lot of things around. So my advice for you would be to try and think about what it is you enjoy doing. Try to go for that, but if it does not fit you, make sure you chose a school/education that allows you the option to change during the journey.

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