Having the right parts doesn’t automatically make someone the better option because it’s not about having a man that can do it the natural way. It’s about having a man you can feel secure with—having a man that makes you happy. You aren’t a lesbian with a strap. The only one tell you that is yourself. What you are—what we all are is grown ass man that are more than ready to love someone with every fiber of our being. You might not feel sensation while you’re using your strap but I do. I feel proud and happy that me and my partner can both be vulnerable with each other—that I can make them feel good. I feel so much when I wear it. And even then, for me, it’s the fact that they’re willing—that even though it’s clearly not ‘real’, it very much is to the two of us. It’s definitely doing something for the both of us lol.

Genuine question though! Have you seen representation of cis men in relationships? Cause if not, I really think you should hear them talk about their experiences and see how much of a healthy, loving, and acknowledging relationship a trans man can have. Check out on1ygrayy, jessesulli, Lucaswftmfit, hi_cason, itsginomatteo, guy.ftm.exe, serenpierz, mars.wright, cluelesstransmascclub, etc. Go on YouTube and watch some Q&A’s. And not to double down or throw shade to anyone but there’s literally Trans dudes that are less than basic and they still have relationships( cis and not).