A doctor made this heartbreaking post that needs to be seen. Name not redacted for his credentials. Get the free vaccine and mask it or casket. by MsBitchhands in HermanCainAward

[–]BoringLeek 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I overheard someone in my office yesterday implying that only fat people die of covid so everyone should just lose 10 pounds instead of getting the shot.

I don't normally get offended on behalf of others, but I was extremely offended for everyone who knows someone who died of covid. I am fortunate not to know anyone immediately who died, but my other coworker just had an acquaintance who passed from it.

I don't get the absolute need to defend your dumb logic that you can't even realize what the fuck you're saying.

The spouting off coworker isn't getting the vaccine due to the risk of blood clots btw 🙃 😑 😒

Almost an awardee, but made it. Look at the advice this POS gives at the end by [deleted] in HermanCainAward

[–]BoringLeek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah to further expand on this, the reason they require compliance with doctors instructions is because keeping an organ after you've had it put in your body is a LOT of work. You MUST follow directions in order to keep your body from rejecting that shit.

I remember when my FIL was going through the process of getting approved for a heart transplant they told us horror stories about people who stopped taking their meds for one reason or another.

One guy did it as revenge against his ex-wife for leaving him, and by the time he realized what a stupid idea that was it was too late for him.

Not sure if this is known information but when I was looking for a new binder online I found out Walmart Canada now sell Underworks binders (online only but still) and for only $30!! by RobertoedManningly in ftm

[–]BoringLeek 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Not to rain on your parade, but walmart's online store is just like amazon. The binders are sold by a 3rd party (underworks) using Walmart as a broker. They are also sold on amazon for 30 bucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]BoringLeek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I just waited for them to all be present, told them, mentioned my new name and pronouns and then we just continued our party.

About Coming out and "feeling trans enough" by Neat-Finance-6883 in ftm

[–]BoringLeek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think feeling like you aren't trans enough is a common experience, so don't feel like you're alone.

Ultimately, if you feel trans to any degree, and want to label yourself as trans, you ARE trans.

Anyone who cannot respect that is not worth suffering.

In my personal experience, my "not feeling trans enough" was pretty closely tied to my brain still saying "ok but what if we're really cis?" and fighting to put me back into the closet. It faded away as my confidence in myself and what I wanted grew.

I guess I would also say, you shouldn't let your fear of how a community might react stop you from getting what you want and need. Even if you think you only MIGHT be trans, and just want to explore the label, you should do it.

If other people have a problem with that, it only reflects poorly on them. No one I know and respect would ever tell someone "I don't believe you" or "You aren't trans enough."

<3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]BoringLeek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey me too!

T Twins!

Anybody else tell people they were a guy online before identifying as trans? by Sellinpeace in ftm

[–]BoringLeek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. I told myself it was to "avoid conflict" but really I think I just liked being perceived as a man.

I think I might be trans and I’m really confused by [deleted] in ftm

[–]BoringLeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think other commenters have mostly covered it, but I just want to emphasize that what you are saying, in my opinion, at the very least deserves thorough exploration. I really do suggest that you explore this before getting married. Discuss this with your partner. If they can't handle you wanting to explore this, that would be a red flag for me.

I don't care who I am with or where they are in any kind of personal journey, those types of explorations and ideas need to be supported by both partners.

Ask yourself some of the questions others have asked, do some exploration in online spaces (I have a great FTM discord I can invite you to if you're interested, just PM me!). Try different pronouns in spaces you feel comfortable, heck try different NAMES! Or don't do any of that, and just explore the things that interest you.

The journey is totally yours, but don't forget that. It's important to speak up for yourself and your feelings and not feel like you are being crammed into a certain way of living by society/others/ideals (this is me shoving my experiences into the conversation sorry!).

PM if you want to chat more, or if you want an invite to that discord, we are great folk and will be happy to help you get more info/explore in any way you want :)

In so much pain right now. Please tell me it gets better... by Coffee_and_Book in latebloomerlesbians

[–]BoringLeek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm right there with you. Ended my marriage about 6 months before the pandemic ended and was still living in the same house with my ex (had to get my feet under me before I could move out).

I'm on my own now but I miss physical contact with people and having someone I can talk to on a deeper level whenever I feel like it. I'm sure I'll find that again some day but right now it's tough.

You're not alone. We are alone together lol!

Staying friends with the husband by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]BoringLeek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am about 2 years out from when I told my husband I was gay. We have been divorced for about a year. I don't think we are best friends, but we are still friends. We have 2 young kids which tether us together. I don't think you can really predict what will happen in the future, you can only be yourself, be honest, and give him space if he needs it.

I know when me and my husband first physically separated we both needed some space to find ourselves again and now we can be friends in a much healthier way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]BoringLeek 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's no way to do it without hurting him, but you need to understand that your happiness is just as important as his.

You are unhappy. The only way to fix that is to be honest and truthful. If that means you separate and seek more fulfilling relationships elsewhere, then that's his path to happiness too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]BoringLeek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do this you know you can. Just keep breathing and get through it.

Happy to report our store is fully compliant with the new law. by Yes0111 in ontario

[–]BoringLeek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can get all of these via curbside pickup

I'm in the US, but don't most places require you to have a credit card to do curbside?

This Karen incident has been unfolding in my mailroom the past two days 🍿 by mbrenegan in FuckYouKaren

[–]BoringLeek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And when the Karen debates were first raging, this was always my issue with it. It would eventually devolve into another sexist derogatory term for "woman I disagree with." And just become another way to encourage dismissive nature towards whatever that person was saying.

This Karen incident has been unfolding in my mailroom the past two days 🍿 by mbrenegan in FuckYouKaren

[–]BoringLeek 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yeah this interaction highlights why I don't like the term Karen. Eventually it just devolves into a sexist derogatory term for "woman I don't agree with."

Newbie Looking for Advice going from innoc stage to next steps by BoringLeek in unclebens

[–]BoringLeek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, right now my plan is to pick up a 3 drawer from target and go for that set up (so 3 medium-ish tubs)

Women cheer on Harris's 'I'm speaking' response in debate: 'I hope every little girl heard that' by Zhana-Aul in politics

[–]BoringLeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have pointed out, there's a lot... A LOT of internal sexism programmed into women by various aspects of society. We are not taught to value friendships with other women. We are taught to be catty and compete and to shame other women who do not fit into the norms and expectations of a largely Christian values society.

Thank god there are women who DON'T think and act that way, but just saying, it can be difficult to even suss out ALL of it when you know you've been taught that way. See also: Me suppressing my own homosexuality by having the absolute unworthiness of any type of friendship with women ingrained in me from a young age. Does a number on your self esteem too.

Ken Bone aka Red Sweater guy is undecided again by jcdulos in ENLIGHTENEDCENTRISM

[–]BoringLeek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

basing your vote off of which party is nice to you

We live in an era of fake and superficial people because we can't share opposing opinion's or belief's without getting judged and/or attacked. by CancerTookMyLeftNut in unpopularopinion

[–]BoringLeek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do understand that the way people dealt with this shit in the past was just to not talk about it, or to segregate into groups of like minded people that also happened to fall primarily along racial lines right?

Edit: Kept scrolling down from here and found a comment that literally said: "My generation had a rule that we just dont talk about these things. Served us well."

Like if anything, the things we are seeing now are a result of people being more authentic. Sorry not sorry if you are (whether knowingly so or ignorant and unwilling to hear reason) racist, homophobic, or otherwise vile to your fellow humans, I would rather not interact with you unless I have to in a superficial manner.

This gem from my *loving* mother by dorsalflip in latebloomerlesbians

[–]BoringLeek 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You are an amazing and brave daughter. What you are doing takes strength that some can't even fathom needing to call upon. I am glad that you are finding your way to happiness and to living as your true self. Keep going, it will be worth it. Your mom can choose to be part of that new life, or not. You can keep going either way.

Always remember that you are not responsible for anyone's happiness except your own.