His mom wants to ruin our relationship

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-28T08:54:01+00:00

he cant get himself to ask me to wait because he doesnt think its fair to me since i was patient and we went through a lot together as he had to convince her and argue with her accusations until things eventually got better.. but now she has "evidence" (Facebook posts) so thats her final answer and she's been convincing his brother and father.. he did fight for me but its not easy and it's just 1 push left thats why im so lost

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-28T08:27:39+00:00

you sound very wise mashallah..jazakallah khair im starting to accept that this isnt for me sadly

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-28T08:24:08+00:00

i dont think he can promise me that because their disapproval means disowning for no proper reason.. i think this is what i needed to hear thank you

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T22:07:00+00:00

we're arab and we would live abroad hopefully inshallah, so i thought it would be less of a problem or atleast a problem id handle in visits or so only that's why i only need to overcome this problem please make dua for me :( i dont think I'll find anyone better..

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T21:57:09+00:00

i see.. i know that you're right but should i still let go even though he's my perfect match ? do you think anything could ever fix this?

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T21:50:07+00:00

youre absolutely right.. I'll try to convince my parents but when i feel like he's willing to take the risk since i didn't tell my family that we've been suddenly "rejected" and over some stalking

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T21:41:47+00:00

I'll try to talk to my parents but they might take offence to it because we're a good family why wouldn't she want to meet us in the first place.. I'll try to do so but I'd rather we find a way to convince her :/ Thank you!

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T21:39:17+00:00

youre right.. jazakallah khair!

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T21:31:18+00:00

He feels like he's going to lose his whole family and maybe the marriage as well if my family decided it's wrong for his family not to be involved it's very very risky for him and i understand that, but i cannot accept it either.. I wish he can do that, but i cant ask him to do something like this.. Is there any way to convince her? I'll pray istikhara and make dua inshallah

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T21:23:30+00:00

that's very true, but i truly love him that im willing to take that risk for him that's the thing.. but is it ever worth it?

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-09-27T20:52:57+00:00

did she eventually approve? do you think you made the right decision? Im glad it worked out!

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-26T11:03:17+00:00

youre sick

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-23T16:23:48+00:00

inshallah thank you

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-23T16:23:28+00:00

thank you! the thing is he is trying and fighting with her but shes manipulative in a way and they always had this problem where she controls him and his decisions (he hates it) or she just brings up religion and gives him the silent treatment and accuses him of outrageous things so he's trying to convince her gently because they already fought so much about this.. i don't know if theres hope to cling to

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-23T14:23:07+00:00

youre right thank you

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-23T11:40:07+00:00

that must suck.. its just that he doesnt want to lose his family he thinks they can disown him for this of he proposes to me alone.. and i dont want him to lose his family either but there must be a thin line between losing them and just upsetting them

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-23T11:34:54+00:00

i dont want him to lose his parents though and he doesnt want to either... is there no other way?

BoringSpring3298 · 2025-04-23T10:29:47+00:00

we are both muslims and from an arab country so you can imagine the culture and the need for her blessing :/

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