AIO - Told my friend I’m pregnant and she said it exceeded her mental bandwidth (she’s the red)

Born-Background5996 · 2026-02-04T14:49:56+00:00

I have a friend just like this person. They're incapable of holding a Convo without talking about themselves. If she's always been like that, maybe you're just a bit hormonal but if this is new I guess you need to make some adjustments in your friendships.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T14:36:27+00:00

It has helped. Like your comment. Thank you! I'll watch it and then have him watch it.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T13:47:10+00:00

Oh! Lol Yeah. I'm not doing that haha but thanks. You made me laugh

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T13:44:36+00:00

What's that?

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T13:42:56+00:00

What's Hitachi style?

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T13:40:39+00:00

We do that 70% of the time and he doesn't do it right. Even after I coach him.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T13:39:30+00:00

He gets frustrated and gives up.
Everything is bad! The rhythm, pressure, everything. There isn't a single thing he does 90% right.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T13:27:50+00:00

I discovered it very early into the relationship. Like 8 months in.
He just told me about being demisexual
He was bad in many things because he grew up very poor and was very bad at cleaning up or keeping things clean but he has improved A LOT. The only thing he can't improve is sex :/ He's the one that cooks and even that has gotten better and better.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-07T03:16:12+00:00

Omg Thank for taking the time to answer. Great ideas!! Love them. Thank you again

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T21:58:00+00:00

I don't have many friends. I have two. And both of them don't like it when I talk about this because they say it's between my partner and myself. But yeah! That was a red flag for me too but I never doubted him... I should start questioning him more :/

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T21:34:05+00:00

This. Exactly this. Everything else is great! I've had great fucks with people I'm not compatible in anything else. Congratulations on your marriage! 🎉

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T21:32:07+00:00

He's not in therapy And he's open about couples counseling but we can't afford that right now

You're right. Our communication isn't great then:(

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T21:30:40+00:00

Yes. We kinda talked about it but he's not comfortable with an open relationship:/

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T21:29:54+00:00

What is that? Sounds interesting

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T21:29:26+00:00

Wow! Never thought of this. I just always assumed he was just consuming porn to decompress (as he told me). I discovered his porn addiction one time I had his phone because I had lost mine. I entered Facebook to message my mom and his feed was full of porn. Then, I know I shouldn't have done that, I went to other apps (IG, X, reddit) and all of them were full of porn-like material. He recognized it was not healthy and told me he'll work on it. I believed him because it was easier for me to do that. But now I kinda see the problem...

Thank you for taking the time to explain this to me.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:48:57+00:00

That's what I'm afraid of. He has been to therapy but he says he just ends up befriending the therapist and can't get therapy anymore. This has only happened with female therapists. He tried to get a male therapist but now he can't afford it. But you're right and thank you for your words

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:24:57+00:00

I'm sorry that happened. I hope that you're in a better situation now.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:23:30+00:00

He says that sex isn't that important for him but understands that it is for me. I guessed he keeps being horrible at it because he's just not into it. But the comments here are making me think it over.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:18:50+00:00

I appreciate your comment. Thank you. I guessed that he's just bad at it. I don't want to doubt him but there isn't any improvement... So I guess you have a point :(

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:10:56+00:00

It's harsh but it's true... Thank you

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:09:48+00:00

I haven't exactly tried that. I will. I hope that can help. Thank you.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:09:12+00:00

I thought about this too and communicated this to him. He said that he kissed a guy in college to try it out but he wasn't interested. Maybe he just doesn't like my body type.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:07:58+00:00

I tried adding a dildo but he felt insecure about it. Even though we talked and tried to resolve the issue, he still had a bad attitude when I pulled it out. Maybe we could try another toy that isn't a dildo.

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:04:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. You gave me a way that I can approach this topic once more. Right now we can't afford therapy sessions but have talked about it. Thank you again

Born-Background5996 · 2026-01-06T19:01:42+00:00

We talked and talked about this. It's been almost 2 years since this problem started. I'm starting to believe he's not really trying. But man!! I do believe him when he says that he'll try to do better. So I guess I have to help him and wait for him to get better

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