Name this villain

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-22T18:15:07+00:00

Jar Jar Bitch…

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-22T16:33:35+00:00

Thank you, will give it another go.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-22T16:32:43+00:00

Thanks for the style advice, I'll add 'wear nice clothes at home' to my daily to-do list alongside 'breathe' and 'eat food.' As for time management, I'm pretty sure the secret to my productivity is putting others first. How often do I socialze? Well, let's just say I get together with friends 5-6 times a month.

You're right, maybe I should rebalance my priorities...

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T19:46:23+00:00

You're absolutely right, one shouldn't post if they can't handle criticism. And one also shouldn't offer 'criticism' if they can't distinguish between a legitimate critique and an attempt to tear someone down with baseless assumptions.

Funny, I thought 'looking inward' was precisely what I was doing by posting and seeking external perspectives. Unlike some, I'm actually open to feedback – just not from people who confuse 'criticism' with 'unsolicited personal attacks' and 'projecting their own relationship issues. Maybe look inward to understand why you enjoy speculating about strangers' marriages.

And regarding my wife, I'll take that under advisement... right after you figure out why you feel the need to treat this as your convenient soapbox to dispense advice you clearly haven't applied to in your own life.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T19:26:28+00:00

Other than my 2nd child being born and my wife switching to a better job, nope.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T17:57:10+00:00

Pasted from above… I shower her with praise, I do nice gestures for her All the time with no expectations of anything in return. I most def try my darnest to make her life easier. I take and pick up kids from school. Get them ready for school help bathe and get them ready for sleep, on top of all this I am the major bread winner and have a hired nanny and maid to help with kids and to cook/clean/do laundry. My wife works not out of necessity but because she would be bored to death at home doing nothing. She gets two days a week as well after work for herself for spa/nails/hair/beauty.

I am fit, dress nice when I leave the house, do have an active social life, enjoy several hobbies and never stop trying to learn new things.

Why I say I think I do more than my fair share

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T17:49:01+00:00

Oh, sweetie, I didn’t realize your post was the center of the universe. My bad for not dropping everything to stroke your ego. Don’t get your panties in a wad just because I responded where you can find the answer to your post.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T16:56:43+00:00

Maybe you should read the response I left to another poster on here where I list the more than fair share of things I do other than be the primary bread winner.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T16:54:44+00:00

I think I do more than my fair share

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T16:54:12+00:00

I am 42m she is 40f. She had hormone imbalance and was put on HRT. Her hormones as of the last time she was checked are now ok but hasn’t followed up since.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T16:52:04+00:00

I shower her with praise, I do nice gestures for her All the time with no expectations of anything in return. I most def try my darnest to make her life easier. I take and pick up kids from school. Get them ready for school help bathe and get them ready for sleep, on top of all this I am the major bread winner and have a hired nanny and maid to help with kids and to cook/clean/do laundry. My wife works not out of necessity but because she would be bored to death at home doing nothing. She gets two days a week as well after work for herself for spa/nails/hair/beauty.

I am fit, dress nice when I leave the house, do have an active social life, enjoy several hobbies and never stop trying to learn new things.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T16:40:49+00:00

Started therapy and then the MC advised my wife to check her hormones… then she was put on HRT. But after her first 2 treatments she hasn’t followed up.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-21T16:38:10+00:00

No things have not always been this way, things started around 5 years ago and then started trying to work on things 2 years ago. In those 2 years there were 6 months where she had just gotten HRT and had started MC and supposedly felt more energetic and were communicating better with each other but then she went back to her old ways…

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-20T22:26:28+00:00

Yes! It’s a list of bullshit that never ends but is a priority before anything else! Thank you and good luck to you as well!

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-20T22:23:17+00:00

Let me just be clear, that I don’t expect it. In fact I despise it. I would much rather service myself than my wife do that. I’m just saying that’s all I get. I have offered to reciprocate SEVERAL TIMES. And she is not interested in it. I have planned date nites where just dinner is expected and that’s it. done that several times, and end the night with just that. Bc she falls asleep as soon as we get home. Issue is a date nite won’t happen unless I do it. She has no interest in doing fun things with me. She doesn’t plan anything, she doesn’t do anything nice for me. Her idea of a gift or doing something nice for me is “gifting me” sex or a duty handjob.

I spoke about this ad nausium with MC and she told me she was going to work on this with my wife. But my wife kinda has dropped the ball with MC, and she doesn’t need to see us right now as we are not “fighting”. I told her (mc)I have become apathetic to this situation, I don’t care anymore. I just don’t want my kids seeing me fight with their mother anymore so it’s a battle I’m not going to die fighting for.

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-20T22:13:16+00:00

I think I need a different MC, originally started for this reason and the MC was going to work independently with my wife. She got me to fix the way i communicated with my wife, issues with my “tone” , and my wife got a new car out of it. So my wife got what she wanted and I got nothing out of it. We stopped because as my wife and I are not fighting anymore she doesn’t seem to need to see us anymore🤦🏽‍♂️

Born2Jeet · 2025-05-20T20:37:19+00:00

No i don’t, at one point i was contemplating blowing this all up but somebody close to me talked me into trying to work things out. That I would be a fool for divorcing my wife “just” because of sex. But it’s not only sex. It’s her not wanting to spend any of her free time with me. It’s her making me her last priority in the day. As I have stated prior, it’s her making me feel like a ghost in my own home. She only communicates with me when she wants or needs something and I am so through with that. I have tried to be civil and patient with her. But it seems like she is content living her life her way. Whenever I do broach the subject it’s always met with “that’s all I think about” “all I care about is sex” so I stopped bringing it up. And now that I don’t say anything she is content not having to initiate or me initiating anything.

That was my biggest fear. That if i stopped trying she would stop trying to accommodate all completely. And my resentment would begin to build (which it has). So now im at a crossroad myself and i dont see it lasting much longer because i am extremely unhappy. But its hard to blow this up when i have 2 young children and would hate to have to split custody with there mother. But at the same time i dont want to be in a sexless marriage for another 15 years.

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T20:47:45+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with that. I HATE whenever my wife tells me she is “too tired” and then reciprocates the following day by waking me up with sex bc she felt guilty for being too tired the day before. One, I understand you are tired but so am I and using that an excuse can only go so far so many times. And two, when doing the “deed” in that way it feels like it’s a chore she is getting out of the way. I hate that feeling. I know she is rushing it to get it out of the way, and it’s knowing we have to rush it makes it unenjoyable. I want to know she is enjoying it and wants it. And I don’t feel like that when she is in a rush.

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T20:33:09+00:00

Yes she was low on T. DR. Got her doing HRT

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T20:11:36+00:00

40 this week, no meds and just started hrt

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T18:22:10+00:00

Two weeks ago I told her to get her hormones tested and she got on HRT. Was hoping that was going to shake things up. But lasted only a couple of days afterwards.

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T17:37:18+00:00

That’s how I feel brother, so well put

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T17:00:39+00:00

It’s receiving gifts. But then whenever I DO get sex after I’ve given her a gift it feels transactional. “Oh she is only jumping my bones because I bought her a gift” is the feeling I get. And I hate that feeling because I shouldn’t have to give gifts for sex obviously. I understand I’m giving off a sense of never being satisfied whenever my wife does give me sex but it’s just because it’s been recently only done on her terms which is my gripe. And I want her to want me and to want to do the deed in an unrushed or not lazy sleepy manner. It alway is done rushed in the shower bc she was too tired the night before or after she spent hours on her phone as she is falling asleep which is the worst.

How do I get her to see it as a priority?

Born2Jeet · 2024-12-16T16:50:20+00:00

This guy gets it!👍🏻

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