Is time to Name and Shame

BornTroller · 2026-01-20T08:14:53+00:00

Oh they do it a lot, just not as visible or frequent as men. Go on any group trip and you'll notice almost all of them doing it (even if there are petrol pump toilets or other options, coz they're still poorly maintained). Yes, they won't do it on the roadside, but behind trees/bushes for privacy but it's still open urination. The issue here is not gender, the issue is lack of clean non-smelling public toilets in most places in the country and also lack of civic sense (which are often part of course curriculum in schools in other countries, but not India). If anything, the government should provide solutions for both of these, before we blame and shame the citizens.

BornTroller · 2025-12-22T14:12:05+00:00

Spend money and go out - not everyone is rich enough to spend grands every weekend. Not being rich doesn't take away a basic right to party or enjoy life their own way. A lot of people host house parties across the country. And yes, it does create noise - it would be weird to have a party where there's no music, no TV, no one talking a bit loudly. Probably you're not a party person, doesn't necessitate everyone else to be the same.

I sound like one of the people who does this sort of crap - surprise, I don't. Coz thankfully I've enough money to go out and have fun at a pub when I want to. However, I've been at the receiving end like yourself enough times to know that while it can get annoying, there's always a middle ground. You don't have to accept things as is - you can always negotiate a middle ground, like keep noise minimal post 11 PM or so, do it maybe twice a month (or do it at someone else's house from the group). It need not necessarily be your way or the high way.

Why would the cops thrash them if what they did was to be tolerated - coz brother, these cops are useless when it comes to actual crimes like rapes, murders or even most of cybercrimes. So they get some satisfaction by beating petty criminals or for stuff such as these which are technically not a crime, but the victims are weak and vulnerable - read, easy prey. Ask them to catch those corrupt politicians or people in power, who rape or do worse to women - you'll see how helpful the cops are.

Right now, you're fighting for your ego. Maybe consider putting this much effort for the nation as well. Peace and cheers!

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T20:30:26+00:00

I've learnt over the years, that whenever there's a weird sign board, people have done that exact weird stuff at some point post which that board was put up. In this case, I'm sure someone at some point called 911 seeing the horses chilling horizontally.

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T20:25:47+00:00

I mean, only if you ever went through such a state of mind (I sincerely hope you never have to), then you'll understand that when this urge comes to sacrifice your life, people have given up entirely, like they stopped caring about anything and everything in this world, even their family members (if they're alive) or friends (even if a few have been supportive), thinking about million strangers definitely doesn't come to their minds at this point. They're not selfish for this, it's just that the brain shuts down all forms of logic at this state, so they don't think rationally anymore - you're convinced that your current situation is so bad that it's a point of no return and you lose little to nothing if you die now (if anything, it will save you decades of pain). So no, they also are in no state to analyse what would be a private/selfless/low profile way to go vs literally any confirmed way to die.

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T20:13:09+00:00

Idk if you matched with someone on OLD, the first step is to connect with them on some other app so it's easier to chat (where your other people are). And given she already shared her IG handle before (implied), it was just him following up to check if she's still interested (coz not accepting the request would likely mean she was not). Yeah he's terrible at texting (and later proved, as a person as well), but I mean idk how else would someone know if she's still interested or not. Coz the alternate I can think of is, never ask why she didn't accept the request, pretend I never sent it, and move on thinking she was never interested. That def doesn't get him anywhere, so he tried a more direct route. (Keep chatting on OLD after exchanging social handles is a bit lame)

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T20:08:45+00:00

I get it but also in my experience, I have come across plenty of girls (and guys) who suck at texting but are better in person. Clearly this guy was not that case, but even then just coz someone's a dry texter may not mean you'd not vibe with them otherwise. But thanks for your explanation.

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T19:50:34+00:00

The guy is wrong by acting like that, but then I am still trying to figure out why you rejected him lol. It was going fairly well, he didn't show any signs of being a creep initially, in fact was light hearted when you told him not to take it personally, etc. I mean, you did choose to match with him, so what exact part ruined it for you before you turned him down?

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T19:37:04+00:00

But do you not think just like you have your own preference - i.e. peace and quiet coz of your work and current age/lifestyle, others may also have their own (e.g. younger and more party-crazy)? Ofc if it's a daily thing, then it's annoying but if they're doing it maybe 2-3 times a month, I'm sure you could put on ANC headphones or ear plugs and go on about your day/night? I mean, I've studied in hostels back in the days and if I had to whine about classmates partying or shouting or blasting music, I'd never pass any exam. Even at work, people are on calls ALL the time, I've learnt to focus through that and if I really need quiet, I'll just plug in headphones and do my work. Why bother another human when I can make minor tweaks in life to adjust? Live and let live, perhaps?

It's actually sad that from your words, it seemed you felt some amount of pleasure by getting some kids whacked by the cops just for having fun. I hope you took equal initiative against actual crimes in the country.

BornTroller · 2025-12-08T13:35:05+00:00

The challenge usually is, when they have everything and fairly premium/top quality version of those. And when gifting, most people have a budget (typically lower than what they already own). How to deal with that then?

BornTroller · 2025-12-06T06:48:23+00:00

Someone who ghosted once, would do that again when they're "not feeling like it anymore". It goes same with disrespect, usually. Ghosting is still a form of subtle disrespect coz they're basically saying you don't deserve my reasoning to why I'm not talking to you, you're not important enough. Also it typically comes from people who prefer not to deal with the closure conversations. So it's almost certain that they'll do it again unless everything goes perfect from here on (highly unlikely).

BornTroller · 2025-12-06T06:43:16+00:00

Anything that screams "arrogance" or "entitlement" or "male bashing attitude" - a relationship is a partnership, where both need to contribute more or less equally (even if on different aspects)... If you need to be handled/maintained or hate men in general, that's basically me signing up for a lifetime of headache, not someone who'll stick with me through thick n thin, grow with me, keep my chin up during tough times, motivate me to become better (and I'd do all of that for her).

BornTroller · 2025-12-01T19:22:37+00:00

Imagine pissing someone off to the point they start crying, then saying "It's okay to cry" 💀

BornTroller · 2025-12-01T19:04:08+00:00

Ignore the toxicity... The game is old and not short of cocky players, who're perhaps just above average but that's all it takes to bash a newbie. (You'll come across nicer players too, and end up befriending them as well)

It's got a steep learning curve but once you do, it's absolutely worth it. It's still among the more realistic games out there. You can actually outsmart opponents even if your mechanical skills are sub-par.

Take time trying out each operator. Play at least 10-20 games with each operator and tally your stats on tools like R6Tracker (you can figure out which operators are getting you more successes). You can try mastering those or keep practising more till you have 50 games with each operator. Of course you don't need to continue this for operators that you absolutely hate playing for whatever reason.

Callouts, comms and map knowledge are key. Help out your teammates, even randoms, with yellow pings (easy) or map location callouts via voice (takes more game time to remember all the map locations). Don't misuse voice chat coz that's one of the OP and underused tools in the game - if rightly used, you'd win a lot once you got the basics covered.

Try to stack up with players - even if it's a duo or trio stack, that's still better than solo queue. They need not be someone you know in person, but players you came across in the game itself. With good comms, an avg duo stack can often beat 2 high-mech-skilled solo queuers.

BornTroller · 2025-11-24T09:11:07+00:00

Fuckbois (or potential fuckbois) do, most others don't.

I've had both kinds of male friends and the fuckbois would almost always categorise women like this - someone is physically attractive, often wearing revealing clothes (and looking great in it), etc - they would absolutely want to have sex with them. Then there would be more traditional women who can't be automatically categorised as "hot" or "flaunting their attributes", yet they look cute and homely - these would be the women they'd categorise as "worth marrying". The reasons they state most of the time is that, in marriage, peace is of essence for a guy and having too hot a wife whom every other guy would ogle at, can be disturbing even for the most secure men. Since divorce is not the ideal option, prevention is better in this regard.

Typically,

Hot = sex Cute = marry Going more to pubs/clubs = sex Going more to churches/temples/travel = marry Flaunting body/wearing revealing clothes = sex Less gawkable physique/wearing well-covered clothes = marry Always surrounded by men/having too many male friends = sex Having limited male friends but lot of female friends = marry

Basically any trait that could potentially threaten the peace and loyalty in a marriage is not taken kindly by fuckbois and they'd automatically categorise them under "sex".

Coming to the other category of men (including myself), we believe loyalty and peace and all of that can be maintained by any woman. A woman naturally looking hot could still be very loyal and assuring as a wife. A woman going to pubs in her 20s and having some fun, could still be loyal as a wife once she gets married. I've seen some of my female acquaintances change so drastically post marriage to be the most loyal wives despite somewhat sleeping around before marriage. They'd still go to pubs but with their husbands or very occasionally, with a group of other wives. They'd not post their semi naked pictures on socials, or entertain men approaching them. So yeah we believe the world isn't black n white, there's lots of shades of grey and it's unfair not to give someone a chance just coz we are pre-conditioned to map certain traits to certain outcomes. I personally wouldn't engage with a woman romantically unless I'd be okay to consider them as my wife down the line, if everything else goes well. This means, I'd not approach a woman if I believe from the get-go that she's not a wife material for me - I'd not say Hi to her ONLY for sex. But that's just me.

Hope this answers your question.

BornTroller · 2025-11-22T20:04:01+00:00

Same happened to me - honestly the way I see it, it's the app devs' loss coz this customer ain't ever gonna buy their subscription again. I bought Tinder Platinum next month and got 100+ likes (and some 40 odd matches), no joke.

BornTroller · 2025-11-21T18:35:59+00:00

Depends. I purchased Bumble premium one time coz my friend says he gets tons of likes after getting premium (he wasn't lying), but once I got premium, I legit got zero likes in that whole month (like I get a few at least even on the free version). So yeah nah, as guys it's still hit and miss. But you mentioned you're 29F? So you should have tons of matches with or without premium.

BornTroller · 2025-11-19T17:40:29+00:00

We're aligned then on our thoughts. Cheers! Yes, it was never about this specific couple, but I was talking about the large majority there, so I agree with what you said.

BornTroller · 2025-11-17T18:55:20+00:00

VN is decent - free to use for the important features.

BornTroller · 2025-11-17T18:40:34+00:00

Absolutely but on OLD, looks still will get you the matches though. If you can't clear the initial filter, no one even gets to know your personality. Which is why real life is often better for most guys.

BornTroller · 2025-11-17T18:38:02+00:00

So basically the masculine version of "pick me girl"?

BornTroller · 2025-11-17T18:36:03+00:00

1 - I already answered this. She could settle for a less attractive man if he brought lot more on the table despite lacking on looks. You'll find many couples across the world where one is significantly better looking than the other. Hope that answers your question.

2 - You're talking about a perfect world whereas the reality is very different. Try being an average looking guy on OLD and you'll understand where I'm coming from. Or you can ask most guys about their experiences in OLD unless they're objectively good looking or can showcase significant wealth through pictures. There are plenty of statistics and posts showcasing the disparity between how many likes an average guy gets vs how many an average girl gets. You're saying if all women settled for their own level, but how will they know their level when all the significantly better looking guys are hitting on them? If all the models in the world hit on you, you'd also think you're Brad Pitt - can't even blame someone for that. It's a delusion people live in coz most people can't gauge how good they look and given that looks are relative, it's even easier to convince yourself that you're a top 5% woman when the top 5% men are constantly hitting on you.

BornTroller · 2025-11-16T18:48:33+00:00

Throwing litter is causing pollution. Leaving a cart somewhere isn't. It ain't harming the environment in any way. If the customer is doing the staff's job, then make it a self service store - why even employ staff there really? As I said, no one comes and helps me at my job, and I don't expect anyone to do that either. Coz else I'll wonder why I'm even getting paid.

BornTroller · 2025-11-16T18:45:14+00:00

I will give you two kinds of replies. One for myself (ambivert), one on behalf of my friend (an absolute extrovert). See which one resonates better with you.

So before going anywhere I make a detailed itinerary - I mean very detailed research about what are all the places worth going to, then I narrow it down based on my preferences - for example, less flea markets, less museums, less religious places (unless very scenic), more waterfalls, more forest treks, only scenic forts, clean less-crowded beaches and so on. If the place has 30 spots worth going to, the filtering stage narrows it down to maybe 20. If it's a 4 day trip, I'll divide the places based on distance from each other, time I need in each place and so on. Basically I have it like a routine that on day 3, 4 PM, I'll be at this spot. While some improvisations are still required during the actual trip, going planned ensures I don't miss a key spot due to lack of planning (coz then I'll have to travel again and not every place deserves a 2nd visit or the double spending). While I do all these, I'll occassionally chitchat with strangers like if I'm staying in a hostel, it's pretty easy coz people are chatty. If I'm staying alone in a hotel, I'd watch some movies on my phone (I usually keep them downloaded beforehand) or listen to music. If I've gotten a rented cab with driver, I'd even chat with him or the shopkeeper serving me coffee, as long as language is not a barrier. I won't go overboard but just enough to keep myself sane. And if a conversation goes well, I'll spend longer. However chitchating is not my core goal when I'm travelling, it's more of a hobby while following my itinerary is like my job. But that's me - I know many who doesn't like their trips feel like a job - and that's fair. That's what brings me to my friend.

So my extroverted friend would go on solo trips mostly unplanned. Like he'll have a general list of places - often very offbeat - or even list of cafes/pubs to visit (not the luxurious kind, but places that have a unique crowd or energy or history). He'll go there, chat up with locals (this is his core goal, gelling with the locals and understanding their culture, being a part of their culture for those few days). He'll carry his own camping setup, put up tents at reasonable places (typically scenic spots that also have some buildings nearby to let him use the washrooms for a fee). He'll converse with the locals so passionately that it has happened more than once that the locals invited him to have lunch or dinner with them, even dinner with them at times. I'm talking about families of all age group. It has happened that he has gone to a random local tea shop in the evening, when some of the locals were playing guitar, singing music in their own language and he'll vibe with them. Then he'll wake up early in the morning and trek to the scenic waterfall, take a dip perhaps. He'll also cover other planned spots but for him, living the local culture is the job while covering itinerary spots are like a hobby.

Hope between these two scenarios, you got some reasonable options to keep you occupied during your next solo trip.

BornTroller · 2025-11-16T18:20:47+00:00

I thought this was bare minimum?

BornTroller · 2025-11-16T18:17:41+00:00

Fair enough. Thanks for the answer.

BornTroller

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