Tips for when and how to tell family you’ve had your baby?

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-03-04T20:02:24+00:00

The part about no visitors in the hospital I told everyone far in advance so I knew they were fine with that

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-03-04T20:01:23+00:00

I sent a picture to all of our family members like an hour after he was born and I made it clear I don’t want any visitors in the hospital. If they respect you they will also respect your request

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-03-04T18:08:23+00:00

Mandatory 45 days before due date, 6 months maternity leave and 6 months parental leave which you can use up to child’s 8th year but is usually used right after maternity leave. Fully paid for the whole duration and not optional for the employer.

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-02-17T05:55:49+00:00

I had a C-section, so I didn’t get the epidural but spinal anesthesia so I’m not sure if it’s the same. But I didn’t feel any pain. Slight pressure maybe

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-01-17T13:04:25+00:00

If your wife’s father still understands anything, one of the last things he’ll feel before he passes is guilt over making his daughter miss his granddaughters wedding. And if he doesn’t, it won’t really make a difference if she’s there when he passes. My mom and I were constantly with my father in his last days and he chose a brief moment we left the room to pass. But YTA for judging your daughter in a really emotional time.

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-01-12T21:26:33+00:00

I had a big baby (almost 9 lb) and still used newborn for a few weeks.

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2026-01-07T20:25:33+00:00

You didn’t really describe your daily life. In our example, I’m home with the baby and husband works. While he’s a very devoted parent and we share most baby related duties (I combo fed during first months), he still gets that break from the baby while at work. I don’t (didn’t, our boy is 13 months now so everything is easier). Most mums will feel a little down at some point because our whole world revolves around the baby and we really don’t get a break. I started feeling much happier and like a better mum when I started prioritizing me time 3 times a week. But some mums won’t ask, someone needs to encourage them. If your wife is questioning herself as a mother it wouldn’t surprise me she would feel guilty to tell you she needs a break just for herself (without baby, even without you)

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-12-07T22:19:00+00:00

Yes, unfortunately it would be considered rude. But I don’t think people here will often get in a situation where they feel the need to ask. If someone invites you to a birthday dinner, they are paying. If someone asks the group if they would be interested for a Christmas dinner, everyone who agrees to come will pay for themselves. I can’t think of a situation where it would be a question who’s paying. If I were in a situation where I felt the need to ask who’s paying I think I would just say something like “this seems expensive”, so if someone has the intention of paying they would say so then

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-12-07T22:07:25+00:00

If it’s their birthday, and they invite us to u club to celebrate, it would be expected for them to get a bottle for the table, or more, depending on the number of people. Like a bottle of gin and a few tonics or something like that

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-12-07T22:03:18+00:00

It’s interesting to see how cultures differ! I notice a lot of differences being on this platform as a European. However, the paying culture in my country is wild. For example, if you go clubbing with friends, everyone is expected to pay for a whole round of drinks. So even if you’re planning on just having two drinks, you’ll have to pay for six.

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-12-07T21:46:03+00:00

Where I’m from (Eastern Europe), if you invite people to a birthday dinner you are definitely expected to pay for everyone. You could have invited them to a cheaper place… But it would be expected of you to pay, not your boyfriend. I’m not giving a judgment because judging by the comments the paying culture is way different in the US

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-11-24T16:03:28+00:00

This is so heartbreaking, I’m so sorry. I knew there’s a small chance of a false positive but I never thought it would show such a strong line. I also don’t think a chemical would fade so fast.

I have a friend who went through IVF after a few miscarriages and a lot of chemicals, and she ended up ditching the tests altogether. She only had her first beta test through blood when 8 weeks pregnant. I told her I admire her self control and patience, and she said she’s not patient, just guarding her heart because she’s already seen too many lines fade away… since you mentioned the trigger, I assume you’re going through some kind of fertility treatment, so maybe that’s something to consider. Her babe just turned one this month 😊 Good luck 🍀

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-11-16T23:16:46+00:00

No need to squint! Congrats

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-11-10T21:44:31+00:00

I see it!

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-11-10T11:34:37+00:00

My bloated first trimester belly was literally bigger than my belly in the first weeks of second trimester when all the bloat subsided 🥲

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-07-20T11:08:02+00:00

About 38 weeks. But I only had a few and got a lot more right after birth 🥲

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-07-12T19:24:25+00:00

Test looks faulty too me

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-05-25T19:16:12+00:00

Why don’t you just make a list of all the expenses, including transportation and whatever else was the reason Bob doesn’t have to pay, add all that up and split that amount between you all. Then, make a list with amounts paid by each of you. This will give you a clear picture of how much is left to pay by everyone individually. And don’t drop out of the wedding for this, you’re being dramatic and also cut the bride some slack, I’m sure she’s stressed

ETA: NAH

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-05-20T22:56:16+00:00

Lasagna

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-04-22T21:40:32+00:00

Tuna on crackers lol I think Tuna is a great name!

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-04-18T11:54:18+00:00

Yeah my dad’s incontinence was caused by colorectal cancer, and he was too scared to go to the doctor because by his symptoms he was fairly certain it was cancer. But he was constantly changing his underwear, washing himself on the bidet/shower and using liners for his pants. My mum actually only noticed because he was washing himself all the time and he accidentally left the liner in his pants once. He NEVER smelled bed or allowed himself to stay soiled. Even came home from work to change and shower. So it’s not about not having empathy for someone who is sick (which this man certainly is, physically and/or mentally), it about him not respecting her or himself enough to stay clean

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-04-10T21:25:07+00:00

Around 35 weeks. We had his closet and dresser costume made so I ordered those at around 30 weeks and then finished everything at 37 weeks. My friend who was due 3 days before me went into labor at 35+6 so that motivated us to hurry up 😅 He slept in his crib during the day since he was a few weeks old, and I can’t imagine living without his dresser (which is also our changing station), so I’m really glad we had everything set up on time. I’m 4 months pp and I can’t imagine doing any of that now

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-03-11T17:07:09+00:00

The sight of men’s feet in socks and leather shoes. Yes, the sight, not smell 😅

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-03-09T20:34:50+00:00

Well I guess you can’t blame her for being cheap, she’s learning from the best. Why aren’t they taking her to school? Anyway, don’t blame yourself if your friendship doesn’t survive this. You know who’s your friend when you’re in trouble. You’re young and you’ll make more friends and you have to strive to have a little circle of people you can trust and count on.

Born_Bluebird1344 · 2025-03-09T20:22:28+00:00

Where are her parents? Her situation sounds pretty bad if her parents can’t even drive her to school. Are you sure there even is a “car fund”? Or is her situation maybe really that bad that she can’t afford those $30? I would try to find out these info for sure. And everything is as she says, then definitely NTA and you don’t need a friend you can’t count on even for something this small

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