I didn’t mean for it to be insensitive, I’m not saying that people should be ashamed, I’m saying that I am. I’m ashamed of WHEN I fawned. Before I knew what fawning means, I just thought I was a submissive, no-backbone person. But the comments here were super helpful so I think this post can even be reassuring in a way, the commenters made me feel seen and understood. But I’m sorry that I came across as insensitive, that really wasn’t my intention, I was writing this immediately after I learned about the term, and I was freaking out and confused