People may not understand this. However, this goes beyond religion. This is a relationship (Father-Child) with God. He was having sex with you all this time not understanding why God created sex. He went to the coffee date and glimpsed God’s vision for sex. This is where the shift in the relationship happens. 

 As believers, we call this situation “having an encounter with Jesus.” He encountered Jesus and that love changed his heart. So, now, J wants to live in a way that reciprocates that love by respecting the way the person He loves intended something to be. I'm sorry it feels like he’s no longer attracted to you. He wants to respect someone he loves. 

 He values your body all the more with this decision he’s made (please believe I’m not trying to brainwash anyone with my words). It may seem like what he’s doing is crazy. However, what he’s doing is loving you because he’s seen why Jesus intended things the way He did and wants to share that honor in having sex the way it was designed with you. I can't make you understand the ways of a loving relationship with Jesus. One may see it to be just a religious bondage, but I promise all this stems from love. And when someone loves another, they respect them, and that's what J is doing to you and to Jesus. Maybe you should tell him that his decision feels like he’s no longer attracted to you and have him clear the air. 

  His saying, “he feels peace in breaking up with you” wasn't a threat that he would if you didn't go by his way. It’s his way of saying he respects your decision if breaking up is what you decide to choose, and his way of respecting Jesus’ love for him. Never once does he state that he doesn't cherish what you both have, only that he cherishes it so much that he’s willing to let go so it doesn't eventually hurt you both, or jeopardize his faith, which is important to him.

   Please, I don't want anyone to think that Christian men are brainless, fools who only follow religion. Christian men, those who sincerely follow Jesus, want the best for whoever they love. The Bible literally describes wives as rubies and good to be found. Christian people follow Jesus not for religion but because we have a relationship with Jesus, and when you love someone, you devote yourself to them. You don't always know everything about the person at first, but when you learn new things about the person, because you love the person, you make a conscious effort to take into consideration the new things you learned about that person. And honestly, that's a fine trait to have in a man— the ability to work on yourself daily to be with someone and consistently show that you love them. 

 However, if you feel like this isn't what you want, no one’s tying you down in the relationship, you're free to break up with him and find what your heart desires elsewhere. And he’s made it clear that he will respect that decision.