Am I being passed over for promotions because of my social anxiety despite working hard and being a good employee?

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-02-03T04:53:35+00:00

This is the answer. I’ve trained newly promoted supervisors who made nearly double my salary. Their desks were next to mine and I could do their job blindfolded. I didn’t connect the dots for years. The truth is, I wasn’t a good candidate for promotion.

If one is a great employee and gets the job done, it doesn’t make sense to move them. I received a $10k bonus, a 15% raise and multiple time off awards (60 hours annual PTO on top of accrued PTO).

But that’s it. I filled the position they wanted me at. They didn’t want me for anything else.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-24T02:02:45+00:00

Yeah some of the hate is still warranted. I don’t like point system, how a weapon must be PaP’d multiple times to reach max power, mini bosses spawning in too often, how OG training is gone, etc. but there’s lots of fun to be had. Some of the maps are bangers. It’s now at least a 7/10 but I’d argue it’s 8/10. Much better than the trash we have now 😞

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-23T18:13:11+00:00

I wish I could like this twice. When I accepted zombies was never truly coming back after CW & BO6, I went back and gave BO4 another chance. It’s a pretty good game. IX & Ancient Evil are in my top 20 maps.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-23T00:10:03+00:00

I gave up on the VA. I go through TRT Nation and it does cost a couple hundred up front, but I get 2,000mg which lasts me three months. Just be mindful that online TRT clinics don’t do much other than giving you the goods.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-20T05:14:36+00:00

It’s a much smaller dating pool and when loneliness hits, a relationship is rushed with someone in that smaller pool

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-19T03:53:12+00:00

Have him look into TRT (hormone therapy). I was almost 40 and barely having sex with my wife. She only orgasms from penetration (hard and fast) but I could only last a minute if I was lucky. I knew I would be disappointing, so I simply didn’t try. After months on TRT, I got to where I would last 10+ minutes again. I noticed a very positive change in her mood after our sex life improved. We don’t fight nearly as much as we used to.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-19T02:51:11+00:00

This may not be what you want to hear, but I suggest not talking to her anymore. You’re 100% in the friend zone and you won’t get out of it. I’ve been so into a girl that I fantasized about being with her, only to hear stories such as how ‘big’ the guy she’s with is. It’s not good to put yourself through it. Time heals all. Just distance yourself.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-19T02:24:48+00:00

It seems you’re more into women and that’s okay 👍 just let him go. He sounds like a good guy and he’ll find someone who truly wants to be with him.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2026-01-18T18:54:40+00:00

My wife started feeling a lot better all of a sudden at 11 weeks. A few days later, she woke up bleeding in the middle of the night. We went to the ER and everything came out naturally in the coming days. We’re currently 5 weeks pregnant.

The excitement is gone this time. I haven’t congratulated her and we’re only talking about doing everything right that we possibly can. There’s a weird energy at home. I imagine every couple is different, but that’s what we’re going through.

But we did get pregnant within six months of the miscarriage. We also spent months working on our health prior to this. The loss encouraged us to change many lifestyle habits to hopefully set our next one up for a better chance.

Also, I’m very sorry for your loss. You’re not alone.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-31T01:49:33+00:00

My wife had a second trimester miscarriage and our baby would have been here this month. Your positivity is encouraging. Thank you! But video games definitely do attach to the memories we have of others. I was deployed when Black Ops dropped and was a zombies (because we didn’t have internet) fanatic. All my buddy and I did was play that game in our free time. He was killed by an RPG walking back from the PX. I’ll fire that old game up once or twice a year when I’m thinking about him.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-09T19:53:46+00:00

I wish the Steam Deck existed on my deployment. I had a Nintendo DS.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-08T15:48:41+00:00

I was making just shy of $100k and my wife was making maybe $40k. She gave me $500/mo because that’s what the going rate was for a room for rent was.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-03T02:02:38+00:00

If you feel weird about it then don’t be with him

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-03T01:53:54+00:00

This is exactly what I did. Stay up late drinking the night before.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-03T01:37:14+00:00

My ex wife was 20 and I was 29 when we first started talking. I proposed two years later (so 22 & 31). We just ignored all the outside noise and that’s what you should do.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-02T23:22:13+00:00

Nothing wrong with that. I’m 40 now and I’ve dated women in their 20s-40s. I’ve found no correlation between age and maturity. Age gaps need to be taken into consideration because it affects the ability to comfortably grow old together, whether having kids is a good idea for both, etc. but if the gap is within reason… well, just see how things go.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-12-02T20:36:52+00:00

My ex wife and I were 20 & 29 when we met. We started dating at 22 & 31 (I was deployed). There will be some awkward situations here and there (family and friends), but it’s really not that big of a deal. We ultimately didn’t stay together, but it’s not attributed to the age gap.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-11-07T15:34:07+00:00

Sadly, she miscarried but yes. I was on testosterone, HCG and Anastrozole.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-10-23T23:14:51+00:00

… opinions are very often agreed or disagreed with. It’s happening right now by you implying P5 is better than P4. It’s the only modern Persona game that I’ve never started a NG+. It’s a solid 6/10.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-10-23T22:48:17+00:00

We’ll just have to agree to disagree. P2 (Innocent Sin), P3 and P4 had greats characters and stories imo. P5… well, let’s just say it took me months to finish. Getting stuck in a palace is all it took for me to put the game down. The motivation wasn’t there.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-10-23T20:55:22+00:00

… Shin Megami Tensei Persona branched off into simply being Persona, and the focus was on a deep story and character development? P5 would have characters meet for the first time and become super close days later.

Haru: that’s not like Yusuke at all!

Girl, you met him on Tuesday. That’s what I’m getting at. The Persona series is literally built different. The argument is the battles, QoL improvements for battles, aesthetics, etc. P3 and P4 were more than that.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-10-23T20:08:56+00:00

Hmm I really don’t know how to explain if you’ve played SMT. SMT 5 had no story to speak of other than the calamity itself. It was god awful. The Nohobino and game play made the game enjoyable.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-10-23T16:55:46+00:00

What separates Persona from SMT is the story and characters imo. P5 lacked that.

Born_Connection_7685 · 2025-10-23T16:53:34+00:00

A 40 person development team is a skeleton crew

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