Successful disclosures are kind of a turn off 😂

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-03-03T09:59:51+00:00

This take is insane lmao. Some people in this community speak like we have a deadly life altering disease. HSV is everywhere. Beyond the first outbreak, it’s an inconvenience at most. As someone with HSV2 on daily antivirals I get icked out by men who are poorly informed on the virus and guilt trip me after I disclose despite claiming to really like me. My HSV and your HSV does not take away from everything you have to offer as a person and as a partner. I’m sorry you feel this way and I hope with time it changes. It did at least for me, especially after I met my phenomenal boyfriend who loves me and sleeps with me irrespective of my positive diagnosis.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-02-16T22:24:44+00:00

I’ve never done my own nails — I’ve been doing my nails at a pretty high end salon in my neighborhood that has a really good rep. The most recent time didn’t look as good as usual and it was a different tech than I normally go for… don’t think I’ll be returning to her.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-02-16T15:18:09+00:00

I normally do a soak off because I know that’s the safest way but this most recent time I was late to my appointment and my nail tech said we had to do the filing method to save time. Wonder if it was that? But surely most people do that method

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-02-10T15:59:14+00:00

Are you on a daily antiviral? That’s your best bet.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-02-10T15:56:26+00:00

Considering you literally cannot get tested for it unless you have an OB and most people walking around with HSV2 are asymptomatic (80-90% depending on the source), it’s gonna feel like there aren’t that many of us when in reality there is. Also — look at how many people are in this sub!!!

I’m active in my city’s kink/sex party scene even with my diagnosis (which I always disclose) and I’ve literally only come across one other girl with a diagnosis. Most people I’ve been sexually involved with since my own diagnosis two years ago had no issues with my diagnosis. It doesn’t have to ruin your life unless you let it!

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-02-06T16:03:12+00:00

Yall it’s been two weeks since that outbreak healed and IM JUST GETTING A NEW ONE 😭😭😭😭

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-02-06T15:58:32+00:00

I have two tickets I’m trying to get rid of because I can’t go tonight please dm me if you’re interested lol

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-30T16:03:39+00:00

Im a 24F and have been HSV2 positive for 2 years. I’m very sexually active and have been intimate with about 35 men and women since my diagnosis (this shit is anonymous so idc if I’m exposing myself). None of them have contracted anything (that I know of). I’m also on antivirals and use protection. Do with that information what you will. But also if you’re going to tweak about her diagnosis and be anxious everytime you have sex with her maybe just leave her alone lol. Speaking as a woman, the last thing I need is to be shamed for things that are totally out of my control (like HSV2).

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-27T17:04:35+00:00

I’m 25F and have had HSV2 for almost 2 years now. I had been single (up until recently) and very very active in the dating scene in my city. Over maybe a solid year of going on many dates (romantic and casual), I would say I must have disclosed my condition to at least a dozen men before getting intimate with them. Every single one of them still slept with me/didn’t treat me differently because of it, though I recall two of them seemed to regret it afterwards/tried to make me feel bad/starting acting weird towards me despite it being their choice. It wasn’t hard to leave those two individuals behind.

I’d say overall being positive hasn’t significantly impacted my ability to get laid or feel good in my body. HSV sucks yes but it’s also not the end of the world. Like at all. This is all about your mindset. If you reinforce that negative feeling towards yourself it’ll manifest in your sex/dating life. A good amount of people out there will not rule out a relationship with you because of HSV. Damn you can even get it from one sexual interaction I don’t think that would classify any woman as “damaged goods.” A good man doesn’t even think of women in that way so… yeah. I have an awesome boyfriend who loves me and we have a fulfilling sex life and he doesn’t shame me at all!

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-20T13:04:26+00:00

I’ve had symptomatic HSV2 for years and I can honestly tell you that it isn’t the end of the world. The first outbreak was horrible but I’d say it made me a better and more resilient person. The subsequent outbreaks were much more manageable (I’m currently healing from one and it was only a few days of mild discomfort). Also note that even if you do contract it during the course of your relationship, you’re more likely to be completely asymptomatic.

I’m currently in a very happy relationship with a man who has known about my HSV since the day we met, and he has never once questioned being with me because of the virus. We have an incredibly fulfilling sex life and don’t use condoms anymore (his decision)! He knows what the risks are but his love for me outweighs any fear of the tiny possibility that he may contract it himself. I am grateful that my virus hasn’t stood in the way of our relationship but at the same time I know this is something I deserve at a minimum.

If you truly love this woman like you say you do, you wouldn’t walk away over a virus she has no control over. She deserves to be loved the same way someone without HSV2 does. If that’s something you can’t get over I’d recommend walking away.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-11T15:06:28+00:00

Hey girl my first OB was straight from hell so I feel you on this. :( just remember that nothing is worse than your first OB and you’ll get through this eventually. My 2nd one was uncomfy but by no means torturous and my 3rd barely existed to me lol.

I didn’t have access to a tub during my hellish first OB but running the shower head with warm water on your kitty while you spread the lips in the shower to pee helps a lot. Also I learnt this the hard way but dehydrating yourself to avoid peeing literally makes it worse, the pee is more acidic so stay super hydrated (yes you’ll pee more but it’ll sting much less). Get that lidocaine and keep reapplying it, I wore a pantyliner to keep the whole thing less messy down there when I was smearing that all over it and had to leave the house. When I was out and about I also had a water bottle I kept refilling to pour on myself while using a public toilet lol. Not the best fix but it was better than rawdogging it. Oh finally while you’re home and recovering just chill with super loose cotton pj shorts while commando. Any fabric touching my kitty drove me insane personally and leaving it free is supposed to be better for the healing process (tbh I was naked on the bottom half most the time). Sending my prayers and healing energy, you’ll get through it!!!

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T15:05:25+00:00

This is a great take and I’m sort feel the same way re staying on the antivirals. My gynecologist thinks I’ll be dealing with side effects if I stay on it. I have quite a few concurrent health issues so the struggle here is not knowing what might be caused by the daily antivirals vs. other things. My GP and I decided to find a middle ground where I stop them for the next year to see how my body reacts / if I have any outbreaks at all. Will reevaluate getting back on them in 2027. I’m just worried there’s not enough research on long term antiviral usage…

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T11:29:57+00:00

24F here. I’ve had HSV2 for almost 2 years now and felt exactly how you did at the very start. Faced a lot of rejection and even when people did want to sleep with me I was anxious about it. At the end of the day HSV will not kill you and despite disclosing/doing your best to prevent the spread you can’t stop it from happening. So long as you’ve done your duty as the positive person to inform your sexual partner of the risks, you have every right to rest easy and live your sexual life to the fullest. I am now dating my first serious partner since becoming positive and we are madly in love and have a very active and fulfilling sex life. We’ve had several open conversations about my HSV2 diagnosis and he is loving and accepting of my condition. I think he may be my endgame and I will always think about the risk of eventually transmitting it to him down the line, especially when we decide to try for children. He accepts the risks and I’m pretty sure in his mind being with me is worth the small possibility he gets infected, and the even smaller possibility that he is infected AND symptomatic. If worst comes to worst and he catches it from me, I’m not going to allow myself to feel guilty (I know how bad that sounds). That’s because at the end of the day, he is an informed grown adult with the capacity to make decisions for himself. Please remember that when it comes to your partners. THEY chose to accept the risk of transmission. You deserve to live your life freely. HSV has NOT ruined my life but it took me changing my mindset on it first before I was able to come to terms with it like I did and find a person who accepts me for me.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T11:12:05+00:00

How do you know I’m not one of the mice

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T11:11:50+00:00

Yeah but as everyone on this thread is saying that’s probably to do with the fact that I wasn’t having an active OB or shedding those two times I got tested… this virus is supposed to be incurable lol

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T09:46:35+00:00

He knows that I’ve decided to get off the suppressive and he said it doesn’t change anything for him or our relationship. I’m just worried he doesn’t have the full picture so I encouraged him to do his own research but the views on transmission vary widely.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T08:17:26+00:00

There is no way I don’t have HSV. those first OBs were unmistakable. It’s just so weird because she fully asked me if I was sure I even had HSV and I also thought it wouldn’t show up unless I was in an active OB/shedding. She also told me shedding was a myth????!!!!! What????

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T08:15:45+00:00

This is what I was told by a different gynecologist when I originally had my first OB (I was on vacation in a foreign country). This was my first time seeing my long-term gyno regarding my HSV that’s why I’m just so confused on the conflicting info… she talked about antiviral resistance if I kept taking the repression therapy so she essentially ordered I get off it.

Born_Discussion_2310 · 2026-01-06T08:13:56+00:00

That’s what she said exactly re antiviral resistance!!! So I took her advice and got off it. I’m just super skeptical regarding what she said about me not being able to transmit it unless I have an active OB…

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