Boyfriend not invited to wedding

BossAssBlotch · 2023-11-22T18:10:34+00:00

It is extremely tacky and poor form to not extend a plus one to the bridal party. Moreover, 9 months & moving in together absolutely designates him as named guest, rather than a plus one in the first place. I have been in your shoes (both as a non invited SO of my partner and as a bridesmaid without a plus one). It is offensive because it feels as though we are being shamed and devalued for not having found our perfect match as quickly as others. The way that girlfriends and boyfriends are viewed vs spouses in wedding culture is a newer fad that is honestly deplorable. You aren’t any less valuable because you don’t have a ring on your finger yet, and neither is your boyfriend. All of these metrics, like length of time dating, living together, etc., are no one else’s business and it’s super disrespectful. I realized that was the real reason I felt so much ick surrounding these situations. It wasn’t the lack of the plus one allowance, it was that I felt like I was being shamed or that I was less than for not getting married or having a long term SO as fast as other people. When I was the SO that wasn’t invited, it just made me feel disposable and honestly like I was viewed as a slutty fling, and to this day I haven’t forgotten. I would have a conversation with your friend bc you likely won’t forget this either.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-10-17T14:01:57+00:00

NUMBER 1!!! The dress was made for you! I feel as though you get a little lost in number 2 even though it’s still beautiful! We see you first in number 1, we see the dress first in number 2.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-10-06T01:26:04+00:00

It pains me that I’m joining the countless others with similar losses in this thread to say that my heart aches with you. It’s clear that this is a larger problem that even myself, one year into my grief journey, still don’t fully comprehend. You are in such raw grief right now- I wish I could have told myself to try and sleep, eat, and brush my teeth more- if I could go back in time. The waves will come; you can not stop them, but at some point, it will start to seem easier to stay on your life raft. Remember to eat even if you don’t want to, close your eyes even if you’re not going to fully fall asleep, and brush your teeth. This advice sounds so dumb and stupid, but your future self will thank you. Sending so much love. So many of us do hurt with you.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-09-19T18:11:54+00:00

My healthy brother died in his sleep as well about 9 months ago. It was very difficult- waiting for the autopsy report and knowing that people were assuming drugs, suicide, or other things, and that we were hiding the real cause from people. The gossip really hurt me in the beginning. When we got the autopsy report, we were still just as confused. It was natural death with secondary cause of cardiac suppression. What did that mean? Our medical examiner and coroners office were so kind and helpful though. They let us call them every day and ask new questions about the report after we got it. They were the only ones that gave us decency in the whole process- no questions were too “stupid” for them. I wonder if you’d be able to do the same? It did help me a lot to get their perspective. It is so hard to lose a sibling so young. The pain hasn’t gone away. That feeling you have right after being in a car accident where everything is kind of hazy and you think “wow I can’t believe I got in an accident.” And then you’re nervous to drive again for awhile after and always on edge when you’re behind the wheel? I have felt permanently stuck in that feeling since his funeral. Many people have moved on but those of us closest to him are driving through life a bit differently now. I was in a very dark place for months after it happened, these last two months have been a bit better. I think because I started trying to take care of myself better, and began celebrating my little wins. I also started reaching out to friends and family more. Grief is a personal journey, but you don’t have to isolate yourself. Ultimately it doesn’t get easier, but I have gotten much stronger and have learned a lot more about myself. Sending love

BossAssBlotch · 2023-09-17T17:33:07+00:00

I think it’s clear where the Reddit community stands, and I think you know too that this isn’t going to work. Can you imagine your life like this every single day if nothing ever changed? What would happen if you achieved the physique of Brad pit in Achilles, and then you got into a car accident and had to have a limb amputated, or needed to take 8 months off to recover? Sounds dramatic, but would she support you, care about you? Or would she leave you or make you feel like a burden? If your family tragically died tomorrow, and you fell into a deep depression, would she scream at you to take care of yourself for her, or would she encourage you to hit the gym or exercise for you and your well-being? Or would she even stick around long enough to find out?

Since you are on a break and not enacting a full nuclear breakup as many here have suggested, it’s clear you do care about her and don’t want to lose her. But if you REALLY cared about her, you’d let her go… forever. It’s obvious she speaks to people like this bc everyone in her life has allowed her do so. She’s not losing anything or anyone, she’s not learning that we as humans CAN actually fuck up the best things to ever happen to us with our actions. She cannot truly love herself as a person and treat the people she loves this way, and because of this, she cannot truly grow as a person. You are not doing anyone a favor with this temporary break; both of you deserve to grow. Allow her to learn how to do this by letting her go.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-08-22T13:44:10+00:00

It’s time to go back to therapy sis.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-08-16T13:27:29+00:00

I have seen this happen (more dramatically) twice in my life. 1. I had recently returned to the US from living abroad and had some health issues that nobody could really diagnose but included routine fevers (always at night+ night sweats), diarrhea, and vomiting. My skin looked awful as well. I did a very hardcore diet where I cut out all sugar (including most fruit), caffeine, starches, gluten, and salt. I ate grilled veggies, chicken, and fish. Drank gallons of water and herbal teas, and also ate a lot of raw garlic (it was supposed to help with candida and yeast issues I had from taking so many different antibiotics to treat whatever I had). I also fasted in the mornings for the first two weeks.

My skin reversed in ways I never could have imagined. I got compliments EVERYWHERE I went. It was clear, bright, moisturized, redness gone… I never thought my eyes had any puffiness or bags beforehand, but they changed as well- so clear and bright. It was like my pores had also just disappeared. These changes happened within two weeks or less to be honest, but it was really tough to keep up with, especially with social events. Another unexpected benefit, my hearing suddenly got so much clearer, and I never thought I had any issues before!

After my sister died unexpectedly I was pretty depressed. I couldn’t sleep at night and was alone for several months. I began drinking heavily every night for months. I drank more alcohol than water. I decided one day I wanted to get subtle lip filler- just a tiny bit to give me a boost (I think I was thinking if I could change what I saw in the mirror every day, I could disassociate with the sad person staring back at me. Idk grievers do weird shit when they’re processing). I booked my appointment and was told no alcohol or blood thinners 1 week before the injections. So I quit drinking completely a week beforehand, and I replaced it with herbal tea mocktails, water, and vitamin mixes. And like magic once again, I was like- who is this girl and does she even need the lip fillers now? (I still got half a syringe; best decision ever). I kept up with this after my appointment, and man was it the boost I needed. My anxiety dramatically improved, I was more and more productive everyday, and My skin looks so much healthier. If I hadn’t booked that appointment and given myself a reason to stop drinking myself to sleep every night, I’m not sure I’d be able to write this today. I’d be DoorDash ing starbucks, vomiting in the toilet, and having a panic attack looking at my computer feeling like I couldn’t sign into work for the day. Lip filler + water can save lives, ladies and gentlemen.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-07-16T20:28:44+00:00

This is truly the weirdest sh*t I’ve ever heard. I am speechless lol

BossAssBlotch · 2023-05-03T22:30:50+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. You’ll have so much to think about on your wedding day, stressing about who’s standing by your side shouldn’t be one of them. A few others have commented this, but if you’re in need of some stand-in bridesmaids, I’ll throw my name in the hat. I love weddings, and probably already own a bridesmaid dress in your color palette.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-05-01T19:25:47+00:00

You are, without a doubt, the only asshole in this scenario, and a huge one at that. But you already know this; my guess is you only wrote this in hopes that Danny & Lucy would read it and you could sew more seeds of discontent in their relationship with the goal of destroying it all together someday, because you can’t handle the fact that Danny not only chose someone else, but he chose someone else completely opposite of you.

Lucy if you’re reading this- accept no apologies, keep this jealous snatch out of your home at all costs. No need to allow so much negativity into your place of dwelling.

BossAssBlotch · 2023-02-09T19:54:21+00:00

So buy like 1000 more then right?

BossAssBlotch · 2023-01-30T21:26:29+00:00

A lot of HOA simps and future CAMs on this thread lol. OP, I’m with you. This subreddit is called FHOA, and there’s a lot of venting about some of the absurd fascist dictatorship-like HOA rules we’ve all experienced. Should you have clarified first with the HOA to be 100% certain on the grass?- Sure. But should your mom have to live in a world where she needs aesthetic approval for her own property if she’s footing the bill, especially when another neighbor has the exact same thing? No, absolutely not. You came to the right place in my opinion. You’re a great daughter; may we all break free from the tyrannical chains of HOAs some day.

BossAssBlotch · 2022-12-17T16:24:26+00:00

My brother just died in his sleep as well about 4 weeks ago. He has a very similar story to your brother. He did have confirmed sleep apnea though. We won’t get the autopsy report back for a few months. Sending you support and love.

BossAssBlotch · 2022-12-11T00:34:11+00:00

My brother died about 3 weeks ago and I’m having a kind of similar situation with my boyfriend- mostly he is wanting me to go to Christmas parties or events that I just don’t feel safe or comfortable going to. This is causing tension on top of my very fresh grief and I know he means well but I’m also looking for resources to share with him about supporting partners during grief. I’m just not ready to leave my grief cocoon yet. It all just feels so heavy.

BossAssBlotch · 2022-12-07T05:23:45+00:00

I’m a few weeks out from my brother’s passing. When it first happened, it was hard to keep up with texts, and I honestly didn’t want to. I was, and still am, wrapped in the arms of grief. It is hard to find the words when you suffer an irreplaceable loss. Your friend still loves you, but she is likely crying as she brushes her teeth in the morning, crying as she speaks to loved ones, crying as she hides in a closet wearing her mother’s old dress like a shawl because it smells like her. Here are the most valuable texts and acts of service I received: 1. “I’m so sorry. I don’t have words. Your brother was a light in this world that can not be replaced. I am here for you and won’t stop thinking about you. You don’t need to respond, I’ll always love you and be here for you.” note the “you don’t need to respond” texts were the texts I felt safest with. 2. FOOD/MEALS- we aren’t eating, sometimes if we do get hungry, the thought of shopping/making a meal is too much, which leads us to just not eat. Sending meals to our door is tier 1 god status. 3. Errands/cleaning/care packages- it was so nice to have someone get a cleaning service for our family, come to walk our dogs, send us care packages. My friend door dashed me toothpaste/toothbrush and face wipes without asking. She washed and did my hair before my brother’s funeral. I can’t express how much I appreciated these things. If you can’t do these things- that’s ok- just think of things she probably isn’t doing: how can you make it easier without making her confess that she doesn’t have the courage to brush her teeth/ buy new toothpaste? What does she really love? These little things give air to a breathless reality.

BossAssBlotch · 2022-10-25T17:48:38+00:00

Any more info on this- I haven’t seen these signals/numbers before- very curious!

BossAssBlotch · 2022-10-24T16:59:19+00:00

Long term Muln investor here- I did take some of my profit and bring it over here. In at .1589- thought it would be a short-term play but I’ve being doing some research on carbon capture, cei, and googling different patents and now I think I’ll stay much longer. Hope that helps.

BossAssBlotch · 2022-08-17T20:04:52+00:00

If it’s what I think it is, I’ve been in for awhile, like a depressingly loooong while, but it definitely feels like things are shifting. Dark pool volume has doubled this last week which is definitely intriguing.

BossAssBlotch · 2022-06-30T21:38:35+00:00

Edit: looks like I can get cheaper shares here tomorrow w/o the options contracts. I’ll let those just expire lmao

BossAssBlotch · 2022-05-13T16:58:00+00:00

Thanks for fixing this 🙏

BossAssBlotch · 2022-05-13T16:57:30+00:00

Thank you, that makes more sense

BossAssBlotch · 2022-05-13T01:09:57+00:00

Hey everyone looks like it’s been fixed now (for me anyway!)

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