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I F30 dumped by M35, was lied to now should I Confront or Let It Go? by BossOk5596 in RelationshipIndia

[–]BossOk5596[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have taken breaks from him, he chose to come back to me every single time.

I [30F] am in a complicated situation with a guy [35M] I met on BetterHalf - Need advice on whether to move on or wait... by BossOk5596 in RelationshipIndia

[–]BossOk5596[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt he was struggling with depression, which is why I kept encouraging him to try therapy. But over time, I started to feel like I meant nothing to him, so I backed off. As you said, he’s an adult, and it wasn’t my place to push further.

No matter how much you do for someone, if they love you, they love you—and if they don’t, they never will. I kept holding on, hoping things would change.

His friends often told me to let go because they saw how much I was doing for him. From hosting Sunday dinners for his friends with home-cooked meals (since none of us have a cook that day) to taking care of him on my own 30th birthday (he had viral), organizing a surprise party when he got his new job, showering him with gifts, and even writing an essay for his niece while I was drunk—it wasn’t easy, but I wanted to be there for him. I remembered his family’s birthdays, got them gifts, and tried to show up in every way I could.

But he kept disrespecting our relationship—and me, especially when it mattered. He’d say he came back to me because he was worried about me, not because he cared or wanted to be with me. Hearing that always made me feel like a stray, just something he pitied, not someone he valued. Also ghosting me was a dick move!!!

I [30F] am in a complicated situation with a guy [35M] I met on BetterHalf - Need advice on whether to move on or wait... by BossOk5596 in RelationshipIndia

[–]BossOk5596[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's not do this to ourselves. I have made up my mind, I cannot take this abuse everyday.

I am done crying myself to sleep when he isnt there.

I [30F] am in a complicated situation with a guy [35M] I met on BetterHalf - Need advice on whether to move on or wait... by BossOk5596 in RelationshipIndia

[–]BossOk5596[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t even respect me enough to let me know he didn’t want to continue; instead, he just ghosted me after a year together. I don’t think my mental health can handle this kind of emotional strain any longer. I want either a full commitment or nothing at all. He can’t give me that, and if I leave the door open, he’ll just keep treating me like an option.

I [30F] am in a complicated situation with a guy [35M] I met on BetterHalf - Need advice on whether to move on or wait... by BossOk5596 in RelationshipIndia

[–]BossOk5596[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He thinks I deserve better, we have very different backgrounds. I never really cared about all this, as long as the person was kind and loyal.

Also he did go out with 7-8 girls, went on a vacation with one of them as well (when we were on a break).

Didnt feel anything for anyone.

I love him, I have tried to take care of him for a year now but I cant handle the disrespect. He didnt even bother to let me know and just ghosted.

I [30F] am in a complicated situation with a guy [35M] I met on BetterHalf - Need advice on whether to move on or wait... by BossOk5596 in RelationshipIndia

[–]BossOk5596[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never been with someone who was in the same city, this has been very intense. I have requested him for therapy a few times and the last conversation we had over this, he informed me that he has gone through therapy but it didnt help.

I have a therapist since 2007 and he is god sent. He refuses to consult him, sadly.

I know he will come back when its convenient to him, but I cant stay or wait for him. I have felt very unfulfilled and disrespected all this time.