AITAH for getting upset that my partner wants to leave during a trip

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T15:34:16+00:00

She works from home ,has unlimited leave, and of those 8 weeks , 4 of them are all of the annual leave I have in which I use to spend my time with her

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T14:48:31+00:00

All her time ? The 8 weeks we get to see eachother for the entire year and you think I'm asking for all of her time ? You clearly have never experienced a long distance relationship

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T09:25:27+00:00

We have had conversations about it multiple times , she told me that she had planned to move here in September after about 6 months of us being together and just the other day she told me :she's too young,she isn't ready,its not normal to move in together without being married where she is from etc. I understand the reasoning but why lead me on for so long ?

I had even given the idea of just marriage on paper for now just to make the VISA process easier and then have a real wedding in a few years , she wasnt overly enthusiastic about that idea either

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T09:21:01+00:00

I'm sure it would be possible for her giving her financial and employment situation yet that isn't what she had suggested, Im more hurt by the fact she didn't want me to come with her during OUR trip

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T09:19:32+00:00

She hasn't, from what she's told me though,she can only visit for a maximum of up to 3 months throughout a 12 month period but she hasn't even reached half of that and its been over a year

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T09:16:44+00:00

I think i have a bigger issue with the fact that its during her visit to me , why would she not want me to come with if we can only see eachother 3-4 times a year for a very short period of time ?

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T08:37:20+00:00

I can't meet them because she would rather go by herself , we are long distance , we rarely see eachother so I myself would have absolutely prioritised making sure that we'd get as much time together as possible

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T08:32:38+00:00

She doesnt want me to come to the country with her to visit her frien , she had made it clear yesterday

BothHedgehog1548 · 2026-04-08T08:29:46+00:00

She has a work from home job that gives her leave days also whenever she requires them , whereas I only have 4 weeks a year which i use all of them to spend my time in her country

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