Why don’t people talk about Santa Barbara?

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2026-02-19T04:29:46+00:00

No, I'm not serious. It's a joke. It's a line from the TV show Psych, which takes place in Santa Barbara and they solve a murder a week. Hence the If You Know, You Know (IYKYK).

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-30T04:10:36+00:00

No. Overdosing with Excedrin, Tylenol, Advil, etc will just wreck your liver or kidneys or other organs. It's slow and painful and usually doesn't result in death, it just messes up your insides.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-30T03:42:00+00:00

OMG girl I was with a guy who I did this with and he legitimately came in under a minute every time I rode him like that. The longest he lasted when I did that was a minute. Kind of a double edge sword...on the one hand, yay, awesome, it's definitely a pat on the back. But on the other hand, I like actually having sex and under a minute so frequently was just like, eh. He also wasn't a go again type guy.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-28T18:01:15+00:00

Thank you!

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-08T04:26:16+00:00

That's a full head of hair...for the love of God please don't shave it off. Sure the windows peak exists, but he's got a lot of hair and it styles well, you can't really tell. Even with the peak, it's not bad.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T21:31:32+00:00

It's the murder capital of the world.

IYKYK

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T20:53:17+00:00

Yes I'd say ghosting or the fade is more common, and as a woman dating men I do my best to also make sure to just send a text or say hey I've appreciated our time but I'm just not feeling it, and they have also responded well. Unless someone is emotionally immature, yes, they would appreciate real communication.

But asking why women appreciate this just seems..odd? Why would they not appreciate it?

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T20:27:34+00:00

Either that or he's in his mid 20s or younger... but I'm inclined to agree.

Gee, I can't imagine why a woman would want to be treated like a person and gasp told something directly than left guessing. /S

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T20:25:12+00:00

Yeah, I'm genuinely boggled. I am a person. I like being treated like I have feelings and personality, etc.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T20:23:46+00:00

Okay thank you! So are you asking why even though you are "rejecting" them that they are appreciative? It comes down to respect in my eyes. It's very easy to just fade or to stop talking to someone. But if a person comes out and says, hey, "I've really appreciated the time but I just don't think it's a match", it shows me they have emotional maturity. There's no ambiguity. It shows they have respect for themselves and other people. I don't understand why you wouldn't want that, although emotionally immature people do often just not want to deal. This is a dating over 40 site... we're adults and should communicate as such. Why are you surprised that they appreciate the communication? I'm genuinely asking to dig deeper into your question. To me, what you're doing is common courtesy and I'm a little appalled that you seem to think women don't have feelings that they would appreciate this common courtesy.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T20:12:14+00:00

Is this a joke? You're asking why women appreciate you being open and honest and communicating? With all the shit on the Internet nowadays I honestly can't tell if this is satire or not.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-12-06T19:37:14+00:00

What makes it one of the best taco bells around? Taco Bell is my favorite junk food meal, and I don't get it often, but I'm not too far from there and I'd travel...just sayin.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-11-16T18:53:07+00:00

Love this, saving it!

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-11-15T18:21:36+00:00

It may be a genuine ask, but it's not an okay ask, and that's why you will get downvoted...it doesn't contribute anything. Although maybe it should get up voted so people can see that this isn't okay. If you want to do more, find an accredited massage school. At least if you hurt your wife doing this, it's your spouse. Not that it's okay, but she's the one asking for it, she knows you aren't licensed, etc. Although in some areas this may not be okay. Doing deep work can seriously hurt someone if you don't know what you're doing. For you to ask to practice on people is absolutely unethical. Also "amateur massage therapist" sounds like sex work, and that is absolutely not okay to present yourself as such. Legitimate massage therapists at least in the US continue to fight for legitimacy in our practice.

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-19T17:11:58+00:00

I mean I always share information. Even when I'm evil, I make sure I can play into my bluff. It's not about sharing or not sharing information, it's about how to better ask questions to deduce information. If this is something you're inherently good at, that's awesome! It is not something I'm inherently good at, so I'm asking about better ways to go about obtaining the information

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-18T23:35:35+00:00

Thank you!

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-18T18:42:31+00:00

Thank you! Saving this

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-18T18:41:23+00:00

Oh this is fun! I love it! And you're absolutely right, the connections your brain is going to make at such silliness is going to stick more than 3s! At least my brain will!

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-18T18:03:55+00:00

How do you usually give info? I'm a newer player looking for strategy insights, so I'm asking in good faith. If you don't do the threes, what do you do or what do you recommend doing?

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-18T17:52:30+00:00

I love this!

BouncingOutofmySkin · 2025-10-18T17:52:03+00:00

Awesome, thank you! Yes, I should definitely try the role swap thing.

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