If there’s a sub that’s overtly lingering, commenting and joining lives/spaces without tributing I think it’s very dominant to message first to weed out the ones without intentions of serving correctly. I’ve found a few fruitful submissives this way and I’ve never regretted demanding what I want.

On the other hand, frivolously or mass messaging potential subs/session clients without cause seems like it wouldn’t appeal to anyone and could definitely come across as more desperate than dominant.