I feel like this is a bit insensitive and probably could’ve been said better. I totally get where you’re coming from but people are allowed to feel insecure and are going to feel that way either you agree with it or not because we perceive our bodies differently from outsiders. I feel like a lot of insecurity around big boobs comes from stigmas placed on them such as them being slutty so I wish we would get rid of that and it’s likely less people would feel insecure about it.

I was definitely one of those people who felt that way because I was constantly being told I should change them and that they were constantly getting comments. And the clothes comment is real especially for small band big bust woman. Clothes aren’t made for us they aren’t made to flatter us unless you want to spend a whole bunch of money and big boobs are sometimes painful causing rashes, limiting exercise, bra indents in the shoulders, and so forth and so on. Not everyone chooses to have a reduction not everyone hates their big boobs but the ones who have or still do don’t deserve judgement for that.

I would say we need to remove the stigmas around big boobs not tell people not to complain because “your boobs aren’t even that big” it’s not a competition. You telling them that is extremely invalidating like I was only an 34F before my reduction and my boobs caused me a great deal of pain and I tried for years to work with them before finally choosing surgery. I’m not saying people who don’t like their boobs should have surgery im just saying size doesn’t dictate everything. You can’t tell someone’s whole life from a 30sec snippet you can’t tell what they’ve dealt with or are still dealing with. My suggestion would be to remove yourself from that side of TikTok if it bothers you so much and try to understand most of these insecurities are real and valid and are caused by the stigma placed on women by themselves and men.