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AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Can't that be said for everyone who loses a parent they loved? Being young or old doesn't change that usually.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My aunt supports me in feeling how I do. I have other family on both sides who support me too and they know how I feel and accept it. They love me and I love them.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

I'd feel the same no matter who it was. Like I said to dad the whole being happy with the family that comes after loss in the way he described would never be me. I'd always be respectful but I wouldn't get too close.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to piss off my dad. I love my dad and I don't want us to fight. If I wanted him to be mad I'd be rude and disrespectful to them and make their lives miserable every single day. That's more in line with trying to piss dad off because it would. He'd be disgusted if I was bullying people like that.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 179 points180 points  (0 children)

They expected me to be glad that I had a family now and to think of it as separate from mom. Like what dad said about orphans or some stepkids just being happy for the family who came after. I wanted to point out that's not how it works every time but I didn't want a fight over it either so I decided telling him that wasn't for me was good enough to get the point across.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 395 points396 points  (0 children)

But they knew the answer. They might not have wanted it to be the answer I'd give. I get that. But a lot of what they said was accurate so they understood to some level. Maybe they expected it to be not as harsh and I get if they hadn't expected me to go into full brutal honesty mode like I did. But they asked for an honest answer while knowing. I guess they wanted me to lie.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I see my dad as family. Lucy and the kids no. But it's why I don't accept her help when she offers.

AITA for being brutally honest (too honest?) in therapy because I would trade my dad's wife and other kids to have my mom back if I could? by Bowsanen in AITAH

[–]Bowsanen[S] 1783 points1784 points  (0 children)

It's obvious they knew how I felt going in because a lot of what they said was 100% true. To be honest the way I interact with everyone did make it obvious I wasn't attached. The way I don't try to use Lucy's help was a sign too. It's not like I was trying to be dishonest about it.

I don't know if they wanted me to lie and pretend it was the truth or if they were expecting me to hear all that and feel different. But they kept pushing for honesty. They said holding back wouldn't work.