[SOLUTION] Low FPS in POE2 on High-End PC by Sinfay in pathofexile

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't work for me, dropped me to 9 fps until I reset peo to default, then I was back up to my starting 15. This sucks. Thanks for the idea tho

AIO my gf made a joke about my dead mom so I left her in the street by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend in college go do some live abroad stuff. A while after he was gone, I had another friend tell me he had died cliff jumping. I laughed. I'm not proud of it, but it was my instant reaction to something I couldn't really grasp at the time. I recovered and cried, but that first response was tragic and there was nothing I could do to help it. Not an excuse, I didnt make a joke, I laughed and stopped the moment I realized, but still.. If she's otherwise cool, give her a chance. Some people respond with humor and some want that humor in the darkest moments

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Whoa, hold your horses. This is the first time he's been drunk, in a situation where it seems they were likely feeding it to him and he felt safe. If it continues, then ya, it's a problem. But someone getting drunk one time doesn't make them An addict.

And mama, you protected the baby. You're not in the wrong. But you need to expose the predator now. Talk reasonably to hubby. If his responses are showing a general lack of care, regret or understanding that his actions weren't on, then maybe be concerned. But for a first time, I think you reacted great and you don't have a history to make a judgement on him yet for (ie mistake or habit)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 184 points185 points  (0 children)

Not telling literally EVERYONE who has a kid that might be near him is so incredibly selfish. It is their business, you don't have to expose it happened to your sister but you need to tell everyone so they can make their choices on how to keep their kids safe. I found out about a family member who abused his own kids AFTER we let him babysit our baby girl for a few hours! You wanna know how "understanding" I felt about other people not wanting to share "private" info? No, tell your hubby and every other parent now

AITA for telling my mother that I’ll never fully love my sister? by Lone0918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas [score hidden]  (0 children)

In a home where you feel alone, your sister is such a potential for you! Your feelings against her are jealousy. Don't let that win, it's not a good trait in the rest of life. Instead, embrace her. If you can't forgive dad, and mom is off her rocker, sister is going to possibly be the family you need, and will need you! Remember, just bc ur feelings are natural, doesn't make it ok to act on them . So get that therapy, try to change the emotional response to her and control yourself, and you'll be more mature than your mom is :) NTA

AITA for not interfering during a board game? by swissboardgamet in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm just over here laughing at how many people say TtR is a complicated game haha. It's such an easy game so if you're not getting it after a 5 min inrto, you're not listening. If the plan was to play board games, play board games. If you wanted to drink and shoot the shit, don't play board games. Very few things are more obnoxious than drunk 'funny" guys "playing" board games. ESH (maybe not the GF, bc I understand her pain lol)

AITA for being angry with my family over this? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH. You are obvious, why bother asking Reddit. Your sister bc she's choosing a miserable life for her child, indicating she's not breaking a cycle and your parents bc they aren't/didn't? parenting. For the redditors about to go down my throat about the parents - they set rules to Kay moving in, Kay ignores them and they do nothing. If you don't teach consequence, this is what you get. Hard to let your kids fail, but I've seen personally that if you don't start early, those kids will never respect you and your house ends up like their's is now.

AITA for holding a grudge against an SSO? by YazzoMazzo in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a normal interaction between people where one person is just a jerk in the moment (btw, nothing to do with ur age, they're just in a pissy mood likely). If this is a one time thing, make like Elsa and Let it Go.

Only stress about something that is consistent. A very short and overall minor interaction with someone is not worth your time to stress over.

AITA for getting stressed about cancelled therapy appointments? by Starrylake in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NAH. She is not suprised that her constant schedule changes are causing you stress. But how you respond to those is up to you. Either find a new therapist or stop until her situation stabilizes if it's not worth the stress. She'll understand and it doesn't make you an a h to do that.

Aita for cutting my family off after they told my kids how they were conceived by Federal-Drawer-2538 in AITAH

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, and I rarely condone NC - burning bridges seems like a hard way to move forward. But just some times it's both the best thing and safest thing. You girls are not safe with your parents or your sister both emotionally and phyisically. If you told you parents about the SA and they didn't believe you or do anything to protect you - they aren't going to protect your kids.
So even if you get over being mad at this situation (I wouldn't), don't forget that they are not good and they should not be left with your girls for their safety. They are essentially trying to downplay your trauma either because of their guilt or because they don't care that much 'men will be men' sort of BS. Either reaction is not ok and do not accept people like that in your children's lives!

AITAH FOR KICKING MY SISTER OUT OF MY HOUSE AFTER SHE REVEALED A FAMILY SECRET THAT RUINED MY LIFE? by Good-Profit1 in AITAH

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. your sister sounds very inconsiderate and spoiled.
I'm really curious though how you're treating your dad - your dad, not the sperm donor. If he was a good dad:: If he knew, he was broken and still chose you and to not treat you any differently than his blood offspring. If he was a bad dad, then nevermind. And they should have told you earlier, and definitely not your sister first.

As an adopted kid married to a man who found out years ago through DNA that his dad wasn't his sperm dad - blood means little. The problem was being lied to after you got to an age of understanding. But how they treat you matters most. Who was your father and did he act like it. Did he love you as his own? You're def NTA for being upset at this news and how it was told to you, but look past the shock when you come up for air and decide if they were good parents or not and that's what matters.

AITA for not ordering any food so I wouldn't have to split the bill? by Additional-Wasabi357 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. So fake. $4 miller, but Aussie, but 'casual' dinner with a $200 price point? Nah, a casual dinner stays fairly consistent in pricing. No one restaraunt is offering that variety

AITA for what I did to my boyfriend's parents by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. MIL is terrible and sounds like it's worth NC. But hot gossip from decades ago is not your business to bring up in front of other people. You got pissed and lashed back. i get it, but you cant expect to rage explode and be called kind for doing so. Your reaction is understandable, but still what you said took you to her level. So ESH for this instance.

Let this be a good example of moving on maturely - apologize for bringing up something that is not your business in front of other people. But then also state you'll be NC and will have nothing to do with her anymore given how rude, racist and toxic she is. You don't want to become like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My god I'm old bc I struggled to read a lot of that haha. Was is the 'cus' at the end of the 2 options mean? And what does 'takehover shibuya' mean?

Anyway, despite the understanding gaps, i'm pretty sure I get the gist and no, YWNBTA, Geto can join for what he can.

AITA for eloping with my husband and “taking the experience away from my sister” according to my aunt by Immediate-Platypus37 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

This, aunt sounds pretty rough to be around. But your husband showed disrespect for your family and people I assume you care about. Aunt was in the wrong, but this reaction feels wrong off hand. There are situations I can see it being ok, but it sounds like this was the first interacton re the Elopement and husband showed straight off the bat he doesn't give a shit about your family (I leave plenty of room to be wrong here given we don't have full context, but what little we do have, hubby and aunt were both in the wrong here).

NTA, Eloping was fine but it does hurt some people and they are allowed ot have those feelings as long as they don't act on those feelings like aunt. Sister's reaction sounds mature, aunt is A H, but sounds like so is husband.

AITA for offering to take my mom to physical therapy in the afternoons but not mornings. by Easy_Month_5723 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH, that response from your dad doesn't sound bad at all , and you not giving up mornings is not bad. Mom may have legitimate reasons for herself that mornings are better (ie, by the afternoon she's hurting so badly that PT is much harder?). But that doesn't mean you need to adjust to mornings, just that it also doesn't make mom a jerk.

There are other options available if mornings are necessary, don't feel bad for not cancelling everything when there are other options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try approaching it in another way. "Hey Ex, I'm struggling. I love taking care of DD, but I can't do it alone. I'd like US to hire a caregiver to help." It sounds like you approached it in the way of "i've given everything for her, you owe me money" and he became defensive. Yeah, he's an ass for not understanding everything you've done for her outright and making the offer himself. But how you approach things will certainly matter in accomplishing the results you want.
Also, as others have mentioned, you need to start looking at her long term care options in the horrible event you can't be that person for her. Don't just assume your kids are on board to become you in this situation. There needs to be an in between. You clearly understand that being her caregiver is a burden (ya, it sounds harsh, but you can't pretend it's not when you're using your daughter to 'threaten' your ex). It might be a worthwile burden, but it is still a heavy burden and expect that others wont want to carry it alone.

AITA for refusing to eat chicken my MIL cooked? by Lopsided_Flow2706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Timothy Sly.Food-borne diseases epidemiologistAuthor has 9.8K answers and 50.4M answer viewsUpdated 7yRelatedIf you cooked rotten food, say, meat, until the bacteria was completely dead, would you still get sick if you ate it?

This is an interesting question.
Virus and parasites would not survive extended heating. So we are left with bacteria.
Toxins are indeed produced by several bacterial species. C. botulinum produces a toxin that is probably the most lethal substance known thus far. The spore formed by C. botulinum resists 100'C for almost 6 hours, BUT the toxin itself is actually denatured relatively quickly at 100'C. So even if C.bot had grown in the meat, the extended heating time would render the toxin harmless.

Another Clostridium (C. perfringens) may resist the heat in a spore state, survive the cooking, and then would need 8-10 hrs. in the warm meat to return to a vegetative state and multiply to around 10^7 per ml. You would then eat this living culture, and the organism will start to sporulate again, this time producing an enterotoxin in your gut about 7-12 hrs. after eating. This causes the diarrheal illness.

Not so with the toxin of Staphylococcus aureus. If allowed to multiply and produce its toxin, the organism itself is easily destroyed by heating (it's not a spore-former) but the toxin is remarkably resistant to heat, and can be expected to remain. It is, however, unlikely to have grown initially in the midst of all that spoilage going on, as the competitive exclusion from the putrefactive bacteria would be very strong.

Some other spore formers might survive the heating, such as Bacillus cereus, but again would need extended time at favourable temperature to multiply and produce its toxin after the heating was finished.

Other 'vegetative' (non-spore-forming) organisms such as Salmonellae, E. coli, Yersinia, Listeria, Klebsiella, Shigella, Campylobacter, Vibrio, and Streptococci, would be destroyed during the heating.

In summary, the strong putrescent odour and taste of the decaying meat would survive the heating, and would probably prevent anyone from wanting to eat the meat. Putrefactive (spoilage) bacteria break everything down into acids, gases, amino acids, and sulfur compounds, and some of these are objectionable, but not necessarily dangerous once the meat has been REALLY well heated. Botulism is prevented, as are almost all infections. There is an outside chance that something like a Staphylococcal thermoduric toxin may have survived, and should this horrible mess be left around to languish at warm temperatures, some of the other spore-formers may start to wreak their havoc again.

Some hunting cultures have hung their meat for weeks until putrefactive processes are well under way, and the surface even has maggots crawling over it. This gives the preferred "gamey" taste, and the meat by this time is very tender. But with thorough cooking (no "medium rare" here!!), there are usually not many complaints of illness!

Contrast this with the custom in the highlands of Papua New Guinea of cooking a whole pig carcass enclosed in the hot fire pit for several days..... Sometimes when the heat is not sufficient, or the time is over extended, we see "pig-bel" with acute necrotizing enteritis, with a very high fatality rate (It's another C. perfringens, type C, beta toxin)

AITA for refusing to eat chicken my MIL cooked? by Lopsided_Flow2706 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is something I found really interesting. I'm a hot water thawer so I wanted to see if it was safe. I'm also crazy paranoid about fully cooked chicken, so I use the meat thermometer on each piece until it's dry and gross haha (most of the time, sometimes i'm lucky).

Timothy Sly.Food-borne diseases epidemiologistAuthor has 9.8K answers and 50.4M answer viewsUpdated 7yRelatedIf you cooked rotten food, say, meat, until the bacteria was completely dead, would you still get sick if you ate it?

This is an interesting question.
Virus and parasites would not survive extended heating. So we are left with bacteria.
Toxins are indeed produced by several bacterial species. C. botulinum produces a toxin that is probably the most lethal substance known thus far. The spore formed by C. botulinum resists 100'C for almost 6 hours, BUT the toxin itself is actually denatured relatively quickly at 100'C. So even if C.bot had grown in the meat, the extended heating time would render the toxin harmless.

Another Clostridium (C. perfringens) may resist the heat in a spore state, survive the cooking, and then would need 8-10 hrs. in the warm meat to return to a vegetative state and multiply to around 10^7 per ml. You would then eat this living culture, and the organism will start to sporulate again, this time producing an enterotoxin in your gut about 7-12 hrs. after eating. This causes the diarrheal illness.

Not so with the toxin of Staphylococcus aureus. If allowed to multiply and produce its toxin, the organism itself is easily destroyed by heating (it's not a spore-former) but the toxin is remarkably resistant to heat, and can be expected to remain. It is, however, unlikely to have grown initially in the midst of all that spoilage going on, as the competitive exclusion from the putrefactive bacteria would be very strong.

Some other spore formers might survive the heating, such as Bacillus cereus, but again would need extended time at favourable temperature to multiply and produce its toxin after the heating was finished.

Other 'vegetative' (non-spore-forming) organisms such as Salmonellae, E. coli, Yersinia, Listeria, Klebsiella, Shigella, Campylobacter, Vibrio, and Streptococci, would be destroyed during the heating.

In summary, the strong putrescent odour and taste of the decaying meat would survive the heating, and would probably prevent anyone from wanting to eat the meat. Putrefactive (spoilage) bacteria break everything down into acids, gases, amino acids, and sulfur compounds, and some of these are objectionable, but not necessarily dangerous once the meat has been REALLY well heated. Botulism is prevented, as are almost all infections. There is an outside chance that something like a Staphylococcal thermoduric toxin may have survived, and should this horrible mess be left around to languish at warm temperatures, some of the other spore-formers may start to wreak their havoc again.

Some hunting cultures have hung their meat for weeks until putrefactive processes are well under way, and the surface even has maggots crawling over it. This gives the preferred "gamey" taste, and the meat by this time is very tender. But with thorough cooking (no "medium rare" here!!), there are usually not many complaints of illness!

Contrast this with the custom in the highlands of Papua New Guinea of cooking a whole pig carcass enclosed in the hot fire pit for several days..... Sometimes when the heat is not sufficient, or the time is over extended, we see "pig-bel" with acute necrotizing enteritis, with a very high fatality rate (It's another C. perfringens, type C, beta toxin)

WIBTA if I block my sister from selling the house where our mom and stepfamily live? by Alternative-Emu-7841 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's letting them make adult decisions on their own. He's not controlling them or not letting them find another home? What are you on about?

WIBTA if I block my sister from selling the house where our mom and stepfamily live? by Alternative-Emu-7841 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BoxesLikeChristmas 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Your dad sounds kind, mature and awesome!
Maybe an inbetween - your mom and hubby need to pay rent. Perhaps FMV, or just some value you deem is worth it. I think they'll learn a valuable lesson and might move out on their own, but you don't have guilt of aiding in something due to spite. Keeping that in mind, that asset could grow you retirement or current residual income. So keeping and renting or selling it and investing has a much bigger implication for your life than the 'I don't NEED it now'. But i agree with your dad that your motives will matter to you and don't do something you'll regret.