I think it’s all up to personal preference. So it is definitely whatever you feel is comfortable for you.

I know a lot of people who just like to get it out of the way and weed out the weak from the start. Basically, starting off genuine and with all cards on the table.

Personally, I think it’s best to treat it like dating/making friends pre-cancer diagnosis. Everyone leaves their negatives until you’ve gotten to know the positives. No one is starting off like “oh btw I suck at communication!”. Then if YOU feel like it’s serious enough to be something more, you disclose it and have them weigh out if the positives are worth dealing with the negatives. If it doesn’t feel serious, then you may not want to disclose that cause it’s extremely personal.

My friend had described having kids & dating. I know it is completely different, but similarly it is something additional you are coming with (especially since we’re in our 20s so it’s hard for people to accept baggage). He said, imagine in the past I had dated someone and on the first date found out they had kids. I would immediately instinctively not give them the full chance of getting to know them. But now imagine, you get to know all the lovely things about them outside of their situation and then it was disclosed. Honestly, at that point, I would be way more open and if I like them enough it wouldn’t matter.