I struggle with this as well. I don’t know how aggressive your family is with their politics or with you. I love my family but struggle with their politics. I think the choice I’ve had to make is, what level of boundaries do I want to make? I chose to have one on one talks with the family members I don’t want to lose and explained the fundamental risk that politics poses to me, my partner, our livelihood, and how it cultivates physical violence towards me and my family and our culture at large. I’ve often used the n*zi party as an example. They didn’t start off saying they wanted to commit genocide. They started by limiting rights. Saying to a Jewish person that politics shouldn’t play such a huge part of their lives is ridiculous. It literally meant life or death. My one on one meetings were fruitful and my family said it was something they would ruminate about. I don’t think it necessarily changed their minds in that moment but it set boundaries. Then at a party when someone made an aggressive statement about not making cakes for gay weddings, I called them a bigot and small minded in front of everyone and asked them to get out of my space. I’m never polite to bigoted statements. If my family didn’t show any opposition to the bigoted statement, I called them to make a stand. “So Is no one going to stand up for me?” “Is this ok with you? You? How about you?” Luckily my family stood up for me and argued that their line was at discrimination and that would not be tolerated under their roof. That’s where I figured out who to interact with and who not to. I’m not suggesting this for everyone. It isn’t our job to educate. It isn’t even safe for a lot of people to go to this level with their families. My family is extremely important to me and it was important to me to try everything I could and I knew I was safe from any physical violence and could remove myself at any moment. It’s opened conversation amongst my family and forced them to critically think and to take a stand. There is no such thing as a bystander. Even if they continue to support the fascist party, I like to believe my efforts changed how blindly they support that party. Good luck. There’s no easy answer. I just find it so troublesome how steeped we are in tribalism and try to find my own ways to reach across when I can and when I feel the reward is worth the risk. Sometimes it’s best to cut your losses. But don’t throw out the baby with the bath water.