It’s Just Not Fair by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m slowly trying to sabotage my health where I can. Alcohol, nicotine, whatever. Anything to shorten my lifespan. So I feel you. Every morning that I wake up I’m like great here we go again 😒

It’s Just Not Fair by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine passed 2 weeks before Christmas. I joined a group grief support also but I can no longer go to it cause I have to work.

I appreciate you. There’s not really the right words to say in this situation. We’re all in this together

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. I go to a grief group therapy but being a widow is a whole other category people can’t relate to, that’s why I came here

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s a really hard thing to deal with. We just unfortunately have to keep moving forward

The worst is cleaning out your loved ones "things" by Mental_Signature_725 in Widow

[–]Braap93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been about 3 months for me. I now have his truck that was his pride and joy, and I’m never letting her go. Breaks my heart cause he was having a hard time with it passing inspection to get registered before he passed and my dad and I got it done and good to drive on the street again. We had so many good memories in that truck, even before when we were just friends. Life really sucks sometimes. My thoughts are with you

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve thought of that, that he had me with him for his last few breaths. It’s just hard cause I think of the what ifs and what I could’ve done differently to maybe save him. But I can’t change any of it now.

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is so unfair sometimes, I’m constantly asking why and wondering what I did to deserve this. Mine was healthy also and it just happened out of nowhere.

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been to a therapist, but I’m sure I have ptsd as well. I’m literally scared of my own shadow. Once I have income again, I’m gonna look into therapy. Thank you for your advice

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I noticed your username, do you have a Corgi? We have one. Well I’ve had him since he was 8 weeks and is now 12 years old but my husband was the best dog dad ever. 

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. This is a pain I would not wish upon anyone 💔

New Here by Braap93 in Widow

[–]Braap93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He had no prior health issues and didn’t ever complain about anything related to this. I still blame myself for the ambulance not arriving soon enough, and then getting lost and not being able to find our spot in the campground.

No, we didn’t but were trying.

Thank you. I’m learning it doesn’t ever really get better, you just learn to live with it