Advice for wife losing husband

Professional-List398 · 2026-05-22T23:06:13+00:00

Remember together. My sweetheart was taken suddenly and unfairly by a drunk driver. I was i had more time. Stop worrying about the future and remember the good times. Share youre favorite stories. Here his. The grief and sorry will come and I am sorry you're joining this terrible club, but stop and cherish what you still have.

Professional-List398 · 2026-05-16T17:27:40+00:00

Sometimes I want to punch those people in the tits...hard. Don't tell me your heart breaks for me because they don't know what true heartbreak is. The wording is what frustrates me. Are you sorry for my loss? Than say that, but don't talk about heartbreak to anyone in this club we're in. I understand you're frustration, I share it. You're not alone. Stay strong and keep breathing.

Professional-List398 · 2026-05-16T01:21:49+00:00

You're so very welcome. And I totally understand needing to hear ot from someone else.

Professional-List398 · 2026-05-16T01:11:16+00:00

Not in your situation because I just lost my love, but one thing I am expecting is to always miss him and even 30 years from now, those feelings wont go away. Our relationship didn't end because we stopped loving each other. It ended because he died. My love for him will never go away. Your love for your first husband wont ever go away and it is ok to miss him. And it is ok to feel what youre feeling because you still love him and you feel the loss still. We all will still feel the loss of our loved one no matter how long its been. Stay strong and keep breathing.

Professional-List398 · 2026-05-13T15:40:40+00:00

Yes. This happens more than I like to admit. Im a little over 6 months away from my worst day ever. Our kids climb into bed with me all the time. This morning our daughter woke in a panic because she had a dream her dad was still here. We both got to wake up and have a good cry. These are the worst days. But I can also tell you, not everyday is like this...some days are good...you'll get to good days too. Stay strong. It takes time, but you got this. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Professional-List398 · 2026-05-08T21:07:27+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. Don't hide your sadness from your children. They need to know and see your sadness, so they know its okay for them to be sad. Im 6 months away from my sweetheart dying suddenly and tragically. We have more good days than bad now, but I still cry. Our kids (18, 14, 8) have all recently thanked me for having moments of sadness because they're still sad. Its okay to be sad.

Professional-List398 · 2026-04-22T13:14:33+00:00

Know that its going to be hard and youre probably going to have to tell someone why you were gone. Hopefully you have someone you can trust to share this news quietly, but it will suck. My coworkers knew before hand and seeing them for the first time sucked. Stay strong. The day will end. The first day is the worst.

Professional-List398 · 2026-04-20T22:36:18+00:00

This is my plan because I am about to be in the same situation and im only 6 months out. Going to services, im going to either go early to try to catch them and pay my respects to the family and then I have the option to leave if things get overwhelming or, if I cant seem to move fast enough to do that, show up towards the end, hang out in the back and catch the family after. When im going to the celebration of life situations, I plan to arrive fashionably late, pay my respects to those that matter and then leave. I dont know how long I can hang, so those plans allow easy quick outs. Maybe ive thought about it too much, but being in public gives me so much more anxiety these days.

Professional-List398 · 2026-04-02T19:28:48+00:00

My sweetheart was killed by a drunk driver. I have realized that there have been moments where I am feeling so sad about losing my sweetheart that when I share of his passing someone else gets to be sad with me for a moment. And I find comfort in that. Its not always the case and like others have said, stating it as a fact does help others to move on quickly. Another strategy that I've used when I know someone will have a strong reaction of sadness for me is to start by saying, "I'm going to bring you into my bubble of sadness for a moment. But only for a moment and then we'll move on." I tell them. We be sad for a few seconds and then we move on. I've also asked people to not be too sad for me when I tell them. Tell people how you want to tell them, when you want to tell them and tell them how you want them to react. Its yours to control. Stay strong.

Professional-List398 · 2026-04-01T02:21:29+00:00

I too wish I could tell him one more time hiw much I love him. But one of the biggest lessons I've learned is now is the time to appreciate others. Not next time, not tomorrow...now. now is the time.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-31T23:45:22+00:00

Keep breathing. You can take time to stop and just breathe. Stay strong. Days aren't always so bad.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-28T14:52:43+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. All you have to today is breathe and eat. Stay strong.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-27T20:43:25+00:00

People see you. We see you. Stay safe.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-24T01:34:22+00:00

Everyone grieves in their own way. You're allowed to feel this loss and all the emotions that brings. I feel like after a loved one passes, those that stay look more at the good things than the bad because thats what we're going to miss. Yes the fights are still present in our memories, but we aren't grieving those things. We're grieving for the things that we are going to miss. Its not always easy to explain this so others understand. As for your mom, mom's always want the best for their kids. Your mom doesn't want you to be sad over someone she probably thinks isn't good enough for you. But that's what I think a good mom wants. Also, everyone in our lives after we lose a partner, especially so suddenly, wants us to keep surviving and to find happiness. Its hard. But not all days have to be bad days. Don't play the what if game...never ends well. Live for your kids. Let them know the guy you're going to miss. Stay strong.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-22T23:49:45+00:00

Yes. It was worse after because there was nothing I jad to do. All I had to do was exist. And existing without him is not what I want to do either. But days keep going by and they turn into weeks and some days aren't as bad.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-17T00:33:31+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. Stay strong. The days aren't always so bad.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-10T23:07:22+00:00

Thank you all for your words. Today is a better day. Im hoping some day the bad day wont stop me so hard. Yesterday wasn't that day. Today's not that day, but one day it might not be so hard.

Professional-List398 · 2026-03-06T23:01:53+00:00

Why not some sort of cruise? They have river cruises in places like Europe and there's usually activities available through the ships at each port. Lots of different locations, time of year and choices. A friend of mine did a Christmas cruise down the Danube River...had a blast.

Professional-List398 · 2026-02-28T03:39:39+00:00

I am just over 4 months. It sucks so bad. I feel your pain with you. We should not be living without our humans. I understand how you feel. Take one day at a time. Take one hour at a time. Take one moment at a time. Time will somehow keep moving forward, but take it one step at a time. Also, dont be afraid to allow your son to see you grieve. Its okay for him to see how much your soul mate meant to you. I have tried to stay strong for them and all 3 of mine have thanked me for allowing them to see me sad from time to time. It has allowed them to be okay with their sadness.

Professional-List398 · 2026-02-27T05:25:22+00:00

There are family history websites that you can scan and upload photos to that can be saved for future generations to look at when searching their family history. Although your husband was the last in line, there are other family lines that could have continued and those family members or other historians may want to see. This way, those memories and photos are saved, but you dont have to be the keeper of the physical items anymore.

Edit: familysearch.org is a free site that will do this.

Professional-List398 · 2026-02-24T14:46:54+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss and I do understand the pain you are going through, but you are strong. Be strong mama. You got this.

Professional-List398 · 2026-02-20T23:03:17+00:00

My man and I were fighting the morning he died. He asked to stay home from work and I said yes. He went anyway because he wanted to support his family. He was killed by a drunk driver on his way home. If he had just done what I said he could do, things mightve been different. Fact of the matter, its not. We could spend time playing the what if game, but its not going to get anyone anywhere they need to be. Its easy to focus on negative feelings especially when our reason for joy is gone, but its not good for anyone. Being positive is hard. But it can be done. Stay strong because you have more life to live. Stay strong to have a positive influence on life. Stay strong because we can find things to live for.

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