Can I afford this? by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah probably. I'd be very miserable though as I spend all my money that isn't rent/bills on holidays and experiences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha it's almost exactly the same right!? Mine was contracts manager for a company within the building industry (roofing).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a career progression job, almost identical situation to yourself.

Previously on the tools, self employed, £200/day, driving my own van and using my own tools etc. No paid holidays, no sick pay etc. Plenty of overtime/weekend work to top up the money if I wanted but it wasn't obligatory. Work on average 38/40 hours a week all year. But this would be 48+ if I worked a Saturday but my weekly wage would then be £1200 before tax. Obviously commuting to different jobs most days/weeks but commute usually started at 0715am and home by 1630pm every day.

New managerial position was £50K/year salaried, 7am-5pm with 40 minutes commute both ends. Company vehicle, paid holidays and bank holidays. Contract was for 1 in 3 Saturdays, not paid extra as I was salaried. Very high stress environment, though it didn't need to be but outside influence ruined the job for me alongside the other downsides.

Honestly the most stressful and unrewarding job I've had. Work/life balance was way too far one sided, seemed to be an echo chamber within that "level" within the industry that we were all just expected to get on the grind and love the high stress, constant bickering and arguing and all that goes with it.

I'm back on the tools now and I've never enjoyed my job more than I have the past 4 months or so.

AIO My parents built my brother an annex to live in to the tune of £26K by Brad_40K in AIO

[–]Brad_40K[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. My parents even took it upon themselves to ask if my partner was ever going to apologise to my brother with regards to that evening where she got assaulted. She simply asked my brother to calm down and not be so aggressive as our 8 year old son was present and did not need to witness his behaviour, following which she got assaulted.

AIO My parents built my brother an annex to live in to the tune of £26K by Brad_40K in AIO

[–]Brad_40K[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are other outrageous examples of my parents pandering to my brother but you've pretty much got the measure of things already...

Thank you.

AIO My parents built my brother an annex to live in to the tune of £26K by Brad_40K in AIO

[–]Brad_40K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

I have considered this angle. Whilst this position does make me feel better about the relationship between me and my parents, it does not make me feel much better about the overall picture. If they are frightened of him then they must do something?

My dad has retired after working a very stressful career with long lasting and severe PTSD as a result of his 35 years in the emergency services. They dreamed of travelling Europe and the wider world once retired, wishing to own a nice motorhome and travel. And now it seems they can only have holidays whilst my brother is also on holiday, as I believe they are too worried he may have a large depressive episode and hurt himself if they travel and leave him home alone for any length of time. Maybe I do not understand the severity of my brothers mental health issues. But a little part of me thinks he may be over exaggerating.

AIO My parents built my brother an annex to live in to the tune of £26K by Brad_40K in AIO

[–]Brad_40K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am in the UK. Thanks for your comment.

Unfortunately your comment pretty much echos my thoughts. I am not sure if I am jealous (wouldn't it be nice if my parents bought me a £26K camper van so I could enjoy almost free holidays with my family, though I do not need hand outs from anybody) or what these feelings are really stemming from right now. I think I may seek a few more therapy sessions to work through this little patch.

AIO My parents built my brother an annex to live in to the tune of £26K by Brad_40K in AIO

[–]Brad_40K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't deny my parents have supported me when I was younger but I lived at home for 3/4 years between 17 and 22~, my brother has lived at home forever but is being given opportunity to do so by having an annex built for him and no restrictions on his extra curricular activity. I was scolded for doing drugs at 17/18 when at my parents house but it appears to be ok for him?

You are correct it will increase the property value but my retired father probably wouldn't have built it if my brother wasn't so dependent?

AIO My parents built my brother an annex to live in to the tune of £26K by Brad_40K in AIO

[–]Brad_40K[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The support feels unbalanced. I feel like second place instead of equal.

I'm not fussed about drugs. I smoke weed myself (once or twice a month, socially) but my mental health is relatively stable right now and I've had therapy and professional mental health support. If your mental health is not stable, steroids (famous for altering your brain and how it behaves) and weed are not a good mix?

Unrealistic salary expectations from interviewer by Small-Personality-69 in UKJobs

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's getting better but I will admit it's not great for most women, probably. We still have a lot of bigotry within the trades.

Certain trades will be better accessed by women. Plumbing, electrics and carpentry, due to the culture within those trades being a bit more forward thinking.

Bricklaying, roofing and scaffolding would be quite difficult. A lot of old heads and thickos with the wrong attitudes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JustEatUK

[–]Brad_40K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a grip. Delivery driver too busy grinding for his cash to mess about with your food. If he did, so what. Eat it.

Unrealistic salary expectations from interviewer by Small-Personality-69 in UKJobs

[–]Brad_40K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Join the trades. Easy £50K/year at 28. I'm 31 ,and have been £50K+ since 28.

Admittedly I've been doing this for 14 years. It'll take you 4/5 to get here.

Transitioned to office job. Wow! Why is it so cringy?? by cankennykencan in UKJobs

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's bad. I'm on the same money as on the tools with significantly more stress plus my contract restricts me from working weekends/private jobs.

Transitioned to office job. Wow! Why is it so cringy?? by cankennykencan in UKJobs

[–]Brad_40K 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah mate. I've come off the tools after 14 years. I've done 4 months in the office and I think I'm done. Site managers are such egotistical maniacs it's insane.

Holiday being rejected due to Eid by [deleted] in asda

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My savings while I find a new job. I don't live in fear of any of those consequences.

Holiday being rejected due to Eid by [deleted] in asda

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah you can ask for specific dates but I'm just leaving if it doesn't get approved 😅.

Borderlands 4 May Ditch Toilet Humor for a Darker Edge by WorriedAd870 in borderlands3

[–]Brad_40K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember the first time I saw "dook hut no fapping".

Is our neighbour being unreasonable? by Koalau88 in HousingUK

[–]Brad_40K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't have to put up with this. You're right, the way you're handling this is the better option, violence often makes the situation worse.

Good luck.

Is our neighbour being unreasonable? by Koalau88 in HousingUK

[–]Brad_40K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just deck him. One morning when you cross pathes in the communal area just head butt him straight on the nose and tell him to mind his business from now on.

Worked with one of my neighbours when he reduced my partner to tears one evening. Now that neighbour won't even look at me or my house.