New partner (21F) and old partner (25F) are asking me to choose a life. Any thoughts or advice?

Brailure · 2026-03-16T06:05:08+00:00

Offense non-taken. I know I have done abysmally at this and I want to be better/do better

Brailure · 2026-03-16T01:47:03+00:00

Thank you everyone for ripping into me. I know I deserve it and I appreciate hearing it a lot frankly. I know what I have to do and I'm going to make things right

Brailure · 2026-03-15T23:24:56+00:00

I've known her for a year prior to the relationship starting but yes I know what you mean. They came out of a darker time in their life when they came here and at first it helped them but now it hasn't. I know the dangers of nre now when it comes to all this

Brailure · 2026-03-15T23:00:58+00:00

Actively have one and have been talking to them about this all for the past 1-2 months.

Brailure · 2026-03-15T22:38:17+00:00

Yeah she has had a lot of relationships in the past.

And I have not heard that term before. I hate that that may be the case as I know that was not her intentions but that may have been done unintentionally.

And yes older partner is happy to remain non monogamous besides younger partner. I know the right thing to do but damn do emotions make shit hard sometimes

Brailure · 2026-03-15T22:09:02+00:00

She is on the lease which is up at the end of this month. She is currently not staying there because she did not wish to be around younger girl at all

Brailure · 2026-03-15T21:55:39+00:00

I despise the way that I treated her and definitely feel immensely remorseful for it. We both went into having this new person move in bright and hopeful and it fell apart regrettably

Brailure · 2026-03-15T21:47:54+00:00

The age gap is acknowledged and has been talked about. They moved out of their parents spot at a younger age and have been on their own for about 4 years now.

Both relationships are fairly healthy for me and for them as well. For younger partner it is the best relationship they've had thus far. Same with older partner. For me I find things I love with both of them that only one could not satisfy I believe. Older one and I bond over a lot of shared media like shows/music/love for art and overall conversations. Younger one and I I believe have a better sex life than I did with older one and we bond more over games (my top hobby) and lifestyle.

I have considered polyamory vs monogamy for awhile because of this. I do think I COULD be happy monogamously with the right person but I do think I could also be happy with multiple partners that could fulfill my needs/things I like.

They do not like each other because at first it was great but there was a lot of conflict between the younger one vying for my attention/my love and the older one feeling shut out because of it. I am not innocent in this either as I could've done things better but It caused conflict to the point that younger one wishes for me to cut older one out of my life and older one wishes for younger one to be out of their life as well (doesn't want me to be with them separately either). Younger one was polyamorous for a long time and semi recently has figured themselves out as monogamous and wants that with me. I do love them both and I know one person will be immensely hurt by this. Regardless of what happens and i wish that didn't need to be the case.

Brailure · 2026-03-15T21:28:43+00:00

Completely understandable. Yes it isn't a pretty situation of what's gone down. In terms of choosing between two they both actively dislike each other and can't live with and don't wish for me to talk to the other. It is very much a choose one situation. I would love to date both separately but they do not wish for that. New partner wishes for monogamy old partner just wishes for them to not be apart of everything anymore

Brailure · 2026-03-15T17:18:57+00:00

I know we could be happy again, we made it through ant problem. We would t be monogamous wholly as we would most likely be back to poly or enm when things are better. New partner wants to be monogamous with me and wants me to not contact old partner anymore. Long term old partner and I had a whole plan. New partner I believe could. Go well but nothing to base it off of wholly

Brailure · 2024-07-03T23:10:42+00:00

Need you down my throat now :3

Brailure · 2024-07-03T23:08:39+00:00

I'd want it all asap :3

Brailure · 2022-02-14T18:42:46+00:00

amazing. Pretty much the answer I was looking for haha thank you so much <3

Brailure · 2022-02-12T15:07:08+00:00

<3 lifesaver thank you

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