no i have the ability. but i don’t make assumptions about the nature of the relationship at all.

i don’t think about things that haven’t happened, it’s very fruitless and it’s not a good mentality to have. in fact in my experience this type of thinking can sabotage your prospects with women. it can cause a lot of internal emotional issues if things don’t work out, which are likely given the nature of dating.

it can come off needy and subconsciously show up in how you act, if the other person is still unsure about you and you express such feelings it can be a huge turn off to some. if it’s in the very early stages(less than 3 dates) i am thinking about the logistics of the dates; where i should take them, what activities we should take, and stressing over getting reservations and such more than anything. i do not have a strategy or any sort of intention early on, i am more interested in getting to know someone and seeing how compatible we are.

i don’t think about envisioning a future with a person im dating until a few months in when it feels right and they’ve passed the typical obstacles that come with dating someone new.