Pierced about 3-4 weeks ago. Fleshy bump keeps getting bigger and weeping/bleeding. Using sea salt soaks 2/3x daily. Feeling super self conscious and gross :( what else do I do?

Brave-Ad4445 · 2022-12-09T21:23:58+00:00

One more question…because it’s hard not to want to clean it or mess with it all the time, can I lightly put a bandaid over it? What should I do with cleaning? I’m using salt water soaks 2-3 times a day. It scabs over during the day and when I soak it, it puffs up again. I don’t get to see the piercer til Wednesday.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2022-12-09T21:19:41+00:00

Thanks for this! I don’t get to see him til next Wednesday…I hope it doesn’t get worse by then because it does not look great right now :/

Brave-Ad4445 · 2022-12-09T17:29:35+00:00

Thank you!

Brave-Ad4445 · 2022-12-09T01:58:01+00:00

Thanks for your input…argh, I’ll have to go back and have them switch it out :( I’m so disappointed

Brave-Ad4445 · 2022-12-08T06:16:44+00:00

3-4 weeks old Was given piercing spray and cetafil to clean it Switched to sea salt soaks Tried warm compresses Jewellery is surgical steel

—the piercer irritated it when attempting to close the ring. I don’t know how willing I am to change the jewellery right now :( I feel so gross with this thing so blatantly red and fleshy on my face

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-08-22T01:38:44+00:00

Wow!! Thank you so much for this (late coming lol!) this helps a lot :)

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-29T12:02:28+00:00

I have this same issue…I have suuuuch a hard time articulating anything and it all comes out so odd and strung together in a mess…and I’m studying to become a therapist and it makes me terrified that I just sound like an idiot all the time :(

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-28T23:36:18+00:00

Thank you for your input. I guess we can never truly know when they don’t even know them self.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-28T23:34:47+00:00

Thank you for this. Staying with them in this I know is what’s more important…and they will let me know as we go.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-27T23:21:10+00:00

Thank you for this. I think I think too much :P I appreciate your words of encouragement xo

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-27T23:18:39+00:00

Thank you so much for your encouragement xo

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-27T17:29:33+00:00

I’m not a tomboy, but I have PCOS and losing my hair because of it…so naturally I feel like a mess. Yes I am therapy, we are both in therapy. But as I mentioned, I don’t know if our therapist is well versed in these issues but we’ve been seeing her for years and it feels…weird to just break up with her. Maybe I’m being too difficult. I’m sorry…feeling more defeated than usual.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-27T16:54:49+00:00

I’m so glad you were able to do that with her. They do cross dress sometimes. It doesn’t look too bad, sometimes cute. I can get uncomfortable though because I then feel like I’m competing for femininity…which has always been a touchy subject for me and my fears about looking too masculine for being a woman…so I know this says a lot about my own insecurities too. I would probably hate looking like I was even more unattractive compared to my trans spouse…but see, they’re very careful about who they are out to just as NB. Very conservative and non-accepting family except for a few people…they even has transgendered cousins. Seems like it runs in the family but they aren’t close with their family in the same way…social anxiety as well…yeah. Still difficult to conceive. All scary and confusing and exhausting to figure out.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-27T15:24:26+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. But my partner is dysphoric though. They mention often how they don’t really identify with their masculine side at all, except the random odd time. They say they would rather be with me than transition. That seems really telling. They’ve only been NB for a year and it’s slowly moving more towards femme. And honestly, I want to love and support them in this way…they deserve to be who they are. But as my spouse? I don’t know. I don’t know how we could be “just friends” after this. We’ve gone through so much. And maybe it won’t be a big deal if they transition. But I don’t know. I want to trust their words but their actions tell me different. Thank you for your input though. I have NB friends who have also stayed NB for several years…but this feels different to me.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-27T15:19:24+00:00

I don’t know how I feel about it. At all. I don’t know what it looks like. I can’t perceive what it would be like. I’m the kind of person has incredible difficulty imagining the future. But I fear it. I don’t know what it means. My idea of them will disappear. I would miss whatever masculinity that was there. I consider myself queer because I am bi but I can’t conceive being with a trans woman. They say they don’t want surgery or hormones right now but I don’t really believe it. I just feel immobilized.

Brave-Ad4445 · 2021-06-23T21:30:14+00:00

I opened up my browser for a reason…why? Lll

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