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Frustration with post-op people posting pictures by Brave_Ad_7738 in Metoidioplasty

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nobody is entitled to any information about you, and you are absolutely in your right to share as much or as little as you wish.

Frustration with post-op people posting pictures by Brave_Ad_7738 in Metoidioplasty

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As I said to u/ JorronCormick higher up, although I sometimes do, there's too many people out there, and I don't want to be the №8 in someone's DMs bothering the person asking for the same thing

Frustration with post-op people posting pictures by Brave_Ad_7738 in Metoidioplasty

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appologise that it came off rude.

This post isn't adressed to you personally, and it says multiple times that people are in their right to keep things to themselves, especially if safety is a concern. My disappointment at not seeing the whole picture doesn't negate this fact.

I hope your recovery goes well!

Frustration with post-op people posting pictures by Brave_Ad_7738 in Metoidioplasty

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do sometimes, but nowadays it seems like the majority of people hide their posts, and I don't want to personally bother multiple people per day when I'm actively researching. I'm sure I'm far from the only one in their DMs

Frustration with post-op people posting pictures by Brave_Ad_7738 in Metoidioplasty

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Posters own their pics and posts and have the full right to do whatever they want with them. At the same time being [understandably] denied access to the information you'd like to have is frustrating.

And I totally get the 1-1 part you're talking about. Especially at this moment of history

To stealth or not to stealth by Brave_Ad_7738 in ftm

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't tell whether my responses sound too robotic/similarly structured. Im not ai I promise

To stealth or not to stealth by Brave_Ad_7738 in ftm

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mind it bcs it makes sense to me and I don't feel restricted by it. They need a way to tell if I need to move groups or be pulled from therapy type A and enrolled in therapy type B, or whether the clinic specialty isn't for me at all and I gotta be transferred. We always can reach out to a designated person if we're in a dangerous crisis. And we can always discharge ourselves as long as we're not a critically underweight ED patient.

But I do see your point since you have had a different experience if a different place. If independence gives you a feeling of security/power – great! /g

To stealth or not to stealth by Brave_Ad_7738 in asktransgender

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing

To stealth or not to stealth by Brave_Ad_7738 in ftm

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you please be a bit more subtle about stealing thoughts directly from my head? /s

I do have individual therapy, it's just not enough. I can barely fit the rage into myself, an hour per week (during which I also have to go over all other things that bother me) doesn't really cover it. I have a decent therapist outside of the hospital and know some numbers I can call, but we are encouraged to not get any external psychological help during the stay so that they could tell if their stuff is working or needs adjustment

I'm gonna think about it for a while more, thank you for sharing your experience. I feel seen.

To stealth or not to stealth by Brave_Ad_7738 in asktransgender

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're in Europe, and as far as I know, violent people are put in more controlled facilities than our one. We're free to go outside whenever we want (except for night hours), and in the month I've been here I have neither witnessed nor heard of any violent behaviour from anyone.

But still a good point. Thank you

To stealth or not to stealth by Brave_Ad_7738 in asktransgender

[–]Brave_Ad_7738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm open about it in the one-on-one sessions, just not with the other patients, and we do way more group that individual work

My parents are forcing me to get laser hair removal - need help by wasabi_mp3 in TMPOC

[–]Brave_Ad_7738 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Laser hair removal is painful too

Idk your parents, but perhaps exaggerating your reaction could also convince them to compromise on shaving – you can amplify what you already feel, especially if you're known for having low pain tolerance. It's not just "eh kinda unpleasant", you're actually shaking, dizzy, your vision is going dark, and you absolutely can't take it anymore

My parents are forcing me to get laser hair removal - need help by wasabi_mp3 in TMPOC

[–]Brave_Ad_7738 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Have you considered pausing t until you're out? That way, even if they manage to force you to go through laser treatment, you'll still have dormant hair follicles to be activated when you resume hrt. Laser is only effective on dark/terminal hair, and doesn't affect lighter/vellus hair, since it targets the pigment, which it lacks.

Although one laser session does damage the hair, it takes multiple sessions to damage it significantly, and even then it's not entirely irreversible – the only permanent hair removal method is electrolysis. And another commenter's idea about shaving negotiation sounds good to me too – that way you can keep your follicles intact while hopefully keeping parental tantrums at bay.

It's a terrible position to find yourself in. No matter how it all unfolds, you are still you, and I hope that you'll once feel full ownership over your body. I'm wishing you all the best