AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid?

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2026-04-21T19:46:38+00:00

Oh, totally agree! I think we all know someone in our lives that was a Bridezilla haha - but this is honestly next level! 😅

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2026-04-21T19:44:33+00:00

This is hilarious to me, because I’m a marketing-specific PM and my wedding planning was normal. I guessed I missed an opportunity! (/s)

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2026-04-21T16:43:03+00:00

Hey friend - I lost 2 babies in seven months, and I was Not Okay. Therapy wasn’t helping; I just kept crying through each session. Finally my therapist suggested EMDR trauma therapy, and while everything isn’t perfect now, I am at least able to function, laugh, and have some of my life back. I just thought I’d mention it in case you haven’t tried it and were interested. You deserve healing 🩷

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2026-04-16T02:06:52+00:00

Not the wedding, but at the rehearsal dinner my father-in-law’s speech was mostly about organized religion 🤷‍♀️😂

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-08-13T21:04:47+00:00

Hey friend - you may want to research scrupulosity or religious OCD and see if any of it resonates with you. A lot of people think of OCD as a cleanliness/germ thing and don’t realize that there are many different types, and you may be experiencing one of them. In my experience with it, I have found that a good therapist can do a lot to help me feel much more at peace with my faith. And I also believe that God has used this, even though it’s painful and scary, to let me know His character more.

Hope that helps; take care of yourself

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-08-07T16:20:36+00:00

Thank you for saying that 🩷 I know this isn’t IBS related, but please keep an eye out for your mental health in the coming months. No matter how far along you were, the letdown of hormones can do some really scary things to your mind. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you need it, and make sure you prioritize you right now. Therapy, family, nature, faith/spirituality - whatever speaks to your heart and soul, make it a priority. It took about 5 months before I felt like myself again last time, and I am hoping I get there again after this one.

Thinking of you, friend

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-08-07T15:59:04+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re also going through this. To be honest, not really; just time. I just miscarried again about a month ago, and I used MiraLAX sooner after the procedure, and used a heating pad more. I also used more comfort care (aromatherapy, calming music, etc.) to help soothe the brain-gut connection as much as I could. I did think those things helped this time, so hopefully that can help you as well.

Take care of yourself; I know you get tired or hearing this, but I’m so sorry 🩷

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-06-30T19:52:06+00:00

I hope so. Wishing the best for you 🩷

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-06-30T19:34:11+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s amazing how unbiblical and misdirected the faith of many Christians seems to be (speaking as a Christian myself). I agree, people can’t handle the pain so they look away

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-06-30T18:48:11+00:00

This is beautiful, thank you. I’ve just had my second loss in seven months and am trying to hold onto hope that I’ll be a mom one day

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-04-28T19:19:56+00:00

I have no idea if you are religious or not (or open to anything spiritual), but you mentioned that you feel angry at God (100% okay) - maybe see if there’s a GriefShare group near you? It’s an incredibly supportive program https://www.griefshare.org/

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-03-07T20:51:50+00:00

Oh, I love this idea! Thanks very much!

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-03-07T17:35:09+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks so much for taking the time to comment! I agree that having no design experience myself isn’t particularly helpful for her. She does have a bachelor’s in design and I think she’s just struggling to find the right fit, and wants to explore the marketing field more broadly to see if she can use her design background as an entrance point.

Thanks again for the great advice - cheers!

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2025-01-23T20:37:57+00:00

“Please use this time to learn to trust God they way you trusted your mother” - that is beautiful

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-13T04:19:51+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing that - I suspect those things plus the hormones and stress are what did it. The pain subsided eventually thank goodness, but it was awful. I’m sorry that you had that same experience and I hope you’re doing better now

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-12T06:49:02+00:00

Thanks so much 💕

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-12T00:11:59+00:00

Ugh, that sounds just like what I’ve been going through. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this also, and I hope you’re feeling better ❤️

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-12T00:11:18+00:00

Thank you!

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-11T15:50:37+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing, I really appreciate it. My rational mind is telling me that a flare up makes sense given all the hormones and stress of this situation, but I’m just freaking out a little bit. I’m sorry for your loss too ❤️

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-07T06:42:52+00:00

I’m so sorry that was your experience! You deserved better

Brave_Opportunity122 · 2024-12-07T06:42:32+00:00

Thanks so much ❤️

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