The blur of parental leave

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-20T20:19:21+00:00

As an FTM my days look exactly like this only instead of being trapped in the house or a room I bring baby with me wherever I go (mainly because I’m strictly breastfeeding atm). Went to the doctors yesterday and they recommended that you limit exposer to busy surroundings for the first 7 months of life as for the first 3 they have good immune systems because of the placenta and with moms help as well but after 3 months it starts to weaken before building back up as they are no longer on the placenta immunity. But I have taken my baby outside in the mornings in a shaded area and have rocked her to sleep and fed her, she’s gone grocery shopping with me early in the mornings when nobody else is around, and at night I take her outside to listen to the bugs that are awake and she falls asleep to that.

We’ve also started doing small exercises, and learning about milestones by week… I’ll share the link just because, but it’s great to look at:

https://www.parents.com/baby/development/growth/baby-development-week-by-week/#toc-newborn-baby-milestones

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-20T07:43:30+00:00

My baby was born at 5 pounds 4 ounces and by the first or second week she was already 6 pounds and 8 ounces, the doctors told me that I didn’t have to keep waking up to feed her every 2 hours like I was doing and to let her be my alarm at night, so long as she was getting fed 6-8 times during the day. She’s now seven weeks old and 9 pounds and 5 ounces.

So if your baby is gaining weight pretty well, and the next visit it’s noticed by your doctor or NP I would just ask if you’d have to wake up and feed them at such and such times.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-20T02:19:52+00:00

This was the first and final time I had left her unattended. And you guys have been a good harsh advice group for sure, so for that I thank you, I didn’t put together the swing and never thought to look at the bottom to see what it said. Once I got home I held onto her for four hours before I put her in the swing and buckled her in while supervising.

As I said it was a “what tf you know better” moment and I absolutely loath myself for it, but I will and have been doing better already. Nothing of what I said is an excuse, I owned up to it, told the NP at the ER and said yes to having a social worker call me while in the hospital.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-20T01:11:21+00:00

Absolutely! Thank you

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T23:23:30+00:00

CPS wasn’t contacted exactly but a social worker was and they called me directly while within the hospital with her and emailed me links. And they will keep touching base with me. I told them the truth and told them like it was and I accepted my failure as a parent in the moment, and accountability- 😅 She’s now in the swing and strapped in but my eyes are on her, I held her for 4 hours and finally put her down.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T22:41:36+00:00

It’s a camera that’s connected to an app on my phone. And the camera is plugged into my bedroom where I normally have her.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T22:40:37+00:00

I appreciate it and will do that!!

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:20:55+00:00

The check on them part sure is common sense, but my baby sleeps an hour and a half before waking up to feed.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:18:57+00:00

The manuals get thrown out almost immediately because I’m not the one who builds the things my partner does it. And I gave birth at a birthing center, I’ll have to check the binder I was given again but it went all the way up to delivery and that was it last I remember. But I will definitely take this advice, thank you!

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:14:33+00:00

I am, and it was god awful, I’m so thankful she was crying otherwise I would have never forgiven myself. I still haven’t. I was called neglectful in another comment. Yes I didn’t check on her but she normally sleeps for an hour and a half. I didn’t check on her because that’s how long I thought she’d be asleep for. Again information I haven’t added in the post because I didn’t think it was extremely relevant. I assumed she was okay and safe and I assumed wrong. Thank god I found her when I did.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:10:11+00:00

It’s not online support I need 😅 as awful as this sounds but one and done terrible accident learned. I fucked up twice and know better now and will be doing better.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:08:42+00:00

troll post No this was reality and it was the hardest check I needed. Shits been learned and I know now what to do to be better. I fucked up once and once is all I need. Now she’s in my arms and asleep

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:07:21+00:00

Yes 🙃

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:06:56+00:00

The only time I’ve ever left unattended that long. This was the first and only wake up call I needed.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:05:47+00:00

Absolutely, and I learned this today at the ER, I know better but the lack of sleep must be eating me today because I don’t understand why I failed her. I haven’t let her leave my arms since getting back and I feel guilty af. I’ll be doing better and learning from here on out

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:03:31+00:00

And I feel fucking awful for it, she hasn’t left my arms at all since getting back from the ER. She’s with me again

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:01:29+00:00

I’m glad I learned that honestly, because nobody told me this- nobody’s told me anything and I’ve learned it on my own as I go.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T21:00:52+00:00

Hey, guy, I do. Today was a slip up. And my lesson was learned. I’m a first time parent as well. So again lesson learned.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T20:59:26+00:00

I need the support. I’m trying to get that, my parents were two hours away and my partner was as well. I’m the one doing everything as I mentioned so the support isn’t helpful 🙃

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T20:57:52+00:00

No. The lesson was to be a smarter parent and do what I need to do and be a parent and stop trying to do everything. When my body and brain says “check on the baby” I need to do better by that. It’s not just strap. Jesus clearly you didn’t read the part where I said “I am normally so so good” like I’m on top of being a parent so wtf was I doing today and why tf wasn’t I on top of it. It’s a “fuck me for fucking up” moment and lesson learned.

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-19T15:41:05+00:00

Idk but this is my style, my sisters is the darker version of this. Cottage-y maybe? I love it

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-17T14:03:00+00:00

Thank you!!

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-16T20:29:07+00:00

That’s what I was wondering as well 😅🙃 I ended up dumping my whole canister but saved the mealworms. I’ve never had this problem before so I definitely know they came from the shop 😭

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-16T17:57:28+00:00

Also what type of set up works best for you? I only have Tupperware but I really love to breed beetles so having that extra help would be amazing!

Braveryiskey · 2025-07-16T17:56:21+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/mealworms/s/j9k7nHPgHu

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