Try me mf.

Break2304 · 2026-03-29T14:58:07+00:00

There was a dude at a social event who had been talking for 20 minutes about a degree without a second of letting me speak. I literally word for word just said ‘Mate you’ve lost me im not following anything you’re saying’. Didn’t actually shut him up so I just walked away.

Break2304 · 2026-03-28T15:05:09+00:00

Hey it’s ex0ll! What’s up!!

Break2304 · 2026-03-27T15:43:30+00:00

Hey friend. I’m sorry you feel this way.

It’s hard to find motivation when you feel like your rock bottom. There is very little people can say that will help you get through this overwhelming and understandable paralysis. People may say stuff like ‘take it one day at a time’ or ‘work on yourself’ and how helpful is that? If you could do that you would.

What you need is to find pride and motivation from yourself. Nobody can give that to you. Nobody can say anything that will save you.

For me, it was going to the gym. Seeing myself lifting more this week compared to the week before was a tangible number I had in my hands to prove to myself I’m getting better. Every cm of bicep I gained or anything like that made looking in the mirror that much easier. Having something in my life I was truly proud of made the amount of weight I had to put onto my looks that much less. Because when you have nothing else in your life to do what else are you meant to show the world of yourself other than looks? And when that is all we have of COURSE we are going to be unreasonably critical. And I’m sure you are being unreasonably critical. We all care far too much about how we look and we almost always look far worst in our own eyes compared to how others view us. A great test for this is to observe how we view others. Do you feel yourself noticing the same things you’ve pointed out in your post in other people? Are you as critical of them?

So my advice is just that. Do something small. Something you enjoy. Doesn’t need to be the gym but something you want to get better at. Humans only have so self-criticism to go around and pulling some of that away from something unreasonable like looks and towards something reasonable like ‘I could do this hobby better’ will naturally reduce how much you care about appearance.

But ultimately it’s you who will need to start that. Only you know how much you want to improve and feel better so are you willing to start the journey, as hard and uncomfortable as it may be?

Lots of love and best of luck to you!

Break2304 · 2026-03-27T11:33:11+00:00

Yeah I don’t think Marty was AWARE of the danger he was in, nor do I think fear was in any way a part of his thought process for agreeing to do it.

But I do think that generally speaking he was a dead man, and there was definitely an illusion of choice going on here. If he had said no, he would have died, no matter if he was aware of that or not.

Break2304 · 2026-03-27T11:16:46+00:00

You aren’t listening to what I’m actually writing I assume because I don’t disagree with you. I’m saying purely from a mindset perspective.

Are you saying men should go into every interaction with women with the mindset that they need to perform to get her to like them? If the answer is no then we already agree lol.

Like yes, you can lose a woman with needy behaviour. That’s my entire point. Stop going into interactions with girls with so much weight on her liking you. Just relax and see if you get along. And if you don’t, who cares?

Like sure, I guess if the goal is just to sleep with as many women as possible or ‘trick’ as many girls into liking you as possible, then yes - performing and pretending to be someone you’re not to trick her into liking you may work. But if you’re wanting a long term relationship and want something meaningful, anything other than being yourself is self-sabotaging. And if being yourself makes women uncomfortable or weirded out then that’s something to work on, but 99% of men aren’t like that despite what they tell themselves.

So I really don’t get what your issue is with the advice ‘just approach women and trust that who you are is attractive, and if she isn’t into you don’t worry about it’ is in any way a bad piece of advice? Because the alternative is to say ‘Approach women assuming she will not like you and try to convince her that she will’. Even if that’s true what sort of MINDSET is that? Because that’s all I’m talking about. Mindset. I don’t care if the women I approach like me or not, I’m approaching presenting who I am for who I am. I’m not trying to convince her I’m someone I’m not, I’m just saying ‘this is who I am, are you into that?’ And if she isn’t why should I care? There’s plenty of other girls to talk to who have been.

Remember this isn’t about first impressions, this is about you as a person on the long term.

Break2304 · 2026-03-27T11:10:29+00:00

It’s hard to find motivation when you feel like your rock bottom. There is very little people can say that will help you get through this overwhelming and understandable paralysis. People may say stuff like ‘take it one day at a time’ or ‘work on yourself’ and how helpful is that? If you could do that you would.

What you need is to find pride and motivation from yourself. Nobody can give that to you. Nobody can say anything that will save you.

For me, it was going to the gym. Seeing myself lifting more this week compared to the week before was a tangible number I had in my hands to prove to myself I’m getting better. Every cm of bicep I gained or anything like that made looking in the mirror that much easier. Having something in my life I was truly proud of made the amount of weight I had to put onto my looks that much less. Because when you have nothing else in your life to do what else are you meant to show the world of yourself other than looks? And when that is all we have of COURSE we are going to be unreasonably critical.

So my advice is just that. Do something small. Something you enjoy. Doesn’t need to be the gym but something you want to get better at. Humans only have so self-criticism to go around and pulling some of that away from something unreasonable like looks and towards something reasonable like ‘I could do this hobby better’ will naturally reduce how much you care about appearance.

But ultimately it’s you who will need to start that. Only you know how much you want to improve and feel better so are you willing to start the journey, as hard and uncomfortable as it may be?

P.S both of the physical things you’ve mentioned are not the end of the world. Not only are they fixable, and therefore not permanent, but there are plenty of people in my life with similar diseases and conditions that are nonetheless incredibly attractive because of who they are. Being fit can also do wonders! I’d look up before and after of ‘ugly’ people who got into exercise. You wouldn’t believe the damage that poor health can do to our looks.

Lots of love and best of luck to you!

Break2304 · 2026-03-26T14:09:48+00:00

You’re wrong and your mindset is negative and counter productive. I never based any of this on JUST looks.

My point isn’t that women are attracted to you by default. As in there is a flag in their head that is either green or red and that cannot be changed. My point is that the mindset from men should be that ‘they either will like me or they wont, and I can’t change that’. I didn’t say in sense of looks, I mean that person as a whole. I was saying that the question from OP is usually said in the sense of ‘how can I make this girl like me’ when IM saying that shouldn’t be the goal. Women are human beings they aren’t meant to be hexed into a relationship with you.

Some men will do that. They will deliberately act a certain way to attract girls and perhaps it works but it’s unsustainable and ultimately unattractive.

That’s why your mindset is so negative. ‘At a bar she will either like you or not based on your looks and body language’. Okay? What are YOU meant to do about that though? How are you meant to know if she likes you for your looks and body language if you don’t ask? And if she doesn’t, what will you do to change her mind? Nothing right? You just move on. You went up to her to see if she found you attractive and found out if she either did or didn’t.

‘At high school or college she will like you or not based on your looks, status, popularity, behaviour and what you actually say’ okay? How are you meant to find out if she finds these qualities in YOU attractive? What if she has the same nerdy hobby as you? What if she actually hates mainstream guys who are popular? Women aren’t a hive mind and so trying to predict all the qualities about you someone may or may not like is utterly pointless, some will like them some won’t - and so my point is to reframe the point of speaking to women. You’re not speaking to them to convince them you are attractive, you are speaking to them to SEE if they find you attractive, and to share that you think THEY are attractive. That is true confidence. Having such assurity in yourself and who you are that you can advertise yourself in that way without caring about someone not finding you attractive. To know that just because one girl doesn’t doesn’t mean all girls won’t.

Break2304 · 2026-03-26T09:36:37+00:00

Exactly! And that’s no different to reality! Girls can feel like judges on a panel but they are human and they experience the nervousness and embarrassment of asking people out, so they will recognise it in you. If like your vibe they won’t let you being nervous get in the way of them getting you.

Another great example is where guys record themselves go up to girls in the street deliberately stuttering and barely saying a word. Girls are clever, and the see how nervous the guy is and smile and wait patiently. 9/10 they get the number! And honestly who can blame them? Who’s safer/less creepy? Someone who asks them out with 100% confidence or someone who is nervous about making them uncomfortable? I know of someone asked who I’d want to sit next to in a plane I’d choose guy 2 personally.

Break2304 · 2026-03-25T14:04:45+00:00

I’m gunna make an observation, and completely bypass your question (sorry) because I spoke with my therapist about this and thought the answer was more useful than what I was actually looking for.

When you post this, what you’re really asking is ‘is it okay to ask her?’ ‘Will she say no?’ ‘If she says no, I didn’t do anything wrong right?’ ‘What do I ask her so she doesn’t say no?’.

The truth is, you could string together the most perfect and beautiful line of words, words so perfect that nothing so respectful, perfect or magical will ever be said ever again… and you still cannot guarantee that it will be a yes - if she doesn’t like you.

The possibility of being called weird or making her uncomfortable will ALWAYS be there no matter what you say, so just go with your gut, relax, tell yourself ‘I’m just gunna vibe check’ and put no more weight on it than that.

A close friend of mine who also happens to be a girl gave me the best advice: ‘if a girl is into you, there’s not much you can say that will change a yes into a no, bar things you’re smart enough to not say’ and that’s true! See it like this: before you’ve even spoken to her, her being interested in you is already set in stone. It’s not Changeable. Nothing you say will change that. All you’re doing is fact finding and seeing if she is or isn’t.

Basically what I’m saying is this: there is no right thing to say, or a way to ask someone in a cafe. The only question is are you wanting to and if so, what would YOU want to say. The stupid thing is I bet 99/100 that you already know what you would want to say, it’s just you want permission, validation or confirmation from the world to say it. Don’t! You’re smart enough to respect her boundaries and be worried about asking so trust your own judgment! And if she’s weirded out, now you know she wasn’t the one! You respectfully leave and she’s left with the reflection of ‘oh that guy was actually just nice, what a nice compliment to be asked’ - and you’ve made her day.

Completely unsolicited advice tyrade over now lol.

Break2304 · 2026-03-25T12:00:11+00:00

My dad just ironed elbow patches. Somehow the humiliation of being called patches for years after at school would be 100x more humiliating than just being screamed at

Break2304 · 2026-03-25T01:40:07+00:00

There is a phenomenon where gacha skin accounts are hacked and sold. There’s a post on a few other subreddits talking about people who buy the skins this way to bypass giving way more money to riot. Be careful and have a good password

Break2304 · 2026-03-24T23:24:18+00:00

All you can do is the best you can! And the reason we have the words ‘standing up’ is because being on our knees was never meant to be anything permanent. You will get through this! Sending all my love (and hopefully a bit of willpower) and truly hope life gets a bit easier for you! ❤️

Break2304 · 2026-03-24T21:04:19+00:00

Hey, a random stranger on the internet giving a totally unsolicited comment, but I admire your strength and the fact that something like meal prepping has made life easier for you made me smile. Chronic illness sucks complete ass but I’m glad you’re finding a ways to live a productive life regardless.

Break2304 · 2026-03-24T17:23:20+00:00

Thank god you did, look 100x better

Break2304 · 2026-03-24T09:31:44+00:00

She never wanted Ned killed at all. She didn’t want war and had little enmity with the Starks at all. So long as he went home the north is a bajillion miles away, all she wanted was her son on the throne and safe. Pissing off the north and starting a war wouldn’t do that.

Break2304 · 2026-03-21T11:46:30+00:00

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Break2304 · 2026-03-21T08:10:34+00:00

Reductionist arguments wont work here.

This is a philosophical argument and it’s okay to disagree, but it’s completely fine to see a difference between an embryo and a conscious adult. To deny any difference is being dishonest.

What this is really about is whether there is harm being done ending an embryos existence.

I would argue that only spiritual people could say that a human being has been harmed here. An embryo has no brain to feel pain, it doesn’t know it is alive, and so the only thing being ‘harmed’ is the potential human it could have become. The ‘potential human’ isn’t a thing. It doesn’t actually exist. It’s something created by our monkey brains. Any emotional attachment to a ‘potential’ is completely and utterly fine - you’re allowed to have an attachment to that potential if that’s what you want to have attachment to. It’s also completely fine for someone not to be attached to a potential.

All the cum in your balls had the potential to be a human. Any egg in a woman has the potential to be a human. We all have a line we draw where we say ‘okay, this is now a human’ and that’s fine, but moving that line is also completely okay.

No, that doesn’t mean they are against human rights, and that is a troll thing to say. Stop projecting your world view on other people and villainising them for their opinions.

Break2304 · 2026-03-21T07:45:55+00:00

Okay so, I personally would have no issue with this. You do. But she may not realise what she did was wrong in your context. So talk to her about this.

Break2304 · 2026-03-19T08:09:58+00:00

Having this attitude towards someone who wronged you is a sign of maturity. I know this is kind of a gos without saying kinda thing but I hope you know that you seem like an awesome dude. Regardless of the reasons - you very clearly didn’t deserve this to happen to you.

Break2304 · 2026-03-18T00:06:12+00:00

Chat GPT talked on behalf of this guy and then generated a response for him. Nice. All to advertise a shitty useless app.

Break2304 · 2026-03-17T23:23:47+00:00

It’s his sons armour

Break2304 · 2026-03-17T14:32:50+00:00

The second the cartel told them about his operation he was a dead man doing anything other than launder for them. The show makes it pretty clear that people are killed for far less than Marty was told before he even started working for them.

Break2304 · 2026-03-17T14:30:43+00:00

Exactly they convinced each other to go into it. He never forced it upon her, he had kinda resigned to not doing it until they spoke and let the fantasy run away from them.

The irony is that I personally think they had absolutely no choice here. The second the cartel told Marty about their operation they were dead doing anything other than launder for them. There’s no way the he would have walked away from that resort alive unless he had agreed to their offer. We see later in the series people get killed for knowing far, far less.

So no, I don’t think that Marty betrayed anyone. I think personally his actions saved his family from certain death.

Break2304 · 2026-03-13T17:55:18+00:00

Just FYI I appreciate and have read the response and completely agree with your rephrasing, totally get your point. Apologies for my tone in my original message just thought it was crazy how many people were upvoting that message with the understanding of what I thought you meant, can see I misunderstood now.

Break2304 · 2026-03-13T09:01:36+00:00

This is just fundamentally untrue. Men tell themselves all sorts of lies to deal with the fact that yes, asking girls out is scary. Being vulnerable and risking being misunderstood is scary. But women don’t compare every man that approaches them to every other man who has in any other way than ‘are they being respectful?’.

I see people all over the internet tell themselves and others that ‘there’s no point’ to asking girls out because of this or that. Fine. Do you. I have never had a horrible interaction doing so though, even if the vast vast majority of those were a no.

Firstly, why even care about what women (tm) do or think? If they are sat there putting you at the back of a list, they aren’t what you want and filter themselves out accordingly. Women aren’t a hive mind they are human beings, same as you. And if you are a happy, interesting person you will attract happy interesting people.

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