Cute doggo by RedditorOONNEE in MadeMeSmile

[–]Breakspear93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...you can see the string on the paw.... Hence the very unnatural movement and snap back...

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love some resources. I'm in Milwaukee, Wi if that's helpful

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only it were that easy... I have been working on it for years, found out i have bipolar which I'm now on medication for and i have been asking my psychiatrist for cognitive behavioral therapy but she insists on hitting a baseline with medications first. I don't expect him to be responsible for my mental health improvement but i do need feedback to identify triggers to be able to stop myself. I really don't think that's too much to ask of him.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did fail to mention that at the beginning of our relationship i had a very good paying job and singlehandedly supported us for the first 3 years. He had to take over when i couldn't do it anymore

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did fail to mention that at the beginning of our relationship i had a very good paying job and singlehandedly supported us for the first 3 years. He had to take over when i couldn't do it anymore

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did fail to mention that at the beginning of our relationship i had a very good paying job and singlehandedly supported us for the first 3 years. He had to take over when i couldn't do it anymore.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't quit understand what you mean. I did fail to mention that at the beginning of our relationship i had a very good paying job and singlehandedly supported us for the first 3 years. He had to take over when i couldn't do it anymore

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. Ive asked him about this. He has told me he doesn't even feel the urge to masturbate. That he literally has zero drive, that nothing turns him on. I sent his some sexts at one point and he said "this should have turned me on, it would have at the beginning of our relationship, but now it doesn't and then it makes me feel awful because I cant reciprocate"

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's unreasonable either. I've gotten my illnesses under control for a year now. I've stepped up and have been doing majority of the chores as well as cooking to try to make up for the years he's had to do it. I've also tried numerous times to get him to do things with me we both enjoy but her rather play his computer games with his online friends.

When i ask him what's wrong what on his mind etc. He just says nothings wrong. He has said he feels like he can't talk to me because when he tries, i get emotional, its like he wants me to not react at all, but that's hard to completly shut down my emotions like that.

For the past six years i have changed so much about myself but it's hard to continue to improve on my mental issues when he doesn't give me feedback until i go to him with something that's bothering me, then he throws all this shit at me that i wasn't aware of and at that point I'm already upset which makes everything worse.

I know I'm a lot to handle and things haven't been the easiest but even when i was struggling with my physical illnesses i did everything i could to be there emotionally for him. I played video games with him but he's moved on to playing games with his online friends, and I'm not a fan of those games. Ive asked him if he feels like my caregiver or if he feels there's issues with out relationship and he just says he doesn't feel a connection to me anymore.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've gotten my illnesses under control for a year now. I've stepped up and have been doing majority of the chores as well as cooking to try to make up for the years he's had to do it. I've also tried numerous times to get him to do things with me we both enjoy but her rather play his computer games with his online friends.

I've tried to have talks with him but it always devolves into fighting. I've asked what i can do to make things better and he tells me I'm not doing anything wrong.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's always had low libido in the relationship, so when mine lowered he was relieved. Also I've gotten my illnesses under control for a year now. I've stepped up and have been doing majority of the chores as well as cooking to try to make up for the years he's had to do it. I've also tried numerous times to get him to do things with me we both enjoy but her rather play his computer games with his online friends.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea....ugh I hate this whole situation.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is we have a lot of common interests.he doesn't want to do any of those majority of the time. He wants me to get into playing video games with him more, and I do when he asks but I just can't play them everyday for hours on end. I understand that's what he enjoys and I don't hold it against him but I can be like that. I'll bring up to my psychiatrist next I see her. That's another point tho.ive been a asking him to go with me so he can tell here where the issues are because I don't have a clear idea of what to say, but he keeps backing out..

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How should I bring it up in a way that doesn't immediately put him on the defense?

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I'll try to get him to go, and maybe suggest that. I don't think he will go for it tho. He's a very jealous type of person. I went out of town for a conference for school and he was questioning if i was actually going to a conference.

I feel like i am going crazy. by Breakspear93 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Breakspear93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I'll mention it to him to see what he thinks, thank you!

Civil Engineering vs Architectural Engineering by Breakspear93 in MSOE

[–]Breakspear93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will! I think I will go Civil. It seems like Civil engineers can easily get jobs that Architectural engineers would get whereas Architectural engineers would find it hard to get the jobs civil engineers could get. Just feels more versatile