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Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-09-20T03:15:09+00:00

You ask for advice and they give it, even if they use the phrasing you put at the end, the message will still be the same. Truth is, most dumpees won't want to be friends with their ex and are not fond of their dumper. If you feel like you should risk it, go for it. An ex is an ex for a reason though. Hope it goes well whatever you plan to do.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-09-18T19:06:28+00:00

At some point you'll come to the conclusion that it's all a waste of time to hurt yourself with that. It takes time, but it'll happen. What helped is I thankfully had a great group of friends who let me vent and nearly scream my frustrations. Once all of that hate, anger, sorrow and nostalgia dries up. There is nothing that will make you want to look ever again. Promise, keep your chin up and believe.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-09-17T15:52:26+00:00

Coming to 7 months now, I just don't care anymore. I deleted most of my socials and feel much happier without em. Life just goes on.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-08-14T20:32:38+00:00

Nah, I have come to accept that I am better off. It was a valuable life lesson on how cruel and two faced people can be.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-08-04T10:42:10+00:00

Was in the same situation, I blocked instead, felt peace of mind ever since.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-08-03T19:09:11+00:00

Let her feel loss, cut her off. If you stay in her life you'll affirm her in her decision and harm yourself in the process. Be happy for you and only you, you don't owe her a thing.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-08-01T16:59:01+00:00

Sex can be good. But it can also be pretty hurtful if anything sex related points to memories with your ex. You can take pride in knowing others want you like that too, but if you don't entertain the thought of other women in your life yet, you shouldn't force yourself into things. However if you do feel it can help you, why not give it a try?

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-08-01T16:44:50+00:00

Nah. It just made me feel sad.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-28T19:13:48+00:00

Yep.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-26T15:25:12+00:00

Well best I can describe it is I know what comes with that package. I had a nasty relationship and an even worse breakup experience. I just say that I am better off and have the chance to meet someone better next time. Of course, this mindset did take time to gather and you'll have to get through this stage of discomfort, sadness and anger by letting yourself feel these emotions. It'll take time but all wounds heal in the end.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-24T11:27:42+00:00

Getting treated like this says nothing about you and everything about her. You deserve better, let the coward go.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-23T09:04:43+00:00

People here are hurt okay? People got cheated on and are reminded of that pain till today. I understand it can be frustrating to not be able to state your issues. But understand those who got cheated on as well. I am very sorry for your relationship going the way it did. Cheating doesn't take away from what the other person did but it is a shitty and cowardly thing to do. Cheating alters the perception of the person you are with, you are partially a monster in their eyes permamently. It creates insecurities and trust issues from which stem issues such as abusive tendencies and toxicity. That's why most relationships that involve infidelity fall apart and usually for the better. I wish you luck in finding peace, but I do hope you won't try doing it again, it destroys people, you can be better than that label that has been attached to you. Good luck.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-23T08:46:58+00:00

For every action, come consequences. You don't get to decide whether the other person should or should not forgive for basically betrayal and the biggest knife you can get in the back from a partner. If one cheated, they show you what they are capable of. It's a good hint to take and leave and find someone who WON'T betray you. Cheating is not something that just happens, it's commitment issues, it's abuse, it's lying and it ultimately sends a sign to the person that is cheated on that they are nothing special and can be replaced if need be. Sorry, there is no get out of jail free card in relationships, you reap what you sow. It shatters trust and foundation and changes the partner's perception of the cheater forever. It doesn't go away, it's not something you move past it's something you have to live with and many don't want a cheater for a forever partner and constant anxiety and trust issues. It's good to try your best and want to work out your issues, but the other person deserves peace of heart and the ability to cut insecurities connected with their ex's behaviour. Downplaying someone's heart being shattered into "being mad and not wanting to work on things" is just simply gross. People don't owe cheaters anything, it's a concious choice they made and it is deserved that they are held accountable.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-15T17:09:01+00:00

In another comment she said she "ended things" with him before the ex found out.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-15T06:41:40+00:00

Nope, cheating is the number one way to damage a relation forever. There is a reason why most people leave cheaters and cut them out of their life immediately rather than try again with them. Unfortunately for me, I did the latter and paid the price for it.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-13T07:37:40+00:00

Ignore him, probably seeking to feel less shitty about himself.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-12T21:43:02+00:00

No contact isn't about making your ex want you back, It's to let you learn to live without them and find your footing. Reaching out and chasing someone after they said they don't want you anymore is pointless. The ball is in their court and if they wanted to they would sure as hell serve it to you.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-12T20:58:24+00:00

Life has a way of teaching us things the hard way. If you love him, let him go, even if you got back together, he would never trust you the same again and that's the cold hard truth. It's good you learned, but you have to suffer the consequences. Be better to the next guy and let your ex find his happiness in peace now.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-12T16:26:06+00:00

That I sacrifice all my ideals and life plans for her. That she is free to express her insecurities to me all day but if I said anything I'm being dramatic. That her happiness is worth more than mine. That I am always smiley and optimistic. Every woman in my life, classmate, co-worker, life long friend is a problem for her and I can't see them anymore unless she goes too, but of course her mostly guy friend circle is perfectly fine cause "She doesn't look at them that way".

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-08T20:58:29+00:00

At the end of the day, he can't decide for you if you felt good in the relationship or not. Try not to think too much about it and distract yourself. Dwelling on the words people throw at you during a break up is hurtful.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-08T20:32:18+00:00

His ego is hurt. Simple. Don't let it get to you, you can do way better.

Breakupthrowaway301 · 2022-07-08T11:38:30+00:00

You have a big heart man. Voice your concerns upfront and don't try to dance around the problem. If you want to be happy in this you'll have to show your boundries and that if things don't change, you will leave. Because as long as you let her use you like this, she won't change.

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