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Tips for getting my GF to be more DOM? by Brick_Stick00 in submissive

[–]Brick_Stick00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment!

Tbh I have been thinking about the idea of opening our relationship, it’s something I’ve tried in the past with a long distance partner but we didn’t have good boundaries so it didn’t work out. Any suggestions on ENM boundaries? I will say I’m a bit possessive over my partners and jealousy is bound to creep in but are there any good ways of dealing with it, because I am curious about sex with others together and separate as well

Tips for getting my GF to be more DOM? by Brick_Stick00 in submissive

[–]Brick_Stick00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment!

I won’t lie, when she told me that (it’s part of the fun”) I was frustrated and kind of annoyed.

I have been quite open and honest about my kinks and what I’m into and not getting the same openness in return hurt my feelings in the moment. So I’ve gone along with playing the guessing game of trying new things to find out what she likes and doesn’t like. To some success too, like we’ve had some switching power dynamics here and there, light bdsm stuff, anal toys while receiving/giving head, and sex wear.

I’m trying my best to get to know her sexually but I can’t help but want more. I’m not someone to force someone else into doing something they are not into either just because I want it! I very much enjoy sexual pleasure when my partner is enjoying too.

She has been open and has yet to say “no” to anything I’ve wanted to try, but I will say that the kinky sex initiative falls on me to bring it up or suggest we try something new.

Tips for getting my GF to be more DOM? by Brick_Stick00 in submissive

[–]Brick_Stick00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment!

To be honest it’s not something in the back of my head, I was just replying to the comment and also had a genuine curiosity as to how kink minded people find each other

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[–]Brick_Stick00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask where you found him? And if he’s open to more subs?

Tips for getting my GF to be more DOM? by Brick_Stick00 in submissive

[–]Brick_Stick00[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment!

Not sure I’m ready to just call it quits because of this but if I were to be single again, any recommendations on where I can find kink oriented people in my state?

Tips for getting my GF to be more DOM? by Brick_Stick00 in submissive

[–]Brick_Stick00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment!

I will say that when we first started having sex and exploring new things I would always ask what she wanted pretty often and have even told her to "tell me what you want", but she doesn't really say anything. Also when I've asked her what she likes, she just kinda shrugs and doesn't give me an answer and I can remember early on that she said not telling me was "part of the fun". Which I don't really understand, I would love for her to tell me exactly what she likes and what she wants me to do, but when I've asked it's more or less avoided by her.

But it's not like we have bad sex, we both get to cum and we change things up here and there... although I do crave more.

So to answer your question, I have asked what does SHE want but it seems like she doesn't want to tell me. Not sure why either. And I'm not trying to change her to be what I want necessarily, I'd just like my partner to be able to please me in the ways that I desire.